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9 Jun 2015

Transgender Tinder Users Are Being Temporarily Banned For 'Misconduct'

The Huffington Post UK  |  By Sophie Brown

Transgender Tinder Users Are Being Temporarily Banned For 'Misconduct'

Transgender people are apparently being banned from dating app, Tinder, after being reported for 'misconduct'.
The banned users have taken to social media to express their frustration at having their accounts suspended, with many believing that they're being discriminated against because of their gender identity.

The app has a 'report' function, that gives all users the option to flag inappropriate messages or photos, bad offline behaviour and spam accounts.
It appears that transphobic users are misusing the report function to alert Tinder to the accounts of transgender users, who subsequently have their accounts locked while Tinder investigate.

In a statement about the banning process, Tinder said: "Each banned account is individually assessed. If we find that a user has been wrongfully banned, then we ‘unban’ their account."

"This includes instances when transgender users are reported by others, but haven't violated any of our community standards."
Tinder currently only has male and female options for users to select when they sign up, and there's no feature for trans preferences. A spokesperson for the app said: "Unfortunately, [only being able to select male or female] can lead to some users reporting other users when they unexpectedly appear in their recommendations."


"Tinder recognises and believes in the importance of being inclusive of all gender identities and is working towards optimising the experience for everyone."

It's hard to imagine anyone going as far as reporting someone for being transgender, but according to Twitter, there's a huge number of transphobic people who think that it's ok...

Isabella - All dressed up

http://sinfulandwicked.tumblr.com/post/38671698866/isabella

26 May 2015

DOMINATRIX

spawn-of-kane


Broadmindedness - @crueldama

https://twitter.com/crueldama
There are many complaints about how BDSM is being distorting by attitudes and behaviors of people who start.

Well, I can say I'm old school and I like protocol, for example, but I don't agree in condemning those who do things in a different way from mine.

How quickly we forget that we too were novices once! Or that we don't all need to do the same things...

I admit that I am very picky about my slaves, but that's the difference, I am picky with mine, what the rest of the world do is not my problem.

It would be good to recall that the purpose of all is to enjoy and to be happy in our way. Is that Dominatrix-X does things that you would never do? Well, probably Dominatrix-X really enjoys doing all those things you criticize. There are no dogmas of faith and each does or does not do what each one want.

There will always be newbies, besides haters and wannabies. But not only in BDSM.

I like to live in this world, with all its diversity. I'm tolerant, and my friends are not limited to those who think exactly like me or those that do the same things.


First of all, I like people who dare to be.

#BDSM 101 - End of Semester examination paper -How well would you do?

COURTESY OF A KIND DOM

If you would like to have a go at this perhaps you might like to copy it into the comments section or onto your own blog. I would be very pleased to have responses emailed to me (at beaudejournee@yahoo.co.uk please.) I will try to reply to any that I receive (with assessment and grading of course!)

Good luck


BDSM 101
End of Semester examination paper
Answer all questions

Time allowed: 90 minutes

Section A

1. RACK or SSC?
a) What do these acronyms mean? Explain in detail.b) Why are they important?c) What are the advantages and disadvantages, strengths and weaknesses of each?d) Which do you adhere to? Justify your decision.


2. Trust is key to any BDSM relationship. Give an example from your own experience of where trust has broken down and describe the consequences.

3. Overheard at a munch. "In the end it is all about sex isn't it?" What do you think he meant? Was he right?

4. Sarah and James were in a close BDSM relationship for 5 years. Sarah suffered from bipolar disorder which was mostly controlled through medication. Before meeting James, Sarah used to self-harm, often through cutting herself. Whilst in the BDSM relationship with James she no longer felt a need to do this. Their BDSM play was somewhat extreme. It involved needle play, stress bondage positions and heavy beatings including use of a whip. Eventually the relationship broke down. Some months later Sarah went to a police station with her lawyer. She claimed she had been restrained, whipped and beaten by James and although she acquiesced at the time, that because of her mental condition she was unable to give informed consent. She showed photographs of scars on her back and breasts. How should the police respond?

Section B

1. Write a haiku about pain.

2. Complete this paragraph, "I am a submissive/switch/dominant (delete as appropriate) because ... The final paragraph should contain EXACTLY 100 words.


3. Write a short story or poem that illustrates the sensuality of submission.



Sex workers rights: The feminist criticism of the industry has sparked an aggressive debate

Thank you to: Pandora Blake and Niki Adams - www.politics.co.uk

Last week the New Statesman organised a debate on "buying and selling sex" at Conway Hall, in collaboration with London Thinks. Here, Niki Adams of the English Collective of Prostitutes and Pandora Blake of the Sex Worker's Open University, who were both on the panel, address some of the accusations which emerged during the discussion.

Contrary to what chair Samira Ahmed seemed to feel, this debate was not about sex workers with different experiences trying to find common ground. It was not about propping up a flawed binary between 'happy hooker' and 'helpless victim' (categories that are both used to silence sex workers who speak up). And it wasn't a stimulating academic conversation exploring ideological difference. Sex work is a survival strategy used by real people. We are further marginalised and made vulnerable to violence when any aspect of sex work is criminalised.

Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...