READERS

1 May 2014

QUESTION: How has Fifty Shades of Grey been received in the BDSM community?


ANSWERS: feel free to add yours in commentrs



Alice Tsymbarevich, Linguist-turned-artist-turned-mechanic


All forums and comments I've seen about the book could be summed up by "boring vanilla". I find this too judgemental and I am trying to be objective. There is strong side and weak side to the book. The strong side is the Dominant protagonist: he introduces the kink to a vanilla virgin in a moderate, intelligent way, even if hasty, which is understandable because he's mistaken her for a natural sub (big mistake). And the kink and the Dom side are real, I totally empathize with those. The weak side is that the author quickly makes several major slips that totally ruin the Dominant for me. Well into the book he becomes pliable, prone to forget his words, inconsistent, and these are not Dom qualities. And the girl's character is simply disgusting, but it's got nothing to do with BDSM, she's just stupid.

tl;dr - this book can actually introduce a vanilla person to some basic notions about BDSM, but as far as actual D/s relationship go, this is very far from reality.
 
Molly Moore, collared submissive, mum, slut, blogger, lover of life and all that it brings. Owned by @Domsigns Creator of #sinfulsunday


I have not read the book but I have read lots of the media commentary as a result of it and found myself becoming increasingly angry and disenchanted with it all. E.L. James slot on Newsnight last night didn't help either. She needs to get her facts straight if she is going to talk about a lifestyle and community that is REAL and not just a figment of her poorly researched imagination.

If you are interested to read more about this including LOTS of contributions from people living in the lifestyle for real then...


Mollyxxx
 



Jay Tow, MS, Counselor,Life Management and Relationship Coach and counselor, Certified Sexologist. I practice in the Ft. Lauderdale, Florida area ... 
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The comments I have heard are like "50 shades of boring."  People who are into BDSM find it tame but are happy that books like these are becoming mainstream.
 

Anonymous

A friend of mine had a response that I felt was particularly humorous.

"With a great, thundering 'meh'."

(This was also his review of Superman Returns.)

It's just...okay. It's...kind of well written. It's...sort of romantic. It's...maybe arousing, but only if you prefer very tame bdsm.


A lot of bdsm practitioners also have a big problem with the inaccuracies in the book, especially the very weird view it seems to have on consent.

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