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6 Mar 2015

Most Americans think torture can be justified, but hardly anyone thinks "rectal feeding" is acceptable

This week saw the release of a long-awaited U.S. Senate report detailing the post-9/11 CIA detention and interrogation program with a focus on the agency's the use of torture. According to the report, interrogation procedures used on some detainees that were much harsher and less effective than previously acknowledged. Critics, including former CIA interrogators and Bush administration officials, have called the report politically motivated and inaccurate.

When Americans are asked about suspected terrorists “who may know details about future attacks against the U.S.”, only 24% are prepared to say the use of torture is “never” justified. Nearly as many, 20%, say the use of torture is “always” justified, while the remainder say it’s either “sometimes” (28%) or only “rarely” (18%) justified – a total of 66% who are unwilling to rule out torture completely. There has been little change in views from April, before the release of the report, when 22% said torture was never justified.

Ask people specifically about interrogation tactics detailed in the report, and a more complicated picture emerges. In fact only one tactic – depriving a detainee of sleep – is deemed acceptable by the majority of the public. More people reject than accept seven of the eight other tactics, including waterboarding, which is seen as unacceptable by 45-35%.



By far the least popular tactic was feeding a detainee by pumping a food into his anus, a practice the report calls “rectal feeding”, which three-quarters of Americans say is unacceptable.
Like so many other issues, views about torture are highly polarised politically. 38% of Democrats say torture is never justified, compared to just 11% of Republicans. Republicans are also more open to all of the specified tactics than their Democratic counterparts. In fact, while Democrats tend to say all of the nine tactics are unacceptable, Republicans tend to say all of them are acceptable with one exception – people of all political persuasions reject the use of rectal feeding.


 


People are divided along these same political lines on several other aspects of the debate over the torture, some addressed by the report. 54% Democrats believe the information gained through torture is unreliable; 56% of Republicans think it’s reliable. 58% of Democrats think it is possible to fight terrorism without using torture, while 46% of Republicans think it’s impossible.


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25 Feb 2015

From “SSC” and “RACK” to the “4Cs”: Introducing a new Framework for Negotiating BDSM Participation

Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 17, July 5, 2014

D J Williams, PhD: Center for Positive Sexuality (Los Angeles) and Idaho State University
Jeremy N. Thomas, PhD: Idaho State University
Emily E. Prior, MA: Center for Positive Sexuality (Los Angeles) and College of the Canyons
M. Candace Christensen, PhD: University of Texas at San Antonio

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Abstract

The BDSM (consensual sadomasochism) community has commonly utilized Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC), or more recently Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) as basic frameworks to help structure the negotiation of BDSM participation. While these approaches have been useful, particularly for educating new participants concerning parameters of play, both approaches appear to have significant practical and conceptual limitations. In this paper we introduce an alternative framework for BDSM negotiation, Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution (4Cs), and discuss its potential advantages.

Background and Introduction

From the time of Richard von Krafft-Ebing’s (1886/1978) text Psychopathia Sexualis, BDSM has commonly been assumed to be motivated by an underlying psychopathology. Although biases and misinterpretations among professionals still remain (see Hoff & Sprott, 2009; Kolmes, Stock, & Moser, 2007; Wright, 2009), researchers have consistently shown that BDSM cannot be explained by psychopathology (i.e., Connelly, 2006; Cross & Matheson, 2006; Powls & Davies, 2012; Richters, de Visser, Rissel, Grulich, & Smith, 2008; Weinberg, 2006). Some scholars have recognized that not only is BDSM participation not associated with psychopathology, but that it may be associated with desirable psychological states that are often associated with healthy leisure experience (Newmahr, 2010; Taylor & Ussher, 2001; Williams, 2006, 2009; Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013). Indeed, a widespread shift in understanding seems to be occurring wherein consensual BDSM participation is believed to be an acceptable expression of sexuality and/or leisure.


In light of this shift and in combination with the development of community-based research as a methodological strategy across the social sciences generally, an exciting recent development is the formal collaboration between scholars and communities of people with alternative sexual identities, including BDSM. The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) was formed in 2005 and combines the knowledge and strengths of scholars and community members to produce high-quality knowledge that can directly benefit the community (Sprott & Bienvenu II, 2007). We welcome this development, and it is in the spirit of mutual benefit that we write the present paper. In fact, we are both scholars and also members of the BDSM community. Hopefully, our discussion here will generate insights among both academics and nonacademics.

In this paper, we summarize the popular BDSM community mottos of Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) and Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) before proposing what we think is an improved approach, which we call the Caring, Communication, Consent, and Caution (4Cs) framework. Since each framework explicitly includes the precise concept of consent, we will discuss a few of the thorny issues surrounding the notion of consent within the 4Cs model a little bit later in the paper, rather than in our summary of SSC and RACK. We do this simply as a matter of retaining a consistent overall structure for readers.

24 Feb 2015

Dis-identification: Alternative Sexuality and Gender Identities in Sadomasochistic Praxes


Ingrid Olson


Introduction

Sexuality and gender identities hold subversive potential. Contemporary academic work on sexuality and gender has targeted issues such as gender oppression,  sexual objectification,  and intersex, transsexual and transgender categorizations.  However, the creation and recognition of alternative, non-normative sexuality and gender identifications has been largely overlooked by the academic community. The study of sexuality is the study of power. Nowhere is this truer than in sadomasochism, the negotiated, consensual exchange of power. The practices and relationship schemata within the sadomasochistic community represent a paradigm for investigating alternative sexuality and gender identities. Members of the leather  community often engage in communication and negotiation for the specific purpose of developing consensual sexuality and/or gender roles within the framework of power exchange relationships. These subsequent alternative  sexuality and gender identities can be regarded as seditious as they problematize traditional, binary sex/gender categorizations, and sexual relationships based on expectations of symmetry and gentleness.

23 Feb 2015

Consent and Consciousness: Policy Versus Practice in Sadomasochism


INGRID OLSON:


The study of sexuality is the study of power, nowhere is this truer than with sadomasochism (S/m), the negotiated, consensual exchange of power. Sexuality is defined through policy and practice, the public and the private, the permissible and the forbidden. The 1990 ‘Spanner Case’ in Manchester, England, determined S/m is impermissible because judicial policy states persons cannot consent to S/m activities as they have the potential to cause bodily harm. The 2004 ‘Sweet Productions’ case in Vancouver, Canada, determined that the practice of S/m is permissible because it is a normal form of sexuality that some members of society enjoy. The adherence to policy in the ‘Spanner Case’ and the recognition of practice in the ‘Sweet Productions’ decision distinguish the power of policy and practice in defining sadomasochism.


16 Feb 2015

Fifty Shades of Grey: what BDSM enthusiasts think.

How well does EL James know the BDSM world? Is Christian Grey a psychopath? Would a real-life Anastasia submit so quickly? Our trio of experts give their verdict on Fifty Shades of Grey?



‘Real sex has spit and sweat’

Emily Sarah
Emily Sarah.Photograph: Felix Clay
Emily Sarah, 26, is a fetish model and performer who runs BDSM Healing, a business that combines techniques like reiki with sensory deprivation, bondage and spankings to deal with “the cathartic aspects of BDSM”. She discovered the fetish scene while at university in London.

I was shocked by how awful the film was. Ridiculous, really. The sex scenes were so vanilla. It didn’t look particularly kinky to me. There was a lot of beautiful equipment, but not much going on in terms of actual BDSM: it was just about Christian tying Anastasia up. In real BDSM relationships, there’s a lot more connection, a lot more talking, a lot more ritual. The play he did with her wasn’t hard play; it was sensation stuff. I switch between dominant and submissive, so I can see how she’d enjoy the scenes in the Red Room – but it didn’t show an authentic side to BDSM. It was more him stroking her for a bit with a whip, then lots of sex. That was it.

20 Jan 2015

BDSM Roleplay: A traditional caning with a difference.

Lady Leyla acts as the deputy headmistress responsible for administering all corporal punishment in the school. The essence of this scenario is in building up the fear and anticipation of the punishment, and there is no additional humiliation beyond what is required of the culprit in presenting his/her backside to receive the cane.

#BDSM Scenario: Something special, which will intrigue you.

Your Ladyship has instructed me to attend at a particular time, with the promise of "something special, which You are sure will intrigue me". When I ring Your doorbell, I am immediately amazed by Your Astounding Beauty, as you stand at the door dressed in a wonderful filmy dress, very shear stockings and extremely high-heeled boots.

17 Jan 2015

When your BDSM lifestyle conflicts with your Vanilla lifestyle.

Mistress Lady Leyla
In all the time I have been a Domme, there is one issue I find I cannot easily help My submissive's with - conflict between their Vanilla & BDSM lives. Many a time I have been confided in by my submissive's  about the conflict they feel, live and anguish over. Most of my submissive's live an ordinary Vanilla lifestyle outside of sessions with Me. They are usually male, happily married and love their wife and family. But they have a secret - as 90% of my submissive's have - and that is their enjoyment of BDSM.


15 Jan 2015

8 Levels of Dominance



The non-Dominant "kinky" lover:
This person is not into power exchange and being in control. They only enjoy the heightened sexuality the D/s scene brings to them.  They feel "safe" in the scene if both the parties involved are having fun.  The normally won't try new things without first being told by the submissive specific things they would enjoy.  Their pleasure is from the sexual activity and not from spanking the submissive or being in control.


The role playing Dominant but not a Master:

12 Jan 2015

People With Fetishes Are Ashamed

It's no wonder. Our society labels anything sexually different as deviant or perverted. These labels hurt deeply to those whose sexual makeup is out of the norm. Fetishists feel weird, ashamed and guilty for their desires. While the fetish provides pleasure and relief, all these people have feelings of shame about being sexually different.

Fetishists are afraid of sharing their secret with a lover. They fear rejection, ridicule or abandonment. Unfortunately, their fears are not unfounded. Oftentimes, people who disclose to their wives or husbands wish they hadn't. Their partners react with shock or embarrassment promoting even more feels of shame and regret.

9 Jan 2015

7 Jan 2015

Preventing Domestic Violence in the Leather/BDSM/Fetish Community

A booklet on abuse within BDSM community and prevention. This is linked to my earlier post BDSM in mainstream and abuse



In defence of paying for a Dominatrix

"As a professional dominatrix, I'm often drenched by two firehoses of moral invective. One torrent comes from some fellow kinksters, saying that ours is an art to be practised for love, not money; moralists, who say that sex and fetish are unimportant and vulgar, point the other. I feel it is time to speak up about my work's necessity, and about its joy and beauty. Sex is a human need, and kink can be a meaningful part of the sexual spectrum. We sex workers turn the erotic into a humane and powerful art.

3 Jan 2015

BDSM A - Z: An introduction

Anal Play
Acts in which the anus is involved.

Beating (General)
Acts in which one partner is beaten.

Beating - Canes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.

Beating - Crops
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.

Beating - Floggers
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.

Beating - Hairbrushes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.

Beating - Hard
Acts in which one partner is beaten hard.

Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...