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28 Mar 2013

Sinfulandwicked


Twitter: sinfulandwicked




No need to look them up on urban dictionary: the words 'please' & 'thank you' have been in English usage for many many years.


Kneel until your knees are sore & painful. Kneel until u realise there is only 1: Do not worship false idols. There's only 1 and that is ME


You bitches need to be dragged through hell — by your testicles.


Subs shouldn't be terrified. Just anxious, very anxious.


It is only at the edge of fear that a #sub learns and understands trust.


Listen #Bitch, your ass belongs to me. I don’t ever want you getting from another man what you can get from me. So drop 'em NOW & beg.


Those who desire 2 serve do so because they have rejected a defined social behaviour & embrace their true calling - under a woman's stiletto


My job is easy.. As the dominant, it is to continually captivate and seduce consent from the #submissive kneeling before Me.


Fear triggers the fight-or-flight response.. unfortunately for My #slaves or #subs, there is nowhere to run.


In our socially charged world, pain is used 2 maintain hierarchies of dominance. Learn your place in society #Bitch, which is beneath ME.


Nothing sexual is sinful. Only cruelty is wicked - wickedly, sinfully and mouth-wateringly entertaining.




Creativity....Art and Talent combined equals....



A little something for those who enjoy creativity and uniqueness in Art. 


This video was created by shared with Me on my Google+ page by Adam Wayne Gistarb Photography, Performing Arts, Filmmaking ). 



The dancer/choregrapher/poet  featured in the video is Louiszell Alexander III


So, if you like it - Promote it!!

And #follow these guys on Google+





A little boy attempting to be insulting.....

This email was sent to me earlier today......

To give you an overdose of your own medicine and to see if a cheap piece of shit like you can take it as well as you give. You love beauty and glamour? Pity your not endowed with either then,is it? You are giving sexually oriented activities in return for financial renumeration. Only adults are permitted to view the site. And you're not a whore,you ugly self deluding cunt? Get fucking real you worthless reject fuckbag. You are nothing BUT a whore,you and every piece of shit who you FF. Hope you get cancer. Fuck you,you untalented sack of shit.

After laughing for quite some time, I thought a reply was needed......

To the person calling himself Jeremy Smith who sent this email to me.

Firstly, if you are going to insult someone in a written form, check your spelling, grammar and punctuation.

Secondly, make sure your disparaging comments ARE actually insulting. Your attempt at being scurrilous is amusing at best, (please do look up any words you don't understand in a dictionary). The epithetical terms used to describe me are not very creative or prolific, but I'm guessing you can't spell anything more epithetical than 'whore'. There are other words for 'whore' in the English language - perhaps a thesaurus would help.

Please let me know if you would like me to re-write the carelessly and fallaciously written paragraph you emailed to me. I would be more than happy to correct your disturbing grammar and punctuation as well as highlight your incorrect spelling. As it stands, it is quite substandard.

Regards,

Mistress Lady Leyla

P.s I almost forgot to mention...but the names Trevor and/or ROBERT come to mind?

21 Mar 2013

The Subject of Murder and Sexual Norms


21 MARCH 2013 | BY MATTHEW REISZ

Lisa Downing, University of Birmingham
SOURCE: EUGENE DOYEN
Lisa Downing explains to Matthew Reisz how society’s unspoken prejudices are given voice in the discourse surrounding killers


Drawn to the extremes: Downing argues that murder is ‘highly codified and very historically specific’
On the publication of her new book, Lisa Downing explains to Matthew Reisz how society’s unspoken prejudices are given voice in the inflammatory discourse surrounding its murderers

The idea that murderers are entirely different from the rest of us serves a very conservative function,” says Lisa Downing. “We don’t have to worry that we might be implicated because those people are other than us and we are safely within the mainstream.”

Now professor of French discourses of sexuality at the University of Birmingham, Downing has written, co-written and edited books on critical theorist Michel Foucault, film star Catherine Deneuve and director Patrice Leconte, as well as Birth and Death in Nineteenth-Century French Culture (2007), Film and Ethics: Foreclosed Encounters (2009) and Queer in Europe: Contemporary Case Studies (2011). Coming next year is a volume of “critical essays on [sexologist] John Money’s diagnostic concepts” by her, Iain Morland and Nikki Sullivan, to be titled Fuckology.

Yet, despite this striking range of subject matter, Downing believes her career has been “underpinned by an interest in questions of how subjectivity and sexuality are understood in culture, how they are formed, what value judgements are brought to bear on so-called ‘normal’ and ‘abnormal’ varieties of them. What unites almost all of my work is a concern with interrogating that idea of ‘normal’, questioning who gets to decide what is ‘normal’ and in whose interests.”

Yet there has also been a certain change of emphasis: “I have moved from taking the ‘abnormal’ as fascinating subject matter to be prodded and poked to yield up answers towards looking at precisely the ways in which the ‘abnormal’ subject gets constituted and what that says about the social forces doing the constituting.”

We can see this shift in the move from Downing’s first book, Desiring the Dead: Necrophilia and Nineteenth-Century French Literature (2003) to the recently published The Subject of Murder: Gender, Exceptionality, and the Modern Killer.

So what drew her to such extreme material in the first place? Part of what makes necrophilia worth studying, she replies, is that it “remains in the sphere of psychiatry and medico-legal discourse and has not become a subject of politics in the way that LGBTQ issues obviously have, and practices like BDSM and sadomasochism, which have a whole group of defenders who say: ‘We are just like the rest of you, except that we like kinky sex’. It hasn’t been tamed by the assimilationist brigade.

“Necrophilia and other perversions that have death as part of their content are interesting because they literalise the fear underpinning the regulation of all non-normative sexuality…that any sexual practice that couldn’t lead to reproduction was dangerous and could lead to the downfall of Western civilisation. However, the very existence of so-called ‘sexual perversions’ reveals the lie that sexuality is utilitarian, that desire is naturally for a purpose - ie, reproduction.”

In describing her new book, Downing suggests that “people think of murder as this deep dark personal thing and I argue that it’s a highly codified and very historically specific phenomenon which comes from the aesthetic philosophies of Romanticism, decadence and later existentialism”.

Although there have always been homosexual and homicidal acts, specific cultural pressures turned acts into essences and created the figures of “the homosexual”, “the pervert” and “the murderer” at roughly the same time.

 To develop her argument, Downing returns to 1830s and 1840s France to examine the “gentlemanly” murderer (and poet) Pierre-François Lacenaire and the “angel of arsenic”, Marie Lafarge. Yet she soon moves on to more familiar murderers notable for “the sheer weight of representation they have provoked”: “Jack and the Rippers who came after”; Myra Hindley; Dennis Nilsen; the client-killing prostitute Aileen Wuornos; and the “kids who kill”, such as those responsible for high-school massacres, or the death of James Bulger.

Oceans of ink have been spilled in trying to understand this grim cast of characters, but Downing is adamant that she is “a cultural critic and continental philosopher” rather than a psychologist or criminologist, and so is “not qualified to do psychiatry on these people”.

Instead of providing yet more “interpretations of their motivations or their psychology”, she explains, “I’m offering analyses of the discourses produced about them, and what those discourses say about the society doing the producing”.

What emerges, as she puts it in The Subject of Murder, is that “the historical stereotypes of the Romantic figure of the outlier, the genius- criminal, the sex-beast, or the unnatural figure of the violent woman resurge in order to isolate those individuals from the rest of their culture and to maintain them as (sometimes glamorous) monsters, but never as mirrors”.

And one of the things Downing wants us to see reflected back is how murderous acts get interpreted differently according to the class, sexual orientation and (particularly) the gender of the perpetrator.

Take the response to the Moors murders of the mid-1960s.

“Hindley and [Ian] Brady are both reviled as child killers, as the lowest of the low,” acknowledges Downing, “because children are given a special status as innocent and the most in need of protection.

“However, for a woman to kill a child is seen as infinitely worse, because women are supposed to possess those qualities of maternal instinct, ethics of care and innate nurturing protection.”

In the long history of sexual double standards this might seem like a rather minor example, but Downing describes it as “a very telling form of misogyny…It’s precisely in the way that people receive news items and cultural phenomena such as murderers that we actually see misogyny at work.”

Myra Hindley and Ian Brady
SOURCE: PA/GETTY.   Myra Hindley and Ian Brady
She adds: “When people say: ‘I can’t put my finger on it, but she bothers me’ - that’s what’s of interest. It’s in areas like crime that often unspoken prejudices are allowed to be voiced, because who’s going to defend Myra Hindley?


“And I don’t want to defend Myra Hindley, but I do want to show how the figure of Myra Hindley reveals virulent misogyny that in other spheres would probably be more hidden, because of the demands of political correctness, workplace regulations and all the rest of it.”

Perhaps even more compelling is the contrast between Peter Sutcliffe and Wuornos. When the Yorkshire Ripper killed 13 women from 1975 to 1980, he became a sort of local folk hero. Football crowds were heard to chant “Ripper 11, police nil”, while Jim Hobson, the acting chief constable of West Yorkshire Police, made a point of stating: “He has made it clear that he continues to hate prostitutes. Many people do. We as a police force will continue to arrest prostitutes…”

Why is it, asked feminist critic Nicole Ward Jouve, that “no women go about murdering ‘punters’, convinced they’re on a God-given mission to rid the city of its litter?” A possible exception to this rule is provided by Wuornos, who, at least at one point, defended herself in just such terms: “I feel like a hero. ‘Cause I’ve done some good. I’m a killer of rapists.”

Yet it was precisely this narrative that nobody wanted to hear.

“Where the (male) serial killer is an unlikely hero, a bad boy celebrity,” writes Downing, “the feminist warrior is not even articulable.” Commentary on Wuornos’ case, when it didn’t turn her simply into a “monster” (as Patty Jenkins’ 2003 Hollywood biopic is called), viewed her as mad or, at best, a victim of earlier abuse.

In every case, Downing demonstrates that the murderers, though hardly typical, were nonetheless symptomatic of wider social attitudes and problems that we often shy away from.

“Of course, people should be upset by acts of violence,” she concludes, “but they should also be upset by the violence implicit in systems and institutions - and not so keen to use these figures of exception to draw attention away from those larger systems of iniquity.”

BDSM without sex??

 
http://www.sunnymegatron.com/bdsm-without-sex/
The 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon has everyone talking about kink.  

This is part of a series of articles called Beyond 50 Shades of Grey that take a deeper, more realistic look at elements of BDSM.  Get ready to go Beyond 50 Shades. 

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex.

BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M.  Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM).  In other words– whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.

This umbrella acronym covers more than being restrained, humiliated, spanked, acting as a slave or servant, etc.  Kink preferences are as individual as those practicing them.  For instance, some may like sensation play  (anything from feathers, silk, massage oils to pain inflicted with various implements) while others might enjoy sensory deprivation (being blindfolded or having another one of the senses taken away).  Just because someone is into something considered kinky, they don’t necessarily like everything BDSM signifies–  i.e. I love to give and receive spankings but that does not mean I’m also into humiliation role-play.

BDSM’s appeal often isn’t about sexual sensation and gratification, it’s primary draw is the mental give and take (sometimes referred to as power exchange).  This concept trips a lot of vanilla-leaning people up.  In the media S&M clubs are referred to as “sex clubs” and professional dominatrices as “sex workers.” How can BDSM not include sex?

In vanilla scenarios we often say “the biggest sexual organ is the brain.”  Most of us have been in a romantic situation with someone who on the surface isn’t stereotypically attractive but we’re still drawn to them.  Perhaps they’re funny, deep and thoughtful, or creative and intense.  Whatever the point of attraction, it’s directly related to the mental connection you have with each other. Your romantic interest takes you on a cerebral rollercoaster ride so enjoyable you don’t want to get off. Often our most profound, satisfying relationships aren’t based on looks or sexual ability but on how the mental connection with that person makes us feel.

Mental and emotional attraction in BDSM plays on the same principles but on a grander and more deliberate scale.  Going into a vanilla relationship we are generally not equipped with the tools or knowledge necessary to successfully cultivate exciting mental rollercoaster rides.  If we do connect on that level, it’s usually an accidental byproduct of the pairing.  We have no control over it– it just “happens” (and when it does happen we’re immensely happy!).

For most kinksters our goal from the get-go is psychological gratification.  Before embarking on a relationship/pairing we arm ourselves with tools that allow us to more predictably arrive at that goal.  Participants in BDSM relationships spend a good deal of time on pre-negotiation to ensure each partners needs are met.  We also expect situational, physical and psychological variables to be manipulated during scenes to help everyone involved achieve intense emotional satisfaction.  Sometimes genital contact is a part of that and sometimes it isn’t.

In the vanilla world we can have an intense emotional experience with someone without sex or romance.  Many of us can relate, we’ve had emotional connections and experiences with individuals we never laid a hand on. Our pleasure is a derivative of how that person made us feel. Perhaps they made us feel giddy and giggly, proud of ourselves, appreciated, etc.  It is no different in BDSM scenes.  We don’t have to have sex or be sexually aroused to satisfy our psychological needs.

Asexuals have a visible presence in the kinky community.  An asexual (ace for short) is defined as someone who does not experience sexual arousal.

http://www.sunnymegatron.com/bdsm-without-sex/
The excerpt below was written by a “kinky ace” named Lamia S.  In it Lamia explains how she receives non-sexual gratification from BDSM.  Her writing is universal and covers a myriad of reasons why people, asexual or not, explore kinky play.

Give it a read.  It may help you understand why BDSM is about a lot more than just sex:

“I’ve gotten a fair amount of questions, some curious and respectful and others judgmental and rude, about why I’m into kink if I don’t desire or gain sexual gratification. It is a fair question given that theorists, researchers, and some others have long ago decided that BDSM is sexual. In fact I one book went as far as to say that Aces don’t practice BDSM but only engage in “BDSM-like activities” because somehow, this theorist decided that without sex it doesn’t count. I’m pretty sure that people that know me and other Kinky Aces would agree that we count just as much as anyone else. But back to the question, Why Kink? Why play? Why Switch*? Why be a member of a community where the majority of people are very sexual? As I’ve told people, pleasure doesn’t have to be sexual nor do meaningful relationships. But my usual answers are fairly vague or if the person is rude sarcastic. So what is a more clear passionate answer? Here it is.

Topping

So, why top if not sex? There are a lot of things I love about topping. It’s the freedom to release my inner sadist and monster. It is the trust you build when a friend and partner gives you control. It is the power of having another person at your whim. It is the predatory mindset of domspace. It is the sharp tunnel vision of a hunting predator. It’s the thrill of the “hunt”. It’s the maniacal laughter of the sadist in my head when someone agrees to a scene. It’s the learning and mastering of skills. It’s the absolute giddy joy of hitting some one that wants it. It’s the glory of sinking my teeth into squirming flesh. It’s the moment of impact when my hand collides with the skin of another. It’s the feeling of a knife, cane, flogger, or whip as an extension of myself. It’s the beauty of the marks I leave. It is the smiles, the laugher, the screams, the tears, and the connections that only kink can create.

Bottoming

By now maybe you are starting to see a little of my point, but you could still be wondering. So, why bottom if not sex? For me it is about the anticipation before a scene. It’s the thrill of terror. It is the freedom from facing fears. It’s the surrender of power. It’s the pride in making another happy. It’s the glee of attention. It’s the relief of helplessness. It’s the hug of rope and chain. It’s the sting of a cane. It’s the thud of floggers. It’s the pound of a fist and the smart of a slap. It’s the dread of the voice in my ear. It’s the constraint of a hand on my neck. It’s the weightlessness of suspension. It’s the leap of my stomach right before I hit the ground. It’s the comfort of protocol. It’s the joy of survival. It’s the gorgeousness of the marks a top leaves. It’s the high from endorphins. It’s the floaty fuzzy calm of subspace. It’s the trust I’ve learned to give. It’s the protection I’ve learned to accept. It is the smiles, the laugher, the screams, the tears, and the bonds that only kink can create.

Play and Community

Hopefully you are understanding my point. But there is still more I want to say. I wanna tell you why in general. Why play and why be part of the community? The play is about the connection. It’s the friend-relation-ships I thought I’d never have. It’s about sensation. It’s about overcoming. It’s about creation. It’s about being creative. The community is about the bonds. It’s about acceptance. It’s about not being pressured to be what I’m not. It’s about be liked for who I am. It’s about the encouragement to find who I can be. It’s about having a place where I fit without modifications. It’s about energy. It’s about the caring, the support, the give, the take, the respect, the balance that only an island of misfit toys like the Kink Community can muster.

So no, my kink is not about sex, it is about other things. I don’t have want to have sex with you to learn from you or to teach you. I don’t need sexual attraction to care or support my fellow perv. Everyone is different, and that’s great and the Kink community is great at being ok with that.

That is why BDSM. That’s why I’m a Kinky Ace and proud. <3″

COURTESY OF SUNNY MEGATRON MAY 21, 2012, 

18 Mar 2013

Six of the Best: Canes and Caning


by Mitch Kessler - aka SirAdam

"There is a good deal more to caning than one person simply hitting someone else with a stick."

     A cane can be used mildly, even sensually, by a reasonably skilled and self-controlled Caner. But the mystique and the appeal of The Cane, as opposed to any number of other long thin things you can hit with, is that it is used for intense, deliberate and severe corporal correction of miscreants. Psychologically, it can be highly fetishized and formal. Physically, it places great demands on the Canee’s resolution and fortitude. For the caner it is almost an equally challenging exercise in concentration, technical skill, and psychological dominance.

Negotiation:

     It is fairly traditional for formal caning scenes to be conducted without a safeword. Once the canee has agreed to a certain number of strokes, that is the number that must be endured ... regardless. As a result, caning is probably one of those practices that benefits from a good deal of discussion (negotiation) beforehand, and the “permission” to discuss it afterwards.

   First the issues of “how much pain” and “how much marking” need to be resolved. Equally important is the issue of, “who are we and why are we doing this?” Is this a punishment scenario, an ordeal, or a demonstration of skill for one participant and fortitude on the other? Is caning going to be used to punish actual misdeeds? Are there strong feelings or values concerning a sense of “youthful victim” found in so much of caning literature and fantasy?

   It’s also worthwhile to explore what happens after the actual caning. Is the canee to be left in place (enjoying an endorphin euphoria, one hopes) ?... required to dress and depart (as in boarding school scenarios)? ... or when the scene ends, is there to be “aftercare” such as cuddling, nurturing, or sex?

The Sensuous Caning

   To use a cane mildly, employ a a tapping technique, powered by the wrist alone. The actual sensation can be described as “sharp,” “stinging” or “focused.” It’s severity will vary based on the strength of the taps, their frequency, and how close together they land. As much as there can be an objective definition of what is “mild” and what is “severe,” the dividing line for canes may be that a love tap is silent, but a stroke you can hear is one you’ll really feel! A mild blow will not bend the cane, either on impact or while travelling to its target. Used full-force, the cane is usually applied only to the buttocks, but these lighter taps may be used on almost any part of the body without too much anxiety about damaging tissues or relationships. Targets that are usually considered “off-limits” for whips and floggers, such as the palms, soles, or calves can be explored. Even the back and chest can be hit, within reason.

The Real Thing

   A “Proper Caning” is a completely different matter. One stroke “of the best” feels like a knife edge of fire and lightning that blots out every other thought and sensation. As the initial blaze fades, an aftershock — still sharp, localised, but with a bit of dull achiness — begins to sink in, feeling as if the stripe runs clear to the bone and beyond. Then the stroke fades to an afterglow some may find almost pleasant, others, almost endurable. he second is the same ... only more so. And so on, until the full quantity is completed. Significant marking by each and every stroke is to be expected, and breaking of the skin is not unlikely. The sensation of the cane is such that a single dozen, or even “six of the best,” is usually entirely sufficient in most people’s reckoning. A caning of 24 strokes is sometimes referred to as “the Military Caning” and is a serious ordeal in anyone’s estimation.

   This does not mean, however, that a “Proper Caning” scene need be short, either objectively or subjectively. In fact, prolonged anticipation, elaborate preparation, and resolute cooperation by the Canee are important elements in a fully-realised traditional caning. In the Victorian educational setting, boys “sent down” for caning might wait several days before presenting themselves and a memorandum of their wrongdoing to the senior educator who would actually chastise them. When used as authentic behaviour modifying punishment, the anxiety and expectation brought on by the promise of caning for misbehaviour, might be felt almost as keenly as the actual strokes.

   In consensual erotic practice, some people will increase pain tolerance with a spanking, flogging or paddling before the caning. It could be purely a matter of mental preparation ... it might be endorphin release ... sexual arousal could be raising the pain threshold ... or the impact and subsequent engorgement may actually desensitise the nerves ... it seems paradoxical but it does work.

   A preparation ritual is not uncommon, often utilising aspects of the traditional school canings. Sometimes the offence for which the punishment is being administered is described, the punishee may be required to fetch and present the cane in a particular manner and kiss or otherwise show “it” respect and gratitude before presenting it (again in a prescribed manner) to the caner.

Bared Bottoms

   Schoolboys might be caned “trousers up” OR “trousers down, with the tails of their jackets and shirts pinned up and out of the way. This process of securing the excess clothing is what is known as “taking up.” What it provides in convenience and modesty the “trousers up” style of caning has practical and aesthetic drawbacks. Aesthetically it deprives Caner of agreeable sights, first of the bared bottom, and then the development of an even row of neatly spaced cane-strips. Practically, the punishee is less likely to take excessive damage if the Caner can see the effect of each “strike” as it happens. In addition, the formal “taking down” of trousers and/or knickers adds, in this context, at least the potential for feelings of humiliation and powerlessness.

   Once “pinned up” and “taken down” the punishee is “bent over.” The more extreme the bend (grasping the ankles, for example) the more effect the cane cuts will have. Bending also exaggerates the curve of the bottom, for the Caner’s visual pleasure, and limits the the punishee’s ability to minimise the blow by clenching the muscles of the buttocks. The bent-over position also assures that the cane will not land above the tail bone where it might conceivably do some damage. Some caners will insist on nearly impossible perfection in positioning — arched back, buttocks presented, legs straight, head up, shoulders back — both before and during the caning. Lapses of posture may be a cause for increasing the number of strokes, or may form the basis for verbal harassment and humiliation. This, of course, adds to everyone’s enjoyment of the encounter.

    Once bent over, the punishee may be required to endure a period of waiting for the first strike. The caner may sweep the cane through the air a few times for the sake of the sound, or so that the punishee can feel its “wind,” and hear its characteristic noise. The punishee very quickly learns the difference between the sound of the cane being merely swished through the air, and the hiss of the final approach.

   To increase the anticipation some Caners will require that the punishee request each stroke and count the cane strokes either as they fall, or before each stroke is delivered. At the same time the caner may intensify the anticipation either by holding the cane away from the target entirely, or touching it lightly it to express growing impatience with the “cowardly delay.”

   In addition the canee may be required to count each stroke according to a prescribed formula: ONE Sir (or Ma’am, or Miss) Thank you Sir, May I have another, Sir ... losing count or miscounting can be a “reason” to start over, or “earn” the subject another caning at another time.

   It is worth remembering that these tricks, formal counting, posture correction, lecturing, etc., not only add to the ritual and psychology of the caning ... they also can be used to control the pace of the caning. The caner wants to allow enough time between strokes to let the canee enjoy the full benefit of each stroke while at the same time recovering enough to be able to accept another. This is necessary for the same reason that a blow from a cane is called a “strike” or a “cut” — the sensation has a certain amount in common with the effects associated with lightning and swords.

   A Proper Caning is an ordeal, an exercise in significant pain. A skilled practitioner with quality materials can soon have a canee cherishing every stripe on their body — and coming back for more.

Caning Technique

      Acquiring the necessary skill for this is not really difficult, but it does call for the investment of some time and effort. The novice caner will want to develop accuracy first. This is not a skill to develop by practicing on your Significant Other. A dusty blanket or quilt, folded over the back of a high backed chair is a much better choice. You might want to dust a palm sized circle with carpenter’s chalk, to give you a better idea of where your strokes are landing. The target area is roughly 7” high, 9” wide , 30 - 35” from the floor. (You might also have your S.O. sit in some non-toxic paint, bend over, back up to the blanket and thereby mark the exact target you’ll be trying for.)


     Once you are certain of hitting your mark each and every time you are ready to work on gaining control of speed and impact. A partner with a high pain threshold and a forgiving nature is of inestimable value here, as is your willingness to increase the the impact from taps to strikes in very small increments. At this stage of development, you may want to consider taking a few stripes, and even a full dozen or two (at different times) to develop understanding of what you propose to be administering. A skilled and sensitive caner will be able to show you style, pacing, and form, while a willing, enthusiastic, and unskilled partner will quickly teach you all the faults you need to eliminate in your own technique. While you don’t really need to feel the cane in order to cane well ... there’s no teacher like experience.

      Strikes must not “scissor” thin flesh between cane and bone, or land on joints. The backs of the thighs are a problematic target, especially in “adipose-tissue-deprived” persons. Hits to the thighs are astonishingly painful and there are large blood vessels, tendons and nerve bundles under the fat and muscle. While some tough and athletically gifted persons can take a cane strike to the pectoral region or abdomen (crotch and throat protection are such a good idea, for this trick) in nearly all cases canes should never land where there are nerves close to the surface, or soft organs directly below.


      In caning the goal is to hit with a section of cane starting at the tip and extending perhaps six to eight inches toward the handle. The idea is to avoid hitting with the tip either by “leading with the point” (usually the result of using too much wrist action) or by bending the cane around the body (“throwing wraps”), which is usually caused by standing too close . Strikes with the tip leave short dot-like marks that can take an astonishingly long time to heal, whether they break skin or not.

 


    There is a legitimate difference of opinion concerning “crossing” cane stripes. One school of thought holds that crossed stripes are the sign of a careless, skilless, caner. Their ideal is a number of perfectly spaced and distinct marks to look at and admire. A practical objection to crossed stripes is that skin damage at the point of crossing is, if anything, more severe than is caused by a strike with the tip. Another school of thought likes to cross their cuts for that very reason taking care to make the “crosses” uniform and deliberate looking.

   Cane strokes often break skin, intentionally or not. This has lead to some practitioners to add a very modern innovation to the preparation ritual. Before the actual caning begins, the canee’s bottom is anointed with a petroleum-jelly based antibiotic ointment such as “Bacitracin™.” This has three advantages. The first is psychological effect of the touching itself, whether it is kindly, threatening, matter of fact, or salacious. Secondly, the lubricating property of the oil base, softens the skin and helps minimise actual damage. Lastly, if the skin is broken by cane strokes, the cut receives immediate infection preventing first aid, as the active antibiotic is driven into the wound.

   Concern about disease transmission via “bloodied” S/M toys is probably more a question of social norms and personal comfort levels then of medical imperatives. It is the potential for HIV transmission that is most compelling — though the epidemiological evidence should reassure rather than alarm. On the other hand, both the cane and the skin are far more likely to be exposed to other pathogens including from the common cold to hepatitis, diphtheria, the dysentaries - all the diseases associated with blood, sweat, and raw sewage. This could be considered a reason to reserving one cane for use on one person only. It might also be an incentive for more dedicated or extreme devotees to invest in the vaccinations advised for health and rescue workers — although rabies and tetanus shots are probably very optional.

   As to the strike itself, the force of the impact depends on the speed with which the cane is accelerated rather than the strength or “muscle” the caner can put behind the blow. During its forward motion, the cane bends, storing the energy of its travel, which it then releases when it hits. The more extreme the bend and the more abrupt the stop, the more impact will be produced. (And the greater the likelihood the cane will break in mid-air, too.) After the strike, the caner should allow a few seconds at least for the punishee to appreciate the full artistic effect.


   There are three basic styles of swinging a cane. In the Traditional style, a portion of the cane is held braced against the inside of the forearm. The arm is kept very straight both on the back swing and in the forward “cut.” This is probably the most lenient or “lower form” way of using the cane, producing the least effect. By some accounts (probably more imaginative than actual) while Schoolmasters were to required to keep a stiff arm — some of them offset this limitation with a running start. From a schoolboy’s point of view, this technique at least offers the possibility that the caner rather than the punishee will suffer pain and humiliation.


   Supposedly banned in the schoolroom, was a variation called the “Cavalry Cut.” The stroke begins with the cane held over the caner’s head, roughly parallel to the ground — as if parrying a sabre cut to the caner’s head. The cane is then brought downward and around in a circular motion, like a riposte to the flank — only lower. Perfectly executed, this will lay a stripe on the underside of the curve of the buttocks, an area not easily reached by other means. Less than perfectly done, this stroke can land somewhere on the back of the thighs. This can lead to intense ill-feeling in a consensual relationship especially during the swimsuit season.

    Mistress Nan B. of California has been the most outstanding practitioner and teacher of the Modern Style, which is probably the most devastating. She advocates a very supple wrist action, with the time taken to draw the cane back exactly equal to the time required for the forward motion of the blow. This introduces the most extreme bend in the cane, to the extent that its tip may actually strike the caner’s back. The Caner stands with weight centred over well-planted feet, with the extended cane hand even with, or slightly back of the presented buttocks. The blow completes even with or just behind the plane of the presented buttocks. A skilled practitioner may introduce a bit of hip rotation to increase the distance of travel, and may cock the cane-wrist backward a bit as the back swing reaches its most extreme point.


   Cane strikes of that severity should absolutely be restricted to areas of deep fat and muscle. Its probably worth remembering that a Proper Caning perfectly done will leave a set of parallel stripes exactly one cane-diameter apart, with no stripe at or above the level of tailbone, nor below the point where the buttocks join the thighs.

Choosing a Cane

     A good cane is one that will land where it is aimed, and have the effect that is intended. That leaves a lot of leeway for personal choice and preference. Most canes on the market today are between 3/16 and 3/8” in diameter. Any smaller is too whippy and flexible to be really accurate, much larger too heavy and club-like to be really recreational. Thin canes cut and sting more than thick ones. They leave red welts that fade more quickly, but are more likely to break skin. Thicker canes not only have more mass, but are stiffer and can be made longer than thin ones and as a result are, all things being equal, more severe and more damaging.

      Rattan is sold in two forms. “Kooboo” is the natural unprocessed form. It ranges in colour from pale yellow to a mottled brown. Each stick tapers slightly, with visible segments along its length. “Polished reed” is the processed form, favoured by furniture makers. The outer skin, colouring and joints have been sanded off and the stick is of a uniform diameter. Kooboo needs no additional finishing for use as a cane. Polished reed is somewhat porous, and lacks stiffness. On the other hand, polished reed is available in precise sizes and is very uniform. It is very attractive when finished with varnish or epoxy resin, which also helps correct the lack of stiffness. Some people prefer the slower action of the polished reed cane, which enables them to use a longer and thicker stick than their partner(s) could tolerate in the stiffer natural finish.

     How much damage a cane will do depends as much on the speed with which it travels as with its mass and diameter. A long stiff cane can achieve greater tip velocity than a shorter or thinner one. For a thin-ish cane 24 to 30 inches will be about right; for a thick one, 36 to 40 inches. If there is an “average” or “normal cane” it is about 5/16” in diameter and 32-35” long.

     The combination of length, thickness, and composition produces a balance of stiffness and flexibility called “bone.” How much bone you want is a matter of taste and experience as much as anything else. Natural rattan has more bone than the same species sanded to “polished reed.” Polished reed is a bit porous and needs to be sealed with a varnish, and this restores some of the stiffness. Natural rattan canes are often varnished because the resulting appearance is so attractive, though it adds little to the cane’s bone or durability.

       The infamous Singapore cane is roughly 1/2” in diameter and 48 inches long. The first 8-10” are soaked in water, overnight, before use. In the hands of fit and skilled police officials, this instrument is so savage that 12 blows are considered adequate corporal punishment (imposed in addition to fines and prison time) for felony crimes such as rape and robbery. (For more about the Singapore cane and the caning, see Issue #)

The Circle-Test Myth and Mystique

      There is a common belief that a “good” cane can be bent into a true circle, with the tip touching the handle. The problem is, this a test that can be performed about once!. If the cane passes the test, it was a good cane before testing! Only the longest canes can be treated this way without damage. The circle test is actually used by cane makers to evaluate uncut eight-foot lengths of cane.

Other Cane Materials

      Canes, or things serving the purpose of canes can be made of materials other than rattan. Nylon rod is denser than cane, and has less "bone." This promotes a slower motion that bruises more and cuts less. It is also nearly unbreakable. Fiberglass is very stiff and hard, which promotes extreme accuracy, and is very prone to cut skin.  Acrylic Rod ( Lucite™ or Plexiglas™) is extremely stiff and dense. In the thicknesses that can be used without undue breakage, it is extremely heavy and punishing.

      There are a number of choices in handle designs for canes. The oldest design, actually ties a circle into one end of the cane. The more modern style is a simple wrapping of ribbon or leather on a straight piece of cane, or a built-up handle made of several layers of leather or ribbon.

       The traditional Schoolmaster’s Cane has a crook handle, like a common walking cane.  In practice, the Modern style is more suited to supple wrist work, the Schoolmaster’s design, more suited to straight-arm work.

(Adam and Gillian's carry a variety of canes in rattan and other materials.
We buy rattan by the bale, and do the steaming and straightening in our workshop.
You can select your own length and diameter as well as style.)

The Linseed Oil Myth and Mystique

      A common belief about the care of canes is that putting the cane tip-down into a bottle of linseed oil for a week at a time every month will cause the oil to migrate up the fibres of the cane, keeping it flexible. The fact is that linseed oil is essentially colourless oil paint, and not a lubricant at all.  Fortunately, it does not migrate up the tip either, since with time, it becomes quite hard and dense — like old paint. What the linseed oil treatment does do is seal the tip of the cane, and glue small cracks together. Repeated wiping off of the excess “oil” give the cane a deep multi-coat varnish-like finish. It is probably better simply to wipe the cane with linseed oil, hang it vertically, and then wet the tip with the oil and allow to dry. Letting the cane rest on its tip for a week at a time can put permanent warp into the cane.

Care of Canes

   Canes Break! There’s no escaping that.  Sooner or later your favourite will divide itself into a number of pieces. If you are lucky it will be at the very tip, or close to the grip. Then the broken part can be cut off, the tip rounded with a file or a sharp knife, and additional use gotten from the smaller cane. There are a number of ways, however, to help prevent premature failure. Canes should be stored absolutely flat, or hanging vertically. They should also be used only for their intended purpose, hitting soft things. (Not edges of tables, counters or wood chairs!)  Whipping a cane back and forth in mid-air, or too much bending between the hands will greatly reduce its useful life. Varnished canes may benefit from having their tips sealed, while unvarnished ones can be kept flexible longer by exposing them to very high humidity once in a while. Hanging the cane behind a bathroom door while taking a hot shower does the job nicely.

Mistress - A poem




Mistress


Can I find the way
to the Mistress of my dreams
in this strange, dark land

where the horror waits
to scour the depths of my soul,
leaving me in tears

where did this come from,
that I must hide in the shadows,
trembling like a leaf

adrift in the gales
inconsiderate of fate,
suddenly cast down

to await the hand
of Sha Sha who gives sweet pain,
binds me to every heart

sudden subtle words
that send shivers down my spine
of pure ecstasy

because I am Hers,
I wish to give all my soul,
put it in Her Hands

LED every caress me
with such strength and dominance
I will cry out that

to be forgiven of
all those forbidden desires
that lie in my heart

She will take each one,
When she, in Her great wisdom,
guides me to any love.


tiffani pontchartrain
August 7, 2005

16 Mar 2013

BDSM AND THE RECESSION



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The Collar. It's meaning & Ceremonies

Family left without heat for nine weeks



By Linda Fort
February 07, 2013 (SOURCE)

A mother-of-six was left without hot water and proper heating for nearly nine weeks after the council “lost her paperwork”.

 Through the bitter cold and snowy winter weeks with sub-zero temperatures, Kelly Hughes, 30, of Heroes Walk in Whitley, and her family huddled round two electric heaters and showered at the homes of relatives since the first week in December.

 Mrs Hughes said her gas boiler started to play up in her Reading Borough Council-owned house late last year. The council sent out an engineer to fix it, it failed again and another engineer came out and fixed it again.

 It finally gave out in the first week of December and Mrs Hughes was told it needed a new part.

 The council gave her two electric heaters and her wait for the repair began.

 The weather turned bitterly cold and the snow started to fall.

 She said: “The house was really cold. We used one heater in the living room and moved the other one between the children’s bedrooms. We didn’t have any hot water for nine weeks either.”

 Mrs Hughes’s children – aged two to 14 – had to go off to family and friends to shower. “I bathed the little one in the house, warming up pans of water, but we couldn’t all do that,” she said.

 She said so long without proper heating had made the house bitterly cold and there was mould growing on walls in the coldest corners.

 She said: “I rang the council almost every day to try to find out what was happening. At one point they said they had lost my paperwork.”

 Finally, at the beginning of last week, a contractor came out to look at the boiler – and condemned it.

 She said: “It was obvious they should have done that at the beginning of December.”

 On Thursday last week, Mrs Hughes had high hopes someone would actually come out the following day to replace her boiler and in fact her boiler was in the end replaced on Friday.

 She said: “I think it is a disgrace. I don’t like complaining, but I just didn’t know what else to do.

 “It didn’t look as though they were going to do anything until my dad threatened to speak to the newspaper.”

 Reading Borough Council spokesman Oscar Mortali said: “We are sorry for the obvious inconvenience caused to Ms Hughes and her family for the delay in dealing with this problem and understand that the length of time this has taken to resolve is not acceptable.

 “A new boiler was fitted on Friday last week and Ms Hughes will be offered compensation for the use of electricity and for the obvious inconvenience.

 “The delay relates to a problem reported in December.

 “An engineer visited the next day, advised new parts were needed and we supplied Ms Hughes with temporary heaters while we waited for those parts to arrive.

 “However an administrative error meant the parts did not arrive until late January and it was then found a entirely new boiler was required.

 “This was fitted as a matter of urgency on Friday last week.”


Here are SOME of the comments from the public:









This is a story I read in my local newspaper. The story itself isn't noteworthy but the comments and reactions from some readers made me angry. the appalling attitude and opinions of some people are offensive to me. the media has done a good job demonising anyone claiming 'Benefits', giving people a scapegoat, allowing society opportunity to kick those whom they think are 'the cheats, low-lives, scroungers who consume our taxes. 

(Please view pie-chart taken from government welfare site AND it is BEFORE the cuts)



The reality is far from that described by the media. If you breakdown welfare spending into sections, it is clear that the Governments top expenditure  (36%) is pensions!! Even if you added up Council tax benefit, Housing benefit,Disability Benefit, Employment & support, Income support and job seekers, it still amounts to less than the State pension and pensioner benefits.

What's next people, we start picking on the pensioners as scrounger because they didn't invest in private pensions???

The Party for People Who Hate People


Here is an article I discovered on Huffington....... It matches up with a slightly modified well known poem I posed on my FB some time ago.... (Below article). 

Lets blame the downfall of society & the economy on everyone except ourselves...oh wait, I can't say that because I'm not a Conservative party supporter.


The fat, thin, elderly, young, weak, poor, sick, those with or without pets and anyone who reads anything, particularly facts, are the "root of all problems", said someone in Parliament somewhere today. The government announced that these would be the targets of their new policies to lower the debt or perhaps deficit - depending on which week it is and what they said last time - for 2013.

 According to a party spokesperson there are two major factors for this fresh, new stance. Firstly they are taking into consideration that absolutely none of their plans to kick-start the economy have worked so far and they have no other ideas. Secondly they've looked at the way that countries such as Iceland and now even the US are gradually clawing their way back into the international market, and have decided to ignore their tactics as that would be too sensible and no way as fun as "just killing off the population".

 Obese people are the first to be targeted because, as the Health Secretary said "they are easy targets on account of there being more to fire at. Harder to miss you see? Why can't I just shoot them? Who makes these bloody laws anyway?"

 Anyone whose BMI scale is higher than that of any of the athletes who won gold shiny things at the Olympics, will be forced to go to the gym or have their benefits cut. The hope is that without benefits these 'money gulpers' will have less money to be able to afford to eat decent and healthy food, therefore increasing their size rapidly and dying of heart attacks before the welfare system has to deal with their ungrateful selves.

 The think tank study into this suggests that their "whale-like carcasses can be used to burn as fuel for our fancy cars and jet planes or to create more soylent green than the average impoverished orphan. This could then feed several impoverished orphans at once so they can work in factories longer." Next up are the elderly who the government suggest that it's best to just "freeze back into work". The Department of Health, working alongside the Department of Work and Pensions on this area of debt reduction say that by taking away winter fuel allowance elderly people will be more inclined to go out and work in order to stay warm via movement and heaters in the workplace.

 "Should all go to plan", said another spokesperson to the one earlier, "their homes will be too cold to return to, and they'll have to stay at work all night. Then we can repossess their flats and house and sell them to millionaires to keep those whacking great truffles in". Calling it the 'Work To Live, Until You Die As You Haven't Long Left' scheme, or WTLUYDAYHLL for short, it's hoped that this will save the government tens of pounds. Ultimately this'll mean they can definitely continue to ignore any tax not coming in from huge companies that take them to lunch, as they really do like lunch.

 All this should ensure that taxpayers money is not spent on those who "suck the life out of the tax system like poverty tramp leeches, disgusting, disgusting poor people. Urgh, urgh I feel sick thinking about them" and rather on increasing minister's salaries along a higher rate than the 121% increase they've had in the last five years. The Secretary For Work and Pensions aims to change his job title to Lord of The Strong, Damner Of The Weak and Pathetic to highlight exactly what he has to deal with. He said: "I just don't understand why these people feel they should have anything ever. We've taken away lots of jobs and now they are complaining they can't get jobs. Well, I think it's as though they aren't even trying to get the jobs that we've made sure aren't there. And if they aren't trying, then why on earth should they be allowed to eat, or stay warm, or get around or just generally not die?" 


Changing their slogan to 'The Party for People Who Hate People Who Aren't Their Friends' they are hoping this new 'honest' face will increase votes in 2015. Or at least kill off anyone who might vote against them. Over the next six months its rumoured all houses without working chimneys will have them restored so children can sweep them for sixpence and 'stop trying to learn anything, the bloody skivers' while plans to use disabled people as speed bumps in roads are still being discussed.

 The PM stated: "Look we can't just splash money on an Olympics and Jubilee every year so we've just given up trying to pretend we think you deserve to be even remotely happy. Unless someone comes up with a better idea you'll just have to knuckle down and accept 2013 is going to be crap for everyone that is too lazy to afford to go on a skiing holiday."




First they came for the communists,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a communist.

Then they came for the socialists,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a trade unionist.

Then they came for those on welfare,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't on welfare.

Then they came for the public sector workers,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a public sector worker.

Then they came for the pensioners,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a pensioner.

Then they came for the asylum seekers,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't an asylum seeker.

Then they came for the foreign passport holders,
and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a foreign passport holder.

Then they came for those not British born,
and I didn't speak out because I was British.

Then they came for me,
and there was no one left to speak for me.

Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...