Some Notes On Safety For Meeting Online and Off

Some Notes On Safety For Meeting Online and Off

Version 2.22

Author: Ambrosio ©

Why Be Concerned About Safety?: The example of John Edward Robinson Sr. a.k.a. "Slavemaster"

    

    - HELEN KENNEDY and CORKY SIEMASZKO

    "Harrowing Tale Of S&M Escape: Woman's call led cops to slay suspect"

    New York Daily News, June 6, 2000

The Texas woman who went on a kinky sex date with a suspected Kansas serial killer set up elaborate safety precautions that may have forced him to spare her life and ended his alleged 16-year murder spree, the Daily News has learned.

How A Country Dies - Is the world we know dying?

Originally posted at Economic Noise blog,

A country dies slowly.

Those living during the decline of Rome were likely unaware that anything was happening. The decline happened over a couple of hundred years. Anyone living during the decline only saw a small part of what was happening and likely never noticed it as anything other than ordinary.

Countries don’t have genetically determined life spans. Nor do they die quickly, unless the cataclysm of some great war does them in. Even in such extreme cases, there are usually warning signs, which are more obvious in hindsight than at the time.

50 Shades Of Grey (Matter): How Science Is Defying BDSM Stereotypes

It seems that no one is immune to E L James' controversial novel, 50 Shades of Grey. Television shows, magazines, popular blogs, even side conversations outside the school pick-up line are filled with talk about how hot it is -- and how it may be solely responsible for jump-starting the sex drives of bored housewives across the country. While I agree that some of the sex scenes are quite titillating, I find myself annoyed at the overt (BDSM) Bondage/Discipline/Dominance/Submission/Sadism/Masochism stereotypes advanced by the book. Especially since the latest scientific studies concerning sexual behavior do not back them up.

Power play, obedience and the sense of self for the submissive

In society, we are dependent on the systems which are in place and which sustain our lives - systems which give order to our lives. we are conditioned  and taught from an early age to be obedient to authority, be it a teacher, police officer or judge.

When we are faced with authority we have a tendency to yield easier due to conditioning. we accept we are part of a hierarchy and obedience is present within our social structures.

Master and Sissy Maxine

The house was dark when Sissy Maxine arrived home. Good, he thought, my sissy clitty has been tucked all day and needs release. So upon arrival Maxine darted upstairs to see if the latest email from Master arrived with her approved masturbation schedule. Before she could sit down to login, her Master appeared in the doorway and said he had a surprise for his special girl.

Maxine both startled and surprised tucked his pathetic excuse for manhood back in place and pulled his panties up and clipped his stockings back onto his garter belt and smoothed out the kick-pleated skirt. Before Maxine could slip on his favourite black pumps, Master said, no put something sexy on and meet me in the basement.

Consensual Sadistic Sex Practices are Comparable to Meditation Experiences

Sadomasochism is defined as sexual behavior that involves getting pleasure from causing or feeling pain. Previously thought to be a pathological practice, current research has found no evidence of harmful effects as a result of sadomasochism.

Scientists have found sadomasochism may actually lead to a meditative experience and that such practices are not entirely about sex. Two studies, one conducted by James Ambler of Northern Illinois University and the other by Brad Sagarin of Northern Illinois University, have found that these painful, sexual practices actually contribute to an altered state of consciousness.

#Dommes, The irony...... Negative punishment and its effects by UNICEF

I was flicking through the internet when I came across a serious document by UNICEF on punishment titled POSITIVE DISCIPLINE - Negative punishment and its effects. 
( BELOW IS THE FULL ARTICLE )

I absolutely understood why it was produced and how important it is for our children to experience a positive environment, positive reinforcement and positive discipline in schools and from their parents.

On the other hand, as I read through the examples of negative punishment I couldn't help smiling at the thought of My submissives.

How wonderful that We as Dommes can and do sometimes use Negative punishment. Here is some examples:

Forced acts that are physically painful or damaging (holding a weight for a long time, kneeling on stones, standing or sitting in a contorted position). CHECK!!

Confinement, being tied up or being forced to remain in one place for an extended period of time. CHECK!!

Verbal assaults, humiliation, ridicule and assaults on dignity, intended to reduce a child’s confidence, self esteem or dignity.

It is worth reading the full article with the submissive in mind....