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Playing with pain and power is risky. There is no getting
around it. It’s why, as a community, we spend time reading, practicing and
attending workshops to make sure we can give our partner the experience they
want, in the safest way possible.
In kink we play with the mind just as much as we play with
the body. And just like the body, there are certain things that we need to be
aware of to make our play as safe as possible.
Mental illness and psychological trauma are an invisible
epidemic in Western society. A worldwide survey of women recently revealed that
one in three women worldwide has been the victim of sexual assault. And if you
look at the combined experience of physical and sexual assault in Australia,
the number of women who have experienced some kind of trauma is one in two.
Canes have a deserved reputation as The Victorian Terror
Weapon. To most submissives, they mean severe punishment; to
sensation-seeking S/M bottoms, overload.
If we have care and patience, however, canes can be used in a loving and
sensuous way. The very stiffness of a
good cane, that makes a hard stroke so intense, allows the lightest taps to be
given with perfect control. And a light
canestroke is easy to aim, unlike a flexible whip that sags and flops at low
power. In the kind of sensuous play I'm
describing here, light strokes are far more prevalent and important than heavy
ones.