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12 Jun 2014

The Answer isn't Classified




I like to muse on life's little quirks and one thing which always amazes me is how our species play the dating game. To that end I sometimes browse the classifieds groups on Fetlife - there are so many to choose from - purely out of a vague sense of curiosity you understand, and I’ve noticed something which I believe requires further research. But I’m too lazy to do any proper research such as would stand up to peer review, so I’ve flicked across a few pages and clicked here and there then gone to get a beer (and that’s the basis of male research in a nutshell). Here’s what I’ve made up… er, I mean discovered through diligent and painstaking work:

A female posts an advert looking for a man, woman, dog, cat, new fridge, whatever – hundreds of comments and I’d expect PMs running into the thousands.

A man posts an advert looking for anything he can get... tumbleweed… no, wait, one or two get a reply! Oh, it’s only a bump by the OP or a “good luck with that” comment by another male adrift on a sea of desperation.

A week later:

11 Jun 2014

Mistress, Her nurse and the colour pink

Submitted by: MAX

Sitting in my office, I wondered what my Mistress was planning for our next session. It has been months since our last session. How angry would she be, would she punish me…of course she would be angry and punish me. I quivered with anticipation.

My home life prevented me from completing my journey. My wife refused to allow me to shave; she chided my attempts at cross-dressing as role-play. It was nearly impossible to follow my training and practice my lessons. I was not following the plans Mistress had for me to become a sissy, a mincing little sissy.

Every time we met, she would dress me in pink, red or black lingerie; complete from head to toe, including a wig and make-up. I never felt freer than in her presence as her Sissy Maxine. She trained me in bondage and punishment, dildo and butt plugs; and giving oral and anal service. I began to find myself mincing about the house and began wearing lingerie under my suits. My latest training was in the art of rubber and latex…

Mistress demanded I begin to shave and dress during the day and wear my butt plug and heels. Unfortunately, I could not comply. Mistress was vexed and said she was working on a plan to totally transform me into her slave, but she gave me no details.

I was leaving the office one day, when my wife called and started yelling, “How dare you write me a letter telling me you’re leaving me and you never want to see me again.” Just as I started to respond, a van pulled up and some men jumped out and put a hood over my head and threw me in the van and bound my wrists and ankles. As I shouted for help, they gagged me and then came the smell of chloroform…

It's Time to End the Long History of Feminism Failing Transgender Women

transphobia is no longer acceptable in the name of feminism
In August, a doctor in Toronto received an unexpected email.


It was from a stranger in Maryland, telling the doctor that one of the transgender patients whose care he was overseeing “regularly attacks women on social media who have a lesbian feminist polititical [sic] opinion. That is, he harasses us and establishes fake Twitter accounts to harass us… Query whether this is the kind of experience one must have to ‘live as a woman.’ - you bully other women?”

Looking for bloggers who can write original, high quality blog posts.

 


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I am looking for guest posts as well as regular contributors.

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Spank You Very Much! Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence.

REBLOGGED FROM THE SLATE By William Saletan

Earlier this year, I wrote two articles about BDSM—bondage, dominance/submission, and sadomasochism. I argued that BDSM, unlike homosexuality, was inherently problematic and wasn’t an orientation. Defenders of BDSM—Dan Savage, Jessica Wakeman, Clarisse Thorn, Jillian Keenan, and dozens of Slate commenters—wrote back, rejecting these arguments. Then, two months ago, Dutch psychologists published a study of kinksters and mental health. I started digging around. There isn’t much quantitative research on this population, but I found a few decent studies that can help us clarify this debate. Is BDSM sick? Let’s look at the evidence.

10 Jun 2014

Why Does BDSM Need Activism?

[Content Note: Discussions of rape and sexual assault. Assume that all links have the same content warning.]

ORIGINAL ARTICLE: LINK


You may have noticed that I have called myself a “BDSM activist” in the past but, to some, it may not be immediately clear exactly why BDSM needs activism. The foundation of BDSM activism is sexual freedom and autonomy: defending the ability of consenting adults in private to engage in (and view) whatever activities they like.


BDSM safety and HIV



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BDSM Etiquette
BDSM Risk Reduction
Drugs and Alcohol
Safe Disposal of Syringes and Other Sharps
Sexual Health
HIV
MRSA (Methicillin-Resistant Staphylococcus Aureus)
Hepatitis C (HCV)
Other STIs
The Vagina or Front Hole
The Penis
The Rectum
Lubricants
Condoms, Gloves and Dams
Toys
Cleaning Toys
Douching and Enemas
Watersports, etc.
Urethral Sounds
Rimming
Temperature
Sucking, Blowing, Licking
Restraints and Bondage
Pinching
Electricity
Percussion Play
Whipping
Fisting
Blood Sports/Piercing
Shaving, Cutting, and Branding
Other Resources
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Practice makes perfect

Resulting form the lack of effectiveness in work while wearing shackles, I did promise Mistress to practice more at home when I have time an...