Types Of Control in #BDSM

Since the different varieties of BDSM overlap, a mutually exclusive and exhaustive classification system is not very useful. Instead an overview of different types of control allows you to express your wants and needs (and meh’s and do-not-want’s) more clearly with your partner.

Physical Control. 

Bondage is the most obvious form of physical control because it restrains the bottom, thus limiting their physical freedom. Of course, physical control is not only about restraining limbs. It can involve confinement, such as keeping someone prisoner in a dungeon or locking a person on a human-size birdcage. It can involve physically overpowering someone without restraints and instead pinning them down with your forearms or using your body weight to keep them off balance. It may involve having a third person stand guard at the doorway in case the bottom flees.

The essence of physical control is that the bottom is not necessarily playing along with the scenario. He or she can resist. The bottom may struggle against restraints, or try to flee the cage, or fight back in a simulated abduction all as part of the escapist arousal process that lends to the sensation of being overpowered by a stronger force—but not necessarily outsmarted by a superior intellect.

Processing Pain in Play: What Can Interrupt or Block Pain Processing?

 By lunaKM Submissive Guide 

What do you think can interrupt your pain processing ability? If you’ve experienced anything like I have, there are moments where you just can’t change the pain response to anything beyond pain. What normally feels really good is just not. There are a number of things that can block your ability to translate the pain using techniques talked about earlier.

Let’s think about the things that we need to actively process pain and make play enjoyable for both parties. You need focus, trust, little to no distraction, appropriate mood, and a healthy and rested body. Any of these things can fall out of balance and then you may have issues processing pain.

Mood

Mood is separated in two parts. Your emotional state and the environmental mood set up by the scene.

Adventures in Depression Part 2

http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/depression-part-two.html

I remember being endlessly entertained by the adventures of my toys. Some days they died repeated, violent deaths, other days they traveled to space or discussed my swim lessons and how I absolutely should be allowed in the deep end of the pool, especially since I was such a talented doggy-paddler.

I didn't understand why it was fun for me, it just was.

Adventures in Depression

Recently, as I was casually surfing the widest web, I came across a blog which caught my attention. The blog had nothing to do with BDSM, or fetish or any of my usual reads, in fact, it was a blog which hit a soft, delicate part of myself - and will anyone who has ever suffered from depression or is currently suffering from depression. Or as I put it - lives with the disease on a daily basis and will do so forever, because it is who we are.

I would like to thank the author... Allie... You have summed it up perfectly.

There are two parts to this topic, the first you will find below and the second will be posted soon.

Here is the actual address of Hyperbole and a half

Some people have a legitimate reason to feel depressed, but not me. I just woke up one day feeling sad and helpless for absolutely no reason.

Alan Groont! We don't want fake #submissives like you!!

Yet again, another story of a submissive who entered into a BDSM relationship with a Mistress and still doesn't realise he is a worthless little pig.. A silly dog who thinks BDSM IS all about 'topping from the bottom'. I call this FAKERY and it should have a punishment all of it's own. Here is what he said:

"There are plenty of real dominants out there who know how to do things the right way, the way I like them.”

THE WAY you LIKE IT??? Read the article here, and if anyone knows his twitter.....

There are several stupid types of submissive, read them here on My blog.

Submissive Alan Groont, 53, says he was shocked and alarmed when his relationship with Mistress Mandy Martin, 28, took a “violent and dramatic turn” after he was caught masturbating in the shower.

A list of roles within BDSM from #FetLife

Discovered this list of general roles within BDSM on Fetlife today - Worth a look.

Dominant: A person who seeks to exercise power, authority, or control; usually over a submissive in a D/s dynamic.

Domme: A person who seeks to exercise power, authority, or control; usually female or feminine-presenting and usually over a submissive in a D/s dynamic.

Switch: A person who enjoys participating in either side of a sexual/kink dynamic depending on mood, partner, or situation.

submissive: A person who seeks to submit or give up control; usually to a Dominant or Domme in a D/s dynamic.

Master: A person who seeks to exercise power, authority, or control; usually over a slave in an M/s dynamic.

Mistress: A person who exercises control as an owner or dominant over someone else; usually female or feminine-presenting and usually over a slave in an M/s dynamic.

What I did today....The Lady of the manor and her ponyboy

I received an email from Eric today... He wanted to play a game. A role-play game. Eric's character was going to be called 'Alex', a junior stable boy under the employment of Lady Leyla.

Alex has secrets. Alex loves to dress in women's clothing. It is Alex's day off and he has snuck into the woods on the manor houses grounds in his feminine clothes and is enjoying his favorite pass time of playing with his ass. He gets caught by the Lady of the Manor.

Today, I am the Lady of the manor

Reading this little scenario gave me ideas. It wasn't going to be a simple '"Bad boy alex, what are you doing? You will be punished!" Oh no! Alex was really going to get it.