Broadmindedness - @crueldama

https://twitter.com/crueldama

There are many complaints about how BDSM is being distorting by attitudes and behaviors of people who start.

Well, I can say I'm old school and I like protocol, for example, but I don't agree in condemning those who do things in a different way from mine.

How quickly we forget that we too were novices once! Or that we don't all need to do the same things...

I admit that I am very picky about my slaves, but that's the difference, I am picky with mine, what the rest of the world do is not my problem.

It would be good to recall that the purpose of all is to enjoy and to be happy in our way. Is that Dominatrix-X does things that you would never do? Well, probably Dominatrix-X really enjoys doing all those things you criticize. There are no dogmas of faith and each does or does not do what each one want.

There will always be newbies, besides haters and wannabies. But not only in BDSM.

I like to live in this world, with all its diversity. I'm tolerant, and my friends are not limited to those who think exactly like me or those that do the same things.

First of all, I like people who dare to be.

#BDSM 101 - End of Semester examination paper -How well would you do?

COURTESY OF A KIND DOM

If you would like to have a go at this perhaps you might like to copy it into the comments section or onto your own blog. I would be very pleased to have responses emailed to me (at beaudejournee@yahoo.co.uk please.) I will try to reply to any that I receive (with assessment and grading of course!)

Good luck

BDSM 101

End of Semester examination paper

Answer all questions

Time allowed: 90 minutes

Section A

1. RACK or SSC?

a) What do these acronyms mean? Explain in detail.b) Why are they important?c) What are the advantages and disadvantages, strengths and weaknesses of each?d) Which do you adhere to? Justify your decision.

2. Trust is key to any BDSM relationship. Give an example from your own experience of where trust has broken down and describe the consequences.

3. Overheard at a munch. "In the end it is all about sex isn't it?" What do you think he meant? Was he right?

4. Sarah and James were in a close BDSM relationship for 5 years. Sarah suffered from bipolar disorder which was mostly controlled through medication. Before meeting James, Sarah used to self-harm, often through cutting herself. Whilst in the BDSM relationship with James she no longer felt a need to do this. Their BDSM play was somewhat extreme. It involved needle play, stress bondage positions and heavy beatings including use of a whip. Eventually the relationship broke down. Some months later Sarah went to a police station with her lawyer. She claimed she had been restrained, whipped and beaten by James and although she acquiesced at the time, that because of her mental condition she was unable to give informed consent. She showed photographs of scars on her back and breasts. How should the police respond?

Section B

1. Write a haiku about pain.

2. Complete this paragraph, "I am a submissive/switch/dominant (delete as appropriate) because ... The final paragraph should contain EXACTLY 100 words.

3. Write a short story or poem that illustrates the sensuality of submission.

Sex workers rights: The feminist criticism of the industry has sparked an aggressive debate

Thank you to: Pandora Blake and Niki Adams - www.politics.co.uk

Last week the New Statesman organised a debate on "buying and selling sex" at Conway Hall, in collaboration with London Thinks. Here, Niki Adams of the English Collective of Prostitutes and Pandora Blake of the Sex Worker's Open University, who were both on the panel, address some of the accusations which emerged during the discussion.

Contrary to what chair Samira Ahmed seemed to feel, this debate was not about sex workers with different experiences trying to find common ground. It was not about propping up a flawed binary between 'happy hooker' and 'helpless victim' (categories that are both used to silence sex workers who speak up). And it wasn't a stimulating academic conversation exploring ideological difference. Sex work is a survival strategy used by real people. We are further marginalised and made vulnerable to violence when any aspect of sex work is criminalised.

Misogynists are losing it. Mad Max: Fury Road angers "Men's Rights Activists"

via giphy.com

To be honest, these little boys have not learned their place. They are hiding behind the glass shield of men's rights, which will do them no good - in the end. 

Thank you to: David Futrelle - www.wehuntedthemammoth.com

"So you may have heard vague rumours that there’s a new Mad Max film coming out. You also may have heard that it stars Charlize Theron as a shaven-headed post apocalyptical badass named Furiosa alongside Tom Hardy as Mr. Max.

Well, the manly men of the Manospshere are having none of it. On the always terrible Return of Kings, the most-trafficked blog in the Manosphere, YouTube bloviator Aaron Clarey issues a clarion call to his fellow right-thinking men, urging them to

Not only REFUSE to see the movie, but spread the word to as many men as possible. … Because if [men] sheepishly attend and Fury Road is a blockbuster, then you, me, and all the other men (and real women) in the world will never be able to see a real action movie ever again that doesn’t contain some damn political lecture or moray about feminism, SJW-ing, and socialism.

Er, “moray?”

6 Ways to Not Be a Terrible Trans Ally - Tips for LGBT organizations and activists

Tips for LGBT organizations and activists BY BRYNN TANNEHILL

Originally featured in Advocate.com

When our oldest daughter was 2 years old and in day care, she had a habit of taste-testing everything. Thankfully, nothing in the day care room was toxic, but we found ourselves dispensing oddly specific advice in the morning like, “Please don’t eat the green Play-doh today.”

OH DEAR! Anti-Porn Feminists are at it again

"BDSM is abuse and rape culture, The Sixth Siren joined Fetlife to prove it"

Oh dear...did they prove it?

I find the views of some of these ill informed feminist ‘types’ quite insulting. The other day, surfing the web, I came across an article about the BDSM as abuse and BDSM inciting a rape culture written by the “Anti-porn feminists”. The whole thing made my blood boil – literally. ( I will post link and article later) The article cites its EVIDENCE as FETLIFE – how one feminist infiltrated Fetlife and noted all the goings on.

This whole joining Fetlife and writing about it would be fine IF she had written about the whole picture – But alas, no. She chose to write ONLY topics & conversations out of context.

Below are a few points I’d like to make regarding her article:

The Foggy Edge of Sexual Consent

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