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15 Mar 2013

BDSM Forced Feminization - a Guide for Female Dominants and Male Submissives

DEVIANT ART

In the world of female dominance, one of the most prevalent methods of subduing a man is the forced feminization of a strong, decidedly male man. The interesting thing is that this seems to be a prevalent fantasy amongst male submissives. They need this when they are submitting to a female dominant. What does this entail though and what makes it even more effective?

Forced feminization starts with the changing of a male name into a female name like Patrick into Patricia or creating a new name that has nothing in common with the submissive's current name. The male submissive is also referred to as a "little girl", "slut" or "whore". The male genitals are often renamed as well to make them seem female e.g. little patsy or something like that. Sometimes the genitals are bound to hide it and make the male seem even more female. Chastity also plays a large role in making sure that the male forgets that he is the dominant person and that his sexual needs are more important than the woman's needs. He becomes painfully aware that his male genitals now mean nothing as he has become a sissy and something to be used and made fun of by superior women or men. Once again, this is consensual and these men want and need to be treated this way.

 To add to the effect of a sissy, the male is also dressed in high heels, lacy underwear and uniforms universally used by male dominants when they role-play with fem submissives. These would include little girl dresses, cheerleader outfits, French maid uniforms and lingerie only. The idea is to make the male look like a woman. He will be forced to shave and will often be reminded of his place with spankings or canings while dressed this way. Remember that this is not a crossdresser - this man is forced to wear these clothes, even if he would never choose to wear it himself.

 The male sissy will also be expected to perform tasks that are traditionally female like household chores, cooking, serving his Mistress or dominant in every way like bathing her, doing her manicures and pedicures and serving her sexually with her using a strap on. This does not mean that the man is bisexual either. Keep in mind that this form of play is based on humiliation and debasement and since most submissives who need this form of play are male, this type of humiliation works well to keep them under a dominant's control.

 The male sissy will often be as exposed as a female submissive, perhaps more so and will be the subject of conversations on how pathetic he is or how unattractive some part of his body is. Women like to dominate men in this way. Maybe it is because of being treated like this for so long by men and now getting the chance to reverse the roles. Whatever the reason, it is a highly erotic form of domination that gives a lot of pleasure to both the female dominant and the male submissive.

 Forced feminization can however become more permanent though when a man consents to changing his gender and I would consider this edge play. It takes a deeply committed relationship to get to this point. I also think that this process should not be undertaken at all, but then I have stated that my kink is not the same as others' kink and that we all need to respect that. If the male felt trapped in a male body and always identified as a female, then I see no reason why this extreme could not work, but in all other cases I would really think about it about a thousand times before demanding it of a male who does not identify as a woman full time.

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13 comments:

Anonymous said...

i stumbled accidentally in your site.wow..you strive in humiliating men.reading this makes me sick.you want men to be degraded equally like women. no one should be degraded like that whether it is a man or a woman. you know you should forgive the one who abused you in your childhood. to me you are a psycho. so you are the kind of woman that sees femininity as a weakness. well then you are the true sexist. it is so sad that these acts are forms of revenge to men.well see you in hell.ciao

The Mistress said...

Oh dear. I'm sorry you are struggling with BDSM. That is what we are discussing? Although from your comment, I seem to get the impression you are referring to non BDSM abuse? I'm sure you are aware of the difference! But in case you are struggling - the article refers to BDSM where adults participate in a safe, same and consensual manner. That means they understand what they are submitting to, understand the rules and consent willingly.
BDSM is VERY different to ABUSE!
It's late and I'm bored of uneducated, misguided and self opiniated morons acting as the Internet police!
As to seeing you in hell... Do you need someone to hear your confessions too? I thought I'd be going alone but it seems you will also be there. Wonderful! I was hoping to escape the morons of the world, but alas....

Anonymous said...

oh ok. im sorry for being uneducated about BDSM. this stuff is weird to me. but the subs are enjoying this right? and are there also unsafe,unconsensual and abusive bdsmers? maybe they're the ones im concerned about.

The Mistress said...

I understand it is not an easy subject matter to understand. But I assure you that, those who chose to participate, do so willingly.

Saying that, I am impressed that you are aware of the possibility of unsafe, nonconsensual and abusive BDSM'ers.I abhor them. they exist. Abusers exist anywhere where they can 'get away with it'. these people use the BDSM tag to ply their abuse upon victims. I wrote an article about this very subject not long ago:

http://mistressladyleyla.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/bdsm-in-mainstream-and-abuse.html?zx=dc530ca0bbc0483e#.UiShKJLCMpg

Please do read it as you will find, on this subject matter, our views are the same.

Unfortunately, abusers hide in all places and use any excuse to ply their need to subject someone to mental, physical, emotional abuse. this is not BDSM. Sadly, the abusers are usually 'men' disguised as Masters.

Anonymous said...

Feminization is just not that easy..

The Mistress said...

No it isn't - but when a sub walks in and you have an hour.....

Unknown said...

Thanks a ton.
Surely, it'll help me a lot.

Nurse Muffy said...

Thank you so much for the advice! My BF is really into feminization. I enjoy it and am happy to explore new things. My problem is that I really have no idea what I'm doing. Thanks for the help and hints!

ianBrianna said...

Very intelligent site. The illustration from Deviant Art is blank - do I need to enable or block something? I am taking pueraria mirifica and adifyline in creams and serums and getting some good results. I am searching for the right situation in which to serve a dominant Mistress. I am attracted to your site.

Phoenix said...

Wow. I really did enjoy reading this. I really would love a relationship where a dominant female would do this to me. I even would go the full transformation. I have always wanted to be a girl but was ashamed. Perhaps that's why I developed such a desire to be forced into it, as to lessen the shame.

strippednakedmale said...

Yes forced femme would make a lot of us happy. Personally I'd like to somehow be locked into a fully stuffed bra that can't be hidden. I'm thinking of super glue along all parts that touch my skin. That bra isn't coming off soon. I'm also going try the same on the zipper of some girls jeans while I'm in public or a bikini at the beach far from my vehicle. Wish I had someone willing to help me do it.

Anonymous said...

I am new to this my husband is dying for me to do this with him dont get me wrong I love the idea for doing it with him but is there any advice u can give me for a beginner I know the basics

zerocool50524@gmail.com said...

I am new to flr and bdsm but also new it was meant for me and my mistress had respect and love for my limits but also pushed me in good ways and never discredit my opinion or limits even though she is the one in control it truly is about trust and limits in bdsm and giving ones self to another and believing that they know what is best for the both of you with out being selfish or not taking into consideration of how thier slave will feel

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