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8 Dec 2014

Anti-SM and pro-sex Feminism - What do you think?


Below is an extract from Emma Turley's BDSM psychology and sexuality thesis submitted to the University of Huddersfield - FULL THESIS HERE 

It describes very well the views of both 'anti-s&m feminists' and the 'pro-sex feminists'. Both sides make interesting points, although I do not agree with some or even understand how they came to their conclusions. This extract is a good place to start before moving on to what the 'anti-S&M feminists' actually feel regarding S&M.

3 Dec 2014

Below is the new R18 section from The official BBFC Guidelines: 

By the way.... A child of 12 can go into a bookshop and BUY the 50 shades of Gray BOOK! 

The R18 category is a special and legally-restricted classification primarily for explicit works of consenting sex or strong fetish material involving adults. Films may only be shown to adults in specially licensed cinemas, and video works may be supplied to adults only in licensed sex shops. R18 video works may not be supplied by mail order.

The following content is not acceptable:

material which is in breach of the criminal law, including material judged to be obscene under the
current interpretation of the Obscene Publications Act 1959 (see Annexe)
material (including dialogue) likely to encourage an interest in sexually abusive activity which may include adults role-playing as non-adults
the portrayal of sexual activity which involves real or apparent lack of consent. Any form of hysical restraint which prevents participants from indicating a withdrawal of consent
the infliction of pain or acts which may cause lasting physical harm, whether real or (in a sexual context) simulated. Some allowance may be made for moderate, non-abusive, consensual activity
penetration by any object associated with violence or likely to cause physical harm
sexual threats, humiliation or abuse which do not form part of a clearly consenting role-playing  game. Strong physical or verbal abuse, even if consensual, is unlikely to be acceptable These Guidelines will be applied to the same standard regardless of sexual orientation of the activity portrayed.

British porn quietly censored......

Pornography produced in the UK was quietly censored today through an amendment to the 2003 Communications Act, and the measures appear to take aim at female pleasure.

The Audiovisual Media Services Regulations 2014 requires that video-on-demand (VoD) online porn now adhere to the same guidelines laid out for DVD sex shop-type porn by the British Board of Film Censors (BBFC).
Seemingly arbitrarily deciding what is nice sex and what is not nice sex, the board's ruling on 'content that is not acceptable' (p.23) effectively bans the following acts from being depicted by British pornography producers:

26 Nov 2014

NO EXCUSES: There is a list for every budget.

AMAZON WISHLIST: NO EXCUSES: There is a list for every budget!

Oh of course I love presents. Who doesn't? A delightful session is by far a super gift, but, if you would like to supplement your physical servitude with additional offerings (which makes a good first impression) please do so. For those of you wishing to bring an additional gift when visiting me, here are a few ideas.I must stress that these gifts are absolutely non-compulsory. NO EXCUSES: There is a list for every budget!






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Prudery and Feminism

I feel very strongly about this topic: Feminists who think they know what is best for me know nothing.


There's a New Prudery in Feminism and I Hate It | VICE | United Kingdom




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24 Nov 2014

A practical system of reality checks within S&M. What it means to have Safety, Sanity & Consent.


Many times I have encountered clients / submissives who come to me damaged and fearful. One may assume that the submissive has been damaged by personal experiences, social outcasting, relationship failure or an aspect separate to the BDSM lifestyle. Your assumptions would be incorrect. Most, if not all of my damaged submissives are those damaged by a Top/ Dominant. Usually a Mistress with little practical experience, learned and practiced skills, no understanding of the psychology of BDSM and definitely no understanding of safe, sane & consensual.


  1. SM practitioners must strive to make their SM Safe
  2. SM practitioners must strive to make their living sane.
  3. Obtain consent, and respect the limits and of others.


Most know the basic 3 rules of SSC within S&M. But within these rules are subtle difficulties. Definitionsclarity and a true understanding of what SSC actually means is needed to make these rules work.

Anyone wishing to enter the BDSM realm, whether as a submissive or a Dominant, should make themselves familiar with the proposal below, which outlines a more indepth understanding of what Safe, Sane & Consensual ACTUALLY should mean. 

Below is a proposed definition of SSC (courtesy of LeatherRoses) which ALL tops should read, understand and practice within their S&M.


Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...