Leadership in political parties.

http://itsjustahobby.wordpress.com/2013/02/25/authority-and-politics/

In which Carter muses aloud about the nature of leadership in political parties.  The exposure of the ugly rumours about Charles Rennard is following the typical narrative arc of such a story. First we had the splashy exclusives in the paper that made the scoop.

To counterpose those we had the carefuly worded denial from Rennard’s lawyers. Suddenly, as if the story was no longer about the truth, or Rennard’s guilt or innocence, or, heaven forbid, the victims, we had to focus shift onto Vince Cable’s denial that anyone knew anything, and Nick Clegg’s  careful admission that yes, he knew something five years ago.  More will follow. That’s almost a certainty. Not just about Charles Rennard though.  One of the most noticeable trends in politics is the way in which scandals follow the loss of authority, rather than preceding it.

The MP’s expenses scandal followed a collapse in moral authority throughout the political class, rather than preceding it. However, scandals within a party almost always follow either  a loss of leadership and authority, or a loss of a sense of purpose.  That the Liberal Democrats have been assailed by such a loss of a sense of purpose is probably not as clear now as it will be after the 2015 general election, but the key question is, ‘What are the Liberal Democrats for?’  It seems like an obvious question, but it’s not. In a binary system, in the UK with two major parties, the LibDems provided a way of not voting for either major party, a kind of refuge from the polarities of Labour and Conservative. That unique selling point was of course undermined by the formal coalition agreement of 2010. Not by the act of entering into coalition – that will have seemed like a good thing to many moderates, but the signing of an explicit coalition agreement was a signal of alignment that will have made many moderates dubious about the degree of ideological commitment involved.  Here’s a secret you probably already knew dear reader. Political parties are full of flawed, compromised politicians who are just one headline away from the end of their careers.

Now, Stavvers wrote brilliantly here about how to avoid sex scandals. Since so many politicians eschew that method they’re always on the brink of exposure.  Except…. Except there’s a kind of devil’s pact between the media and the politicians. While a party or politician possesses authority, the press will ignore stories they know about. It’s no different to the way in which Jimmy Saville was able to deploy his fame as a shield against accusations.  

There’s a second devil’s pact though. The media are far closer to politicians than they care to admit. Journalists have their secrets, their fears and their insecurities. Journalists know that, in a world where there’s too little money and too little time to develop stories properly, they’re dependent on the benevolent stream of stories from politicians and their press officers.  Except when authority declines, and they sense that the stream of stories is going to end sooner or later anyway.

Then, suddenly, it becomes open season on a politician or a party. That is the fear for the LibDems now, that for the next two years it becomes open season on them.  There’s an intra party devil’s pact too. Within the party everyone knows that all heroes have feet of clay. Authority is loaned by the party membership and supporters to the leadership, to enable them to deliver on their ambitions and hopes. As soon as the ambitions and hopes diminish, or become unattainable, the loan of authority is recalled, and the party becomes an ungovernable infighting mass.  

For the women members of the LibDems who have told their stories about Charles Rennard, that recall of authority in the face of diminished hopes and abandoned ambitions has begun.

BDSM Forced Feminization - a Guide for Female Dominants and Male Submissives

DEVIANT ART

In the world of female dominance, one of the most prevalent methods of subduing a man is the forced feminization of a strong, decidedly male man. The interesting thing is that this seems to be a prevalent fantasy amongst male submissives. They need this when they are submitting to a female dominant. What does this entail though and what makes it even more effective?

Forced feminization starts with the changing of a male name into a female name like Patrick into Patricia or creating a new name that has nothing in common with the submissive's current name. The male submissive is also referred to as a "little girl", "slut" or "whore". The male genitals are often renamed as well to make them seem female e.g. little patsy or something like that. Sometimes the genitals are bound to hide it and make the male seem even more female. Chastity also plays a large role in making sure that the male forgets that he is the dominant person and that his sexual needs are more important than the woman's needs. He becomes painfully aware that his male genitals now mean nothing as he has become a sissy and something to be used and made fun of by superior women or men. Once again, this is consensual and these men want and need to be treated this way.

 To add to the effect of a sissy, the male is also dressed in high heels, lacy underwear and uniforms universally used by male dominants when they role-play with fem submissives. These would include little girl dresses, cheerleader outfits, French maid uniforms and lingerie only. The idea is to make the male look like a woman. He will be forced to shave and will often be reminded of his place with spankings or canings while dressed this way. Remember that this is not a crossdresser - this man is forced to wear these clothes, even if he would never choose to wear it himself.

 The male sissy will also be expected to perform tasks that are traditionally female like household chores, cooking, serving his Mistress or dominant in every way like bathing her, doing her manicures and pedicures and serving her sexually with her using a strap on. This does not mean that the man is bisexual either. Keep in mind that this form of play is based on humiliation and debasement and since most submissives who need this form of play are male, this type of humiliation works well to keep them under a dominant's control.

 The male sissy will often be as exposed as a female submissive, perhaps more so and will be the subject of conversations on how pathetic he is or how unattractive some part of his body is. Women like to dominate men in this way. Maybe it is because of being treated like this for so long by men and now getting the chance to reverse the roles. Whatever the reason, it is a highly erotic form of domination that gives a lot of pleasure to both the female dominant and the male submissive.

 Forced feminization can however become more permanent though when a man consents to changing his gender and I would consider this edge play. It takes a deeply committed relationship to get to this point. I also think that this process should not be undertaken at all, but then I have stated that my kink is not the same as others' kink and that we all need to respect that. If the male felt trapped in a male body and always identified as a female, then I see no reason why this extreme could not work, but in all other cases I would really think about it about a thousand times before demanding it of a male who does not identify as a woman full time.

COURTESY OF BDSM 101

BDSM in the mainstream and abuse.

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Exam­ples of slave humil­i­a­tion training:

• Act as objects (furniture, ashtray, footstool, art, etc.)
• Address Dom’s as Sir, Ma’am, etc. — I don’t consider this slave training humiliation only good slave behaviour
• After sex, making sub lick off own cum
• Age play
• Anal plugs under clothing — for some slave’s this is effective slave train­ing humiliation for others it is just fun or feels good.
• Ask for drink, food, cigarettes, etc. — this is natural
• Bathroom use control — this is natural
• Blindfolds — by itself I don’t consider it slave training humiliation
• Bondage that exposes body and/or places in odd positions
• Boot worship at odd moments — this can be effective slave training humiliation if used in public
• Caged in private and alone
• Carrying a doll or toy around — can be effective slave train­ing humiliation in public
• Crawl on all 4s
• Cum or urinate into their food — effec­tive humiliation for many
• Curse words (Whore, Slut, Worthless, etc.)
• Dancing/stripped tease
• Displayed in cage
• Eat from a pet dish
• Eat from floor
• Eat without utensils
• Ear­rings that don’t match
• Enema
• Eye contact restrictions
• Feed submissive from hand
• Foot worship
• Forced nudity
• Forced masturbation where MIstress chooses in public places
• Forced shopping for BDSM toys
• Forced slave auction
• Forced to go to bathroom in front of others
• Gaging
• Golden shower
• Inspection of body cavities in private / public
• Ignoring slave
• Handcuffs in public
• Handcuffed to a shopping cart while shopping
• Harem–serving with others
• Having food chosen for him
• Hav­ing cloth­ing cho­sen for him
• Hold ping pong ball or coin against wall with nose
• Hood
• Human Garbage Can
• Immobilization
• Lead on leash
• Leave bathroom door opened
• Leave note with embarrassing instructions
• Made to urinate in front of others
• Maid services
• Make sub wear underwear that you’ve urinated on
• Mask
• Nipple clamps under see thru top
• Orgasm control and/or denial
• Pet roles (act like a dog, cat, etc.)
• Presenting in private and public
• Send shopping with note and hand it to clerk
• Serve others (supervised or unsupervised)
• Shave head
• Shave pubic hair
• Slap face
• slave positions (kneel, stand, etc.)
• Spanking (public)
• Speech restriction
• Stand in corner
• Swallow urine
• Suck dildo in car, so others can see
• Take pictures or videos
• Tattoos (temporary)
• Verbal abuse
• Wear cat collar with bell on ankle in public
• Wear diapers
• Wear Masters cum on your face without wiping
• Wear no bra under see thru top
• Wear no panties under see thru clothes
• Wear collar everywhere
• Wear clothes that are ripped or mismatched.
• Wear a sign around neck or write on body (slut, slave, etc.)
• Undress in front of others
• Use as ashtray

Today’s task is to practice kneeling!

Get down on the floor and rest up on your knees. Try laying your feet flat so that the tops of your feet are on the floor and rest back on your calves. Kneel with your knees together and then with your knees spread apart. 

Practice resting your hands on your thighs, crossing them in front of your chest, or behind your back, or behind your head. How long can you hold each of these different positions. How can you make it look graceful, composed and sensual? Try to hold the following positions for 10 minutes. Do this in front of a mirror if you can.

• Kneel up so that your body is perpendicular to the floor, the most weight will be directly on your knees. Place your knees together and then spread them apart. Try different placements of your hands in this position.

• Kneel down rested on your calves. Rest your feet with the tops on the floor and then bending your toes under for support. Place your knees together and then spread them apart. Try different placements of your hands in this position.

• Kneel to the side. Start by kneeling and then slide you body to the left or right(your preference) to sit on your bottom. Place a hand out for support but keep your legs tucked. Try different placements of your one available hand; the one not supporting your weight.

• Sit cross legged on the floor. First try it with your feet as far under as possible, then move them so that they are more in line with your knees, perhaps even on top of one another.

Which of these, if any felt the most comfortable.

Which ones did you like? 

Write down your favourites on a sheet of paper. 

Turkish actor: ‘Gender reassignment was my choice and now I’m free’

by Joseph Patrick McCormick

25 February 2013, 3:35pm

Rüzgar Erkoçlar said he felt 'free' and that he had been 'born again' through gender reassignment (Image: Twitter)

A Turkish trans man actor has come out, discussing his decision to undergo gender reassignment surgery and his experiences prior, saying that he now feels “free” and like he has been “born again”.

Rüzgar Erkoçlar, 26 and formerly known as Nil, is relatively well-known in Turkey, and reflected in interviews on that he never identified as a woman, reports Hurriyet Daily News.

Mr Erkoçlar said that from the age of six he never felt that he could identify with his body. He said: “I was not like other girls. I didn’t play with Barbie dolls, but hung out with boys.” He went on to say that he was a boy “only physically.”

He said that he never wanted to wear dresses when he was younger, but kept that a secret, saying: “When I entered into adolescence everything hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that I liked girls, but I had a women’s body. This was really hard for me.”

He said that he felt no connection to the way he looked before he transitioned: “I never wanted to be like that, [with a woman’s body]. I wanted to change my body and become free again.”

“I was acting the way society wanted me to all the time. I had short hair and people told me, ‘you are an actress; you should let your hair grow.’ I put in artificial hair extensions. I really wanted to do my job well, but I was always acting in controversial ways,” he continued, saying that he eventually decided to have gender reassignment surgery.

“I felt as if I was born again after the operation. Nil was dead and Rüzgar was born instead.”

Discussing hormone therapy, he said: “You feel angry [when you take hormones], and you gradually observe some changes in your mind. I feel better now.

“[The process] was very hard to endure, but I put up with all these things to get rid of the burden I had been carrying for 26 years.”

He said that he had never had a relationship with a man, but always with women, however he had to keep that a secret. He said: “I have never loved, nor had a relationship with a man. I always had affairs with women, but I had to conceal this all the time.”

“I risked everything by going through this, and I don’t expect everyone to accept me as I am. They are free to accept or refuse me. But I am a man and that is my own reality. Only my body was different. Now I have found myself.”

He concluded the interview by saying: “This is my choice, my life, my sexuality. So it doesn’t concern anyone. That’s what I think,”

A poem: I find pleasure, joy, and fulfilment from being submissive

I find pleasure, joy, and fulfilment from being submissive

to my Mistress in a loving relationship.

I am not weak or stupid. I am a strong woman,

with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life.

I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.

I will look to my loving Mistress for guidance and protection, for never

will I be more complete than when She is with me.

I know that She will protect my body, my mind, and my soul

with Her strength and wisdom.

She is everything to me, as I am everything to Her.

Her touch awakens me and Her thoughts free me.

Only in serving Her do I find complete freedom and joy…

Her punishments may be harsh, but I accept them thankfully,

knowing that She has my best interests always foremost in Her mind.

If She desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to Her

and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought Her happiness.

However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of O/our relationship.

The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt,

those are all parts of this relationship.

My body is Her, and if She says I am beautiful, then I am.

No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in Her eyes,

and because of that I hold my head high.

If She says I am Her precious jewel,

then I am that…a beautiful, sparkling gem.

If She says that I am Her pet, Her slut, Her whore, then I am that..

as wanton and dirty as She wants me to be.

My mind is Her, to expand, to explore, to know only as She can.

I have no secrets from Her… for secrets are a thing that would

keep me from being more perfectly Her.

Secrets would put a wall up between my Mistress and myself…

and I do not want walls.

Her lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own,

but they are lessons She has decided that I need, and so I learn from Her.

My soul is Her, as bare to Her touch as ever my skin could be

when I kneel naked at Her feet.

Never a moment goes by when I do not feel Her presence,

be She miles away or standing over me.

If I were to ever displease Her, Her displeasure would be a blow to my soul,

worse punishment than any lashes could be.

The anguish of my soul that I feel when I disappoint Her

is harder to bear than any physical anguish I feel.

I am grateful that She cares enough about me to spend

Her time and energy so freely on me.

I have the easier job, to feel, to experience,

to let myself go and abandon everything to Her.

I am Her pleasure and Her responsibility, and She takes both seriously .

I am a submissive woman.

I am proud to call myself that, my submission is a gift that I do not give lightly,

and can only be given to the One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.

Only to my Mistress who has that strength, will I give myself fully,

because I am strong and proud.

I am a submissive man.

~Author Unknown