ANSWERS:
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BDSM is a technique to allow you to achieve reproductive
success. In animals, normally a dominant partner is the one to spread his or
her genes, so it makes sense to be attracted to dominance as you are mating
with the head of the group.
In contrast, if you are a low ranking member, one of the few
ways you may be able to become attractive to someone else is to make them feel
powerful and in control.
BDSM is an extreme manifestation of those urges.
Animals have a natural desire to feel good about themselves,
and have a natural drive towards power and social standing and feeling powerful
helps them achieve those goals. Consequently being submissive becomes a mating
strategy. On the one hand it satisfies someone dominant's need to feel
dominant. On the other hand it allows someone who is submissive to be able to
mate.
This paper says a bit more :
The sexual arousal by lower- and/or higher-ranking partner
appears to be a manifestation of a successful reproductive strategy, e.g.
behavior connected to natural human behavior. Moreover, the sexual arousal by
overemphasized hierarchy (e.g. dominant-slave play) considered to be a part of
sadomasochistic sex (or so called BDSM) may represent an overemphasised
manifestation of this reproductive strategy
High hierarchical status is associated with increased
reproduction success in mammals. However the subordinate males are not totally
eliminated from reproduction due to mate choice and alternative male
strategies. Thus; the sexual arousal by higher-ranking or lower-ranking partner
in humans may represent a proximate mechanism for realizing a reproductive strategy.LINK HERE
Will Wister, 1000s of hours studying psychology.
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Can't say I ever saw myself answering a question like
this! But I'll defer to Isabella
Sinclaire, an extremely articulate dominatrix who takes Q&A on our
site. The question she received was:
Q: "Are there any common-thread life themes amongst
your clients who derive
pleasure from pain and humiliation? Do they frequently have issues with
their mothers or
other authoritative women in their lives?"
And her answer was ...
A: "There is the
life long debate of nature v/s nurture and vice versa. I've seen it from both
perspectives. Childhood trauma and unusual scenarios play a strong part in how
we develop as adults but it isn't textbook black and white. What one child
perceives as a trauma may not affect another child that experiences the same
trauma. Playing hiding seek in your mom's closet around her shoes doesn't make
you a shoe fetishist. But it may trigger innate, hardwired desires in someone. Being humiliated by your older sisters hot
friend doesn't make you into humiliation.
Being spanked as a form of discipline as a child doesn't make you
develop the urge to spank or be spanked in everyone who was spanked but many
who like it, attribute it to childhood.
The scenarios can go on and on.
From my understanding, a humans nervous system isn't fully
developed until early 20's so pretty much anything thing that happens to you as
a child can affect your interests, emotions and desires as an adult and in ways
that beyond anyone's control."
Also, no affiliation but I heard an NPR interview recently
with Melissa Forbes, a former dominatrix who ultimately left the business and
wrote a book about it called "Whip-Smart." I haven't read it yet but I was impressed
with her interview and suspect it might help answer some of your questions:
Frank Hajdu, Co-Founder of Jobstr.com
Remember that evolution is indifferent to activities that
don't affect survival, so survival irrelevant traits will occur and not be
selected out.
I don't know if there is any evidence pro or con there being
a genetic predisposition towards
S&M.
George Sawyer, Teaching courses on esoteric sexuality and
sensuality since 1989
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