Recently, I have noticed a split between Dom's regarding BDSM scenes,
sessions and Financial Domination. Many Mistresses see Financial domination as
a cheap, gold digger opportunity practiced by young, inexperienced so-called
Mistresses. granted, there does seem to be quite a lot of those about. But,
Financial Domination is no less a fetish or practice than one to one sessions.
There needs to be clarity as to what Financial Domination
actually is. It is not just about getting money for nothing. True Financial
domination requires skill and planning.
A submissive who wishes to be in the presence of a dominant
female, to serve and be trained has his erotic fantasies, a need to lose
control, be sexually, mentally and / or spiritually humiliated. A submissive
offers him/herself willingly - because they want to. The same applies to a
submissive who has fantasies of financial humiliation. They offer themselves
willingly because they seek a form of fantasy involving money - they seek an
erotic fulfillment by giving up control of some or all of their finances -
something quite dangerous in today's capitalist society.
A submissive who longs for a Mistress to control his money
knows that there is no benefit in the arrangement for themselves and that they
will need to make financial sacrifices to manage their fantasy.
If, and often it is, Financial Domination is coupled with
Blackmail, the submissive feels even more humiliated and out of control as s/he
is forced into making a choice between financial humiliation and an even
greater humiliation where certain details, photos etc might be available for public
viewing. Again, I stress, the submissive is a willing participant - all actions
were entered into by the submissive, knowing they could be used as blackmail.
The question asked by many about submissive who wish for
financial arrangements is; "Why would anyone want to do that?" The
answer is simple - they get off on it.
As I said earlier, financial domination needs planning,
thought and creativity. it's not just a matter of "Submissive X. Pay my
bills. Do It!" It's far more than that. As with BDSM sessions where a
Mistress will train, guide and push her subs limits, so Financial Domination
needs to be the same. With a direct Mistress / Submissive relationship, the
dominant has a chance to gauge the submissive psychology, emotional state, limits
and moments of reflection and so on - a very important factor in a D/S
relationship. The same principles MUST be maintained within a Financial
Domination / Submissive relationship too. A first meeting is essential to gauge the submissive, run through starter limits, budgets and the all important
question - How does the submissive really know this is what s/he really wants,
are they aware of the consequences? How the submissive can stop the 'game' etc.
Meetings do not have to be in person but they do need to
happen. Mistresses who are expert Financial Dominants have been known to
'attend' meetings as their submissive's 'new' PA, or an executive from another
company arranging a meeting with the submissive, using the opportunity to check
on their submissive's finances, set sales
goals for their submissive's to achieve, which would mean more bonuses for the
submissive at work and thus more financial contributions to the Mistress.
Financial Domination - in it's true sense is great fun for
both the Dominant and the submissive, but has to be undertaken with caution -
Blackmail is a big NO NO within the legal sense, therefore a 'contract is essential
- to dismiss any legal mishaps.