Many times I have encountered clients / submissives who come
to me damaged and fearful. One may assume that the submissive has been damaged
by personal experiences, social outcasting, relationship failure or an aspect
separate to the BDSM lifestyle. Your assumptions would be incorrect. Most, if
not all of my damaged submissives are those damaged by a Top/ Dominant. Usually
a Mistress with little practical experience, learned and practiced skills, no
understanding of the psychology of BDSM and definitely no understanding of
safe, sane & consensual.
- SM practitioners must strive to make their SM Safe
- SM practitioners must strive to make their living sane.
- Obtain consent, and respect the limits and of others.
Most know the basic 3 rules of SSC within S&M. But within these rules are subtle difficulties. Definitions, clarity and a true understanding of what SSC actually means is needed to make these rules work.
Anyone wishing to enter the BDSM realm, whether as a
submissive or a Dominant, should make themselves familiar with the proposal
below, which outlines a more indepth understanding of what Safe, Sane & Consensual ACTUALLY should mean.
Below is a proposed definition of SSC (courtesy of LeatherRoses) which ALL tops should read, understand and practice within their
S&M.