A practical system of reality checks within S&M. What it means to have Safety, Sanity & Consent.

Many times I have encountered clients / submissives who come to me damaged and fearful. One may assume that the submissive has been damaged by personal experiences, social outcasting, relationship failure or an aspect separate to the BDSM lifestyle. Your assumptions would be incorrect. Most, if not all of my damaged submissives are those damaged by a Top/ Dominant. Usually a Mistress with little practical experience, learned and practiced skills, no understanding of the psychology of BDSM and definitely no understanding of safe, sane & consensual.

1. SM practitioners must strive to make their SM Safe
2. SM practitioners must strive to make their living sane.
3. Obtain consent, and respect the limits and of others.

Most know the basic 3 rules of SSC within S&M. But within these rules are subtle difficulties. Definitions, clarity and a true understanding of what SSC actually means is needed to make these rules work.

Anyone wishing to enter the BDSM realm, whether as a submissive or a Dominant, should make themselves familiar with the proposal below, which outlines a more indepth understanding of what Safe, Sane & Consensual ACTUALLY should mean. 

Below is a proposed definition of SSC (courtesy of LeatherRoses) which ALL tops should read, understand and practice within their S&M.

The economics of consent: Why BDSM and consumer capitalism are closer than you think

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Permission from client to record sessions - Video / audio / photo

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Recording A Session - Permissions

The following type(s) of recording will be permitted during this session:		p Still Photography p Video p Audio
The following use recording(s) will be produced during this session:	p Commercial Public Distribution p Non-Commercial Public Distribution p Commercial Private Distribution p Non-Commercial Private Distribution p Destroyed upon completion of the session p None
The following post-production is required prior to release for specified use:	p Obliteration of identifiable features p Approval of post-production product by participants p Duplication of all original recordings for participant(s) personal use p None
Ownership and copyright of all session recording(s) are hereby assigned to the following person(s) with interests and / or restrictions as annotated: ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________

Session Client Medical History - A form to record health / wellbeing.

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Medical History

Name:			Last STD Test: : ____ _____________ , 20 ___
Do you have a Trichomonas or Yeast Infection?					Yes No
Have you tested Herpes 1 or 2 positive?					Yes No
Have you tested HIV positive?					Yes No
Do you have any current symptoms or historical medical problems involving:
Heart Liver Lungs Kidneys Bladder, Colon or Rectum Dental	Neck or Spinal Cord Bones or Joints Muscles Mucus Membranes Nasal, Oral, Genital Psychological Other: ___________________________
Do you have current symptoms or a medical history of:
Hyperventilation Seizures Dizzy Spells Diabetes	High Blood Pressure Fainting Asthma Other: ___________________________
Do you wear contact lenses or prescription glasses?						Yes No
Do you suffer from any fears or phobias? If so, please describe: ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________						Yes No
Do you have any surgical implants? If so, please describe: ________________________________________________________________						Yes No
Do you have any piercings of your:
Ear(s) Nose Eyebrow(s) Tongue		Nipple(s) Navel Genitals Other: ______________________________
Are you currently taking any of the following over-the-counter medications:
Aspirin Anti-Inflammatory Antihistamine		Decongestant Expectorant Other: ______________________________
List all prescription medications you currently take:				_______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________
Known Allergies including tapes and contraceptives:				_______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________
In case of emergency notify: _____________________________________________________________________

When you know better and you still do it - becoming a cynical masochist.

There are occasions when I think I become a masochist. Once in a while I will go against my better judgement just so I can tell myself 'I told you!'. My latest I told you moment concluded this evening. But it actually began a few weeks ago with the arrival of an email.

My inbox usually consists of 60% spam, 20% timewasters, 10 % genuine enquiries and 10% known submissives. One email caught my attention.

UPCOMING #BDSM #FETISH #ALT EVENTS around london

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WEB: www.sinfulandwicked.co.uk MOB: 07426 490 214 TWITTER: @sinfulandwicked

BDSM Unveiled: When Your Submissive Suffers from Clinical Depression

Structure is incredibly useful for persons suffering with depression. Setting clear, attainable daily tasks (even if your dynamic is long distance) can do a lot to keep a depressed mood from becoming inability to get out of bed. In the worst times, it may have to be something as simple as "You must go to work 4 days out of 5 every week. You must take a shower every other day at 10:30pm." Simple, everyday tasks can be easier to tolerate if they're turned into power dynamic chores, rather than just one more thing they have to try to manage on their own. Professional programs force clients to live by strict rules about when they wake up, when they eat, when they shower, etc, and having those things become automated means that they don't have to make any decisions about it.