In recent weeks on social media,
‘ownership’ seems to be a hot topic to discuss and debate about. In fact, it is
common to see slaves put status like ‘owned by Mistress/Master ABC’, ‘looking
for an owner’, ‘currently unowned’ etc on twitter or Facebook. In addition, I
frequently see Mistresses post on their Facebook pages or blogs about owing
slaves who do not want to serve. In some more severe cases, there have been reports
on owned slaves suddenly blocked their owners and then simply disappeared. These
posts make me to feel that ownership nowadays is just a fashionable term. To be
exact, it is no longer a mutual relation between the dom and sub. So my
question here is, are people still treat ‘ownership’ seriously or it is just a
‘deposable’ item that everyone can choose to start and end the relation at any
time without facing any consequences.
Of course, there is nothing wrong
to seek for an owner or being owned. However, if we step one-step backward and
ask ourselves several questions. Why ownership is important? Is it just a
fashionable word or does it mean something valuable for slaves? Why it is
necessary to be owned or why slaves would like someone to control them? In this
post, I am trying to answer the above questions as a slave’s point of view. As
it is a debatable topic, the following is just my personal thoughts and please
feel free to agree or disagree what I say.
Ownership, in one sense, means a
slave agreed to transfer itself (note: people use it to describe slaves in
ancient times) as an asset to its owner. Wait a minute! this means now the
owner has full control on how to ‘utilise’ his/her ‘property’ and the slave can
only obey and execute all the orders coming from its owner. Doing so means that
the slave will lose its freedom but does not seem like one will gain anything
form this relation. In other words, it seems like for slaves, ownership is a ‘profitless’
business. Then why slaves are still seeking to be owned?
Personally, I think the feeling
of security and an opportunity to play a part in the owner’s daily life are the
two most important things that a slave will gain from this mutual relation. For
a slave, it will feel empty if no one willing to control and train it.
Psychologically, this means we want something (i.e. the satisfaction due to being
owned) but we cannot achieve what we want due to no one willing to do anything
to give us what we want (i.e. not being owned).
As a slave, it is easy to tell
the awful feeling of not being able to serve no one. We (slaves) get
satisfactions after serving our owners. For example, I do all the tasks
assigned by Mistress Leyla promptly, usually within a day or two, to make
Mistress happy. I feel so happy if I managed to finish all the assigned tasks
on time and when Mistress Leyla thanks for my good work (not always so good ☹).
Similarly, I feel sad if I let Mistress Leyla down and make her feels
disappointed. Of course, I get punished by Mistress Leyla but at the same time I
learn how to improve and do better next time. This learning process not just
makes me better but at the same time make me to feel I am playing a role in
Mistress’s life. This warm feeling is something that I gained from this
relation and I think this is a mutual relation which links Mistress Leyla and I
together.
For all slaves, being owned means
that they are now fully committed to serve their owners with no regrets. Similarly,
for all Mistresses/Masters, owning slaves means they are committed to train up
and to make them better. So far, I have just talked about physical ownership.
There are many other types of ownership such as long-distance ownership,
lifestyle ownership, financial ownership etc. Of course, the purpose of
different types of ownership is different but the ultimate principle stays the
same. We serve to appreciate our owners, and we get both physical and
psychological satisfactions through completing tasks assigned by the owners. I
do believe that ‘ownership’ or ‘being owned’ is still playing an important role
in BDSM. I think most slaves are still treating ownership very seriously and most
slaves will feel proud at the point when their owners collared them. At least
for me, I feel so proud when Mistress Leyla collared me and let me to be her
slave. Although I did do something which dissatisfy her at the time when I was
writing this post, I enjoy being owned by Mistress Leyla because I am satisfied
with my identity. I know that I am a slave and serving Mistress is my daily
duty and if I am not performing well, Mistress Leyla will punish me hard
because I know that Mistress Leyla would like me to become a better slave. Like
all other relations, we will get good and bad times but since ownership is a
mutual relation, the successfulness of this relation depends strongly on how
much effort each party would like to commit to keep it running.
To conclude, I think ownership is
a serious mutual relation which is not something that we should take it easy.
Before committing to become an owned slave, one should ask if he/she is serious
enough to play a part in maintaining this relation by serving his/her owner
daily. If the answer is yes, then ownership is the thing one should go for. As
I already mentioned, ownership is a mutual relation. If no one would like to
input nothing, then this relation will not last long and the debate about why
owning a slave or why being owned will just keep carrying on…