Why Does BDSM Need Activism?

[Content Note: Discussions of rape and sexual assault. Assume that all links have the same content warning.]

ORIGINAL ARTICLE: LINK

You may have noticed that I have called myself a “BDSM activist” in the past but, to some, it may not be immediately clear exactly why BDSM needs activism. The foundation of BDSM activism is sexual freedom and autonomy: defending the ability of consenting adults in private to engage in (and view) whatever activities they like.

BDSM safety and HIV

SUBJECT BDSM Etiquette BDSM Risk Reduction Drugs and Alcohol Safe Disposal of Syringes and Other Sharps Sexual Health HIV MRSA (Methicillin-Resistant Staphylococcus Aureus) Hepatitis C (HCV) Other STIs The Vagina or Front Hole The Penis The Rectum Lubricants Condoms, Gloves and Dams Toys Cleaning Toys Douching and Enemas Watersports, etc. Urethral Sounds Rimming Temperature Sucking, Blowing, Licking Restraints and Bondage Pinching Electricity Percussion Play Whipping Fisting Blood Sports/Piercing Shaving, Cutting, and Branding Other Resources

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FINANCIAL SLAVES ARE NOT SUGAR DADDIES - OR ARE THEY??

"I WENT TO A CLASS TO LEARN HOW TO FINANCIALLY DOMINATE MEN" By Alison Stevenson Nov 8 2013

Last week, I went to a financial domination class in downtown Los Angeles, hoping to learn valuable lessons on how to empower myself. After years of getting screwed over by the Man, I was ready to screw the Man myself. The class was at a place called the Den of Inequity, which is a BDSM club that also puts together workshops.

The hidden language if Kinksters

The Hidden Language of Kinksters | VICE United Kingdom

BDSM, Personality and Mental Health

By Scott A. Mcgreal, www.psychologytoday.com View Original July 25th, 2013

A recent study on the psychological profile of BDSM (bondage and discipline, sadism-masochism) practitioners has attracted a great deal of media attention, with headlines proclaiming that “S&M practitioners are healthier and less neurotic than those with a tamer sex life.” Although BDSM has often in the past been thought to be associated with psychopathology, the authors of the study argued that practitioners are generally psychologically healthy, if not more so in some respects, compared to the general population. However, it should be noted that most of the apparent psychological benefits of being a practitioner applied to those in the dominant rather than the submissive role. Additionally, the study findings need to be treated with some caution because it is not clear that the comparison group is a good representation of the general population.

It takes a rare woman to be a dominatrix

6 Slightly Tongue in Cheek Rules for the Dating Game

I’m trying to post something on here once a week and Friday seems a good day to do so. But this Friday I’m stuck in business meetings all day so instead I’ll have to throw something together quickly and do it now for you my liebchens.

Men! Yes you over there; stop slouching and pay attention.

Do you have trouble dating the fairer sex? Do they look through you, over you and even past you whenever you try to engage them in conversation? Fear not my friend, help is at hand.

Now I’m no oil painting. I’m going more for the rugged good looks here, if rugged means like a piece of weathered concrete sitting in the weeds having decayed and fallen from a ruined building. I have no secret talents and no, well not the last time I checked anyway, spectacular parts of my anatomy guaranteed to make all women swoon at my feet. But I have lots of fantastically beautiful women as close friends. How? I shall swiftly pull aside the curtain of closely guarded secrets in the attraction game and reveal 6 startling nuggets of information to you.

1. Be confident in who you are. If you’re a grey-faced civil servant from the home counties then be sure in your heart and mind you’re the best darn civil servant there ever was.
2. Don’t boast, be self-deprecating. No one likes a boaster. Instead make fun of yourself a little.
3. Don’t be afraid. You’d be amazed to know the beautiful and sexy lady across the room just wants someone to talk to but all the men think, “She’ll never want to talk to me.” She probably will and what have you got to lose?
4. Have a sense of humour! Women are human too; they love to have a good laugh as much as anyone else. This is especially true if you can combine it with #2 above.
5. Be clean. No, not by telling politically correct anecdotes and jokes. I mean get a bath or a shower, and a shave too (those of us with beards are excused a complete shave as long as you tidy that fuzz to something neat instead of the abandoned bird’s nest you sport now). The ladies don't like a smelly guy and why should they? Would you like a smelly girl? (Don't answer that.)
6. Be yourself. We think we’re good at pretending to be someone else, someone interesting and exciting, but the girls will see right through that in a second. We’re all unique so celebrate that fact.

There’s a lot more I could tell you but I’d risk being thrown out of the cool guys club and we don’t want that to happen. But, if you book a session with the wonderfully sexy and beautiful Mistress Leyla let me know and I’ll reveal more… ;-)

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