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12 Jan 2015

People With Fetishes Are Ashamed

It's no wonder. Our society labels anything sexually different as deviant or perverted. These labels hurt deeply to those whose sexual makeup is out of the norm. Fetishists feel weird, ashamed and guilty for their desires. While the fetish provides pleasure and relief, all these people have feelings of shame about being sexually different.

Fetishists are afraid of sharing their secret with a lover. They fear rejection, ridicule or abandonment. Unfortunately, their fears are not unfounded. Oftentimes, people who disclose to their wives or husbands wish they hadn't. Their partners react with shock or embarrassment promoting even more feels of shame and regret.

9 Jan 2015

7 Jan 2015

Preventing Domestic Violence in the Leather/BDSM/Fetish Community

A booklet on abuse within BDSM community and prevention. This is linked to my earlier post BDSM in mainstream and abuse



In defence of paying for a Dominatrix

"As a professional dominatrix, I'm often drenched by two firehoses of moral invective. One torrent comes from some fellow kinksters, saying that ours is an art to be practised for love, not money; moralists, who say that sex and fetish are unimportant and vulgar, point the other. I feel it is time to speak up about my work's necessity, and about its joy and beauty. Sex is a human need, and kink can be a meaningful part of the sexual spectrum. We sex workers turn the erotic into a humane and powerful art.

3 Jan 2015

BDSM A - Z: An introduction

Anal Play
Acts in which the anus is involved.

Beating (General)
Acts in which one partner is beaten.

Beating - Canes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.

Beating - Crops
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.

Beating - Floggers
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.

Beating - Hairbrushes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.

Beating - Hard
Acts in which one partner is beaten hard.

Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...