BDSM & Feminism: An insider's view

Five BASIC Types of Submission

1. Fetish bottom: 

“I worship your boots and want to serve them.”Fetish bottoms differ from other types of fetishist in that the object they eroticise is associated with a top. They are almost invariably male, and in the pure form have little need to interact with the top or to submit their will in real life encounters.

2. Masochist: 

“I want you to use the needles tonight.”Masochists take things a step further and grant the top authority to subject them to pain or humiliation, or perhaps to physical control such as bondage. However, the dynamic of these scenes is still one of equality, and it is clear that everything is done for mutual gratification.

3. Roleplay submissive: 

“Can I be the Girl-Caught-Shoplifting tonight?”This involves assuming roles for a temporary scene (from a few hours up to a few days) which would normally be associated with inequality and with one person having power or authority over the other: for example, a store detective blackmailing a shoplifter into obeying him. However, it is understood that the goal of the scene is direct mutual satisfaction for both top and bottom (eg, that the “shoplifter’s” desire to be held down, “ravished” and sworn at is catered to.)

4. Servant:

“What can I do for you now, Sir?”This can sometimes be difficult to distinguish from a long term relationship involving role-play submission. However, the essential feature of a servant or service orientated submissive / bottom is their desire to do things purely for their top’s benefit (literally, to serve.) Hence, a servant may derive great satisfaction from doing housework at the top’s home. Nevertheless, this kind of service is voluntary and is an example of “ongoing voluntary submission”. The bottom constantly chooses to stay and to serve, even if that choice is just implicit in their continued presence and obedience.

5. Slave:

“You have the authority to decide things for me, Master.” A slave differs from other types of bottom in that they have no (enforceable) rights with respect to the top. In particular, they cannot remove themselves from the relationship, and cannot themselves chose to impose restrictions on what is done to them. This lack of rights in the face of the top’s acknowledged authority over them constitutes ownership. The difference between a servant and a slave can be summarised by: “Ownership rather than obedience is the defining quality of slavery; obedience rather than ownership is the defining quality of submission.”

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A chosen profession. - Part 1

Part 1: 

Occasionally, very occasionally I wonder if my chosen profession is a good one. The thoughts usually come from self doubt, ideas instilled in my mind from youth and a general quietness on the business front.

I question the reasons for my career choice, whether I am a good dominatrix, if I am too hard or too soft. Sometimes I have to remind myself that, for whatever reason I have chosen this path, it is, like every other profession, a job - albeit, with sadistic differences - it pays the bills.

In my years as a professional domme, I have met many Mistresses and Masters. Some 'live' the life 24/7, some pretend to live the life, some see it as a means to an end and don't enjoy their work. Others, like myself, don't live a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, yet enjoy and relish their work.

I chose not to like a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle because I am not wholly one character or personality. In private, I am quite shy, enjoy my own company and would rather spend a Sunday afternoon tending to my plants in my garden or rescuing insects, bugs and other creatures from natural disasters. I find the company of animals far more satisfying than the company of humans - I don't have a high regard for the human race. That doesn't mean I'm with Greenpeace or wear open toed sandals with my socks either. This is just part of who I am - a complex individual - one who enjoys solitude, philosophy, politics, educating the mind and meditation. 

But, there is the side of me which is sadistic, wicked and controlling. When I was very young, my family used to laugh at my two distinct characteristics - the gentle and the wicked -  blaming it on generations of "Anatolian warrior blood" from my mother's side. Maybe so..who knows. That is why I am comfortable with who I am in the dungeon, relish it and feed off it - but choose solitude at home.

Part 2: ..... soon

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