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2 Nov 2020

Do as I say... or suffer the consequences.

Courtesy of : Jay Boy who emailed me this rather delicious story.

There I was again: Standing at Mistress Leyla's cross, naked, spread-eagled, wrists and ankles cuffed to the frame of the sturdy wooden cross. The leather mask over my eyes made it impossible to see anything but the slightest shimmer of light. I could only hear Mistress walking around her play room, opening and closing cabinets and drawers, clearly getting ready for things to come.

I had been in this position before - many times. I had been beaten, tortured and humiliated while at Mistress cross. I had my balls bound and weighed down, my nipples, cock and balls adorned with clamps ranging from mild clothespins to agonizing alligator clamps. Mistresses had subjected me to electric shocks, whipped my cock and made me the subject of the laughter of some her slave and associates.

I was wondering what Mistress Leyla would do today - almost dreaming as she had let me stand there quite a while, full of anticipation. Mistress had said that today's session would be different. Suddenly something hard with  rounded corners touched my right arm. I shuddered, wondering what instrument of torture  Mistress held in her hands.

30 Oct 2020

A Halloween Short Story For My Mistress Leyla


At the time, a Halloween fancy dress party had seemed like the perfect excuse for a fun night out and Marie decided she needed a fun night more than anything else in her life. But with it starting within the next hour now she wasn’t quite so sure.

Her week had been hectic to say the least, non-stop work till late every night, and tomorrow she was planning to spend all day with her mother preparing her for the imminent move into a nursing home.

Now she stood in front of the full-length mirror set into the wardrobe door. Her fancy dress costume looked okay, not as good as it did when she’d seen it on her computer screen but then shopping online always led to disappointingly high expectations she thought to herself.

She was dressed in a black catsuit decorated in fluorescent bones making her look like a glowing skeleton in the dark. However under the bright room lights it was very figure-hugging and left her feeling a little exposed. At 37 she still had an enviable figure but felt it was better to dress to suggest than be too blatant. If only she had a black cloak she could wrap around herself, Marie thought, she’d look mysterious, spooky and quite possibly sexy as well.

Once again she considered not going; she could call or even text Joanne and tell her she wasn’t feeling too well. No, she decided she would go and even try to enjoy herself.

“Marie! Lovely to see you, come in,” exclaimed what looked like a half-drunk Joanne leaning perilously out of the front door of the large town house where she lived with her husband Greg. Marie gave her friend a quick hug and the obligatory peck on the cheek and moved past the pile of discarded coats just inside.

28 Oct 2020

Session with Mistress - A BDSM Story


Submitted by Slaveash


It was quite bright when I got out of my house and looked around. There are not many people on the street. It had stopped snowing a few weeks before; you could still feel the nip in the air. My hands were shaking while locking the door. This had less to do with the cold and more out of apprehension of being seen. I was trying to be as inconspicuous as possible. I was wearing a long overcoat over a pair of jeans and a white T-shirt. I had put on my blue 6” stilettos.  Under my clothes I was wearing matching black bra, black lace panties and black lace garter belt holding up my fishnet stockings on my newly shaved legs. I had a medium size anal plug up my rear. I was now ready to meet my Mistress.

I walked to the bus stop and to wait in queue for the bus, with full my concentration on walking properly in these heels. This was a part of my obedience training. I was to take public transport to mistress’s dungeon. Mistress had given me an option of wearing a knee length pleated skirt or 20 stokes of the cane. I decided on the latter. I was not gaining any extra credits today.

It was still early in the day and there was only a lady ahead of me. She smiled at me and we made small conversation on the weather and the transportation network. Her eyes suddenly spotted my shoes, and she gave me an all knowing smile. I continued speaking on the bus network, blushing with embarrassment. I thought I was saved when the bus arrived, but my anxiety only grew when I saw a group of 4 teenage girls in the bus. I quickly found a seat in the front of the bus and sat down. Only then I realised how high the jeans hike up when I sat. I heard one of the girls exclaim loudly. I could see the 4 of them looking in my direction, whispering in each ones ear and giggling. I looked towards them and tried to smile, which made them burst out in laughter. I must have turned a deeper shade of red. My destination bus stop could not have come any sooner. I rushed out of the bus and started walking towards my mistress’s dungeon. What would usually take me around 10 minutes to cover the distance, took me twice as much today while walking in heels with a butt plug up my ass.

22 Oct 2020

When a contract ruins your life. BDSM Story - The Contract

The Contract” by marco may


I awoke in darkness, a hood tied over my head and face. I sat in a chair, my hands tied behind me. The room was cold and damp and I was dressed only in my underwear. Suddenly I heard the loud, unmistakable sound of clicking heels…louder and louder…and then they stopped. I heard breathing and a soft moan: “Mmmmmm, look at my helpless slave, ready for his fate.” A hand ripped off my hood. My eyes adjusted to the light and I gasped at the stunning, powerful figure before me. I had never seen anyone like her…there she stood, towering over me in a long leather coat. She smiled down at me, and then let the coat drop to the floor. I nearly fainted at the sight – A beautiful, powerful woman who made my heart race – she wore the tightest-cinched corset I had ever seen – it gave her a wasp-like waist and pushed her breasts up … they were nearly spilling out of her corset. Her magnificent, toned legs were covered in fishnet stockings with multiple garter suspenders. Her legs were endless and strong, accentuated by sky-high, steel-tipped heels. Her eyes sparkled with evil and power. Where was I – and why?

21 Oct 2020

A Story By Suzann to Mistress


A Story submitted by Suzann....

 

 

I am standing In front of a mirror in the bedroom of a  woman  whose house I rent a room  in. I am wearing her black  nylon panties with lacy insets thinking I am alone in the house.

I suddenly hear a laugh and turn towards the door and see her standing  with a smirk on her face  I am so embarrassed  that I am paralyzed. I  start staring  at the floor afraid to meet her eyes but I know I must look up . I hear her walk towards me. She is older and  very elegant  and I knew she would have  glamorous panties and  even though I fought the urge, I knew it was only a matter of time till I snuck into her bedroom. I knew it was wrong but I couldn't stop myself. 

Now I must face her and the fact that I am a sneaky underwear thief . She gave me a slap on the face and it made me look up. I was scared but She  was grinning .  Not much of bulge in the front panty boy. She said. She then pulled the panties down and looked at my undersized penis. Oh my god ! She exclaimed. You're  hardly even a man with a dick like that. No wonder you want to wear  my underwear.. You're  even more of girly boy than I first thought.   Even so I can't have you sneaking around my room.. My things are my things and you have no right to be in here... I started to apologise profusely.. I am so sorry Mrs Lee..I really am I won't do it again   I promise..   while I was apologising I heard the click of a camera phones and I thought  Oh No this can go out on the internet I looked  over  to her as she was snapping away and smiling evilly. Please don't send those out Mrs Lee .I was close to tears and begging. She then said I like embarrassing people.

I  Know a few of your friends on the Internet as well as your employer. I could really see to it that you'd be blushing in public for a long time . I could also call the police and say you were in my room trying to steal  I wouldn't be lying you did take a pair of my panties. I  could only beg her  for forgiveness and I kept it  up. A litany of I am sorry ,Please let me make it up to you, I won't ever do anything like this again. I really needed the room that she let me rent. I couldn't possibly afford  anything else in this town and  I need to be here to work  a job I had just started . A job with a future. SO I  was in dire straits and I told her and begged her. She just looked at me with an indifferent look.. Then  asked me if I always wore women's clothes and stressed that she wanted the truth  or   it would not go well for me. I said that  I really didn't but that I thought of it a lot.. So you like  wearing panties . Do you wearing bras and slips? She   asked. I nodded  She snapped A nod is not an answer! Say it! I said I like wearing slips and bras. And panties she demanded. Yes Mrs lee I like wearing panties.   I suddenly realised  she is videoing me but I had no choice but to go along. Good girl she said.  I felt a thrill at being called a girl by this very feminine and elegant lady and was surprised by it as well considering the circumstances. She said   I have always  liked you.  I thought you were a nice young man slim and  not too masculine perhaps you can now be a nice young lady for me as I think we can both benefit from this turn of events. You can be a girl while you are here and I can use you as a maid or an errand girl.    I entertain a lot people in my  job and some of them I know are quite kinky..  A little sissymaid at some of my parties may go over well. I knew she had a high powered sales job that she was very good at.. I also knew I had to agree but at the same time I was aroused.  I   was going to nod but then said Of course Mrs Lee anything I can do to help.  She seemed pleased. Then looked at me sternly  If one of my  clients wants to fondle your ass while you're serving drinks you had better giggle and put up with it... I was a little bit dismayed I never thought about sex with men.  Huh Sissy she demanded.. I knew I had to agree and was worried why I was feeling frisky. Yes Mrs Lee I said. Mrs Lee then added I have a lot of gay and bi clients as well  some very kinky older women and you're going to be a darling to them.  Aren't you sweetie ?  I hope it won't entail me having sex with them I  said . Wondering where I found the courage..

Mrs Lee gave me a very stern look. It will if I say so sissy. Trust me sissy if you like wearing panties you won't mind getting on your knees once in a while. After all I wear panties and I had to do it... Do you think you're better. ? Do you?  I had to say no.. Say it again She demanded.. No Mrs lee  I am not better than you.  She then rubbed my cheek with her hand.. I can find a dildo for you to practise on cutie and we can practise makeup and walking in heels and curtsying . You'll be glad to know I'll get you the girliest panties I can find along with  some knockout sissymaid outfits. You won't have to pay it will be a business expense for me.. . I Knew that I should thank her and I did.  She winked at me.  Don't worry sissypoo she said You'll  more than earn it back for me

The Commanding Mistress - A story by My Forced Fem Slut

I carefully read through Mistress Leyla’s website and can feel myself coming under Her commanding spell, I know I must submit myself to Her for whatever purpose She may desire. I obediently fill in the application forms and wait with baited breath for my reply. I have to wait for what seems an eternity as every day I check my emails in the hope that Lady Leyla will of found me interesting and intriguing enough to grant me Her time. Finally I receive Her email and I am filled with nervous anticipation and a slight sense of foreboding as I read it. The lady has decided to grant me permission to serve and as my first task I must give Her a call on a set time and date to speak further of my duties and to arrange a suitable time for my first session. I cannot wait to talk to my now Mistress although when I do call I’m a bag of nerves and shaking as I hold the phone listening to Her silky smooth yet demanding voice.

We arrange a suitable day for my first visit to Lady Leyla and am told to expect an email beforehand. Next morning my email has arrived and it transpires Lady Leyla has definite plans for me and has taken into account what I have told Her of myself. I am instructed to purchase a pair of pink frilly girly knickers, black opaque hold up stockings, some rather slutty looking shoes with a higher than average heel and an inflatable butt-plug. This I do obediently although I am now beginning to wonder just what I have let myself in for?!

14 Oct 2020

Jeremy & Mistress Leyla

Submitted by jeremy himself:


Jeremy has quite an important job in industry but whenever possible he likes to be reminded of his school days where the housemistress in charge of his boarding house was extremely beautiful but also very strict and vindictive.  She was a firm believer in the value of corporal punishment for naughty boys.  From time to time Mistress Leyla helps Jeremy relive his schooldays.

Mistress Leyla is her usual elegant and disdainful self in her role as Jeremy's housemistress.  She is wearing a white blouse and a short black skirt and her elegant legs are covered with nylon stockings.  Her black high - heeled shoes have spiky high heels.  Jeremy knows he is in love with her but fears her ruthlessness and her punishments.

On arrival he is sent to change into his school uniform of a grey shirt, a striped school tie and short grey trousers.  He shivers as he taps gently at Mistress Leyla's door.

'You're late boy' snaps Mistress Leyla reaching for the rubber soled plimsole - mostly called 'the slipper' in schoolboy language - with which she dispenses justice.

13 Oct 2020

Dear Mistress from Your most humble slave Paul


Your Ladyship has instructed me to attend at a particular time, with the promise of "something special, which You are sure will intrigue me".

When I ring Your doorbell, I am immediately amazed by Your Astounding Beauty, as you stand at the door dressed in a wonderful filmy dress, very sheer stockings and extremely high-heeled boots. You lean forward and with a flick You embroil my neck with Your long whip. As I stand there, helpless within Your power, You blindfold and gag me, and lead me I know not where within Your lair. I am instructed to strip - very quickly, or else I will feel the sting of Your whip - and while I am stripping, I am aware of another presence in Your chamber.

I am commanded to kneel, and I feel someone else kneeling close beside me. My right hand is bound to this other person's right hand around their waist, and their left hand is bound to my left around my waist. Our ankles next to each other are then bound together and nipple clamps are attached to both my nipples, and I can feel nipple chains and clamps being connected to the other person. As we kneel, You command us to present our arses high in the air, and start chastising us with increasing vigour, with canes, paddles and increasing sizes of whips. Neither of us knows who is to receive each blow, but as we scream inwardly within our gags, the other shares in the agony through our joint bondage as we twitch and leap within our bonds. Eventually, when we are reduced to a whimpering heap of intertwined bodies, You graciously remove our gags and blindfolds, and I realise I am sharing my bondage with a gorgeous red-head.

You grasp the chains connecting our nipples and force us to kneel at Your feet, where we are commanded to worship Your Glorious Body, still bound together, starting at Your Tiny Toes, and working up to Your Perfect Pussy, and Your Amazing Arse, which we are commanded to lick out until You are satisfied. After some minutes, during which I hope we have entirely satisfied Your desires, You leave us kneeling in trepidation. When we had reached half way up Your leg, I stole a quick kiss from my companion slave, but You have seen this happen, and we are left with the knowledge that we can expect further punishment when

You return.

I await whatever punishment You choose to deal out to me

Your most humble slave Paul

1 Oct 2020

The BDSM Test Is the Get-To-Know-Your-Kink Diagnostic So Many Sexologists Recommend - or is it?

 

 

BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control, usually broken into six components, “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism,” according to Ali Hebert and Angela Weaver, professors in the department of psychology at St. Francis Xavier University, writing in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality. And it can be a safe, consensual avenue for exploring the kinks that comprise your unique sexual fingerprint. But for the uninitiated, BDSM can conjure images of how it’s portrayed in pop culture—and let’s just say, Fifty Shades of Grey is not it. Sexologists and sex educators say that IRL BDSM is more about communication with yourself and your partner than it is about Red Rooms of Pain. And to get that conversation started, there’s an online BDSM test that can help you safely learn your tastes.

5 Aug 2020

The Seven Common Types of Internet Submissives


By BDSM Tourguide
C/O: LINK

In day-to-day dealing with the online BDSM community, a dominant will typically run across many submissives in chat, forums or mailing lists. Although each submissive has their own personality and quirks and flaws and merits, each will usually fit into one of the following seven categories of internet submissive behavior.


Please do note that these are only the most common types of internet submissives; others do exist, but to much lesser degrees.

Type One: The “Little Girl” Submissive – 

Ever-blushing and ever-giggly, the “little girl” type of submissive is the consummate child actor. She will usually use every cute little hair twist and every sweet little smile in her arsenal to make sure everyone finds her to be the sweetest little girl in the whole community. 

These little girls typically ooze sweetness and often make dominants and other submissives in the community wonder what they’re really up to. Little girl types usually do not get along with other little girl types at all, as they typically crave attention and another little girl trying to muscle in on another little girl’s turf is an open threat to the incumbent little girl’s monopoly on attention-getting. For this same reason, little girl submissives do not usually do well in polyamorous relationships, preferring to be the sole object of their partner’s attention. A positive aspect of little girl types is that they are usually unwaveringly devoted to their partners and once they find a partner, they are unlikely to leave that person. 

From a purely psychological perspective, one has to wonder if the little girl type uses her wiles and charms and craves attention to cover up self-esteem issues.

18 Jul 2020

BDSM 101 - an Introductory Guide to Humiliation Play for Consenting Adults

Humiliation, according to Wikipedia, is an abasement of pride or mortification. It is the state of being reduced to lowliness or submission. An example of humiliation is: "You are such a dirty little bitch."

Degradation, according to the same source, is the reduction of rank, character or reputation of a person. An example of degradation is: "If you were any fatter, we would have to get rid of your worthless ass."

See the difference?

In play though, there are various ways of humiliating a submissive. First you can have the submissive beg for the privilege of being humiliated. Make them aware that you are doing them a favor by doing it for them. You can use the dirty, sexy, kinky words we all generally do not use like the word "whore". Then you can have them do humiliating things like drinking water from a bowl with no hands or parading them on a leash in front of other people. It all depends on the submissive. Even having them display themselves in a way that they would never even consider could be extremely humiliating. Puppy play and infantilism has some definite elements of humiliation as well. Both of these role play situations clearly show the need to balance care and love with the humiliation. Some submissives need far less to become mortified or ashamed. As it is a lot of submissives are ashamed of being submissive in the first place and having them ask for what shames them, is a great way of putting a submissive right back into his or her place.

27 Apr 2020

Wax Play 101




For many wax play is one of the first experiences within the BDSM realm, this is also the reason that so many people end up getting accidentally hurt. All too often someone is watching a pornographic movie and sees someone drip wax on his or her partner and suddenly they are rummaging through their kitchen cabinets looking for a candle that they can experiment with. “It looked so easy in the movie…” or “The women in the movie seemed to really like it so...” are phrases the emergency room staff have undoubtedly heard time and time again. Although most individuals probably make up some story about accidentally dropping a candle on their naked genitals or knocking a candle over and splashing wax all over their bare back as they turned; having worked in an ER I myself heard a few excuses such as these, although you honestly are suspicious about the method of the injury the means is always quite clear. Wax play done improperly can lead to first and second-degree burns, pain and permanent scarring.

Although wax play is simplistic in nature there are a few very basic safety tips and details that you need to know prior to exploring the wondrous avenue.

First, like with any BDSM play; know your weapon. There are several things you must know about the wax you are using before you can use it.

What type of wax are you using? Each type of wax has a different melting point. The melting point is the temperature that the wax must be to go from solid to liquid and remain so.

Type of Wax Melting point Fahrenheit

Paraffin 120 – 145 degrees

Low temp wax 120 – 125 degrees

Standard jar candles 125 – 135 degrees

25 Mar 2020

The Great Transsexual Radical Feminist Menace

A few years ago (2009 actually) I read an very interesting BLOG post regarding some radical, controversial and somewhat vitriol and angry views expressed by some feminists regarding Transgenderism.

Having re-read the article, I remembered the anger I felt during a 'Drag Queen' event I hosted a couple of years ago.
Briefly I shall explain:

I had a good friend who offered the use of his pub for our party. The venue happened to be a 'gay' pub. Naively, I didn't see any issues arising from the event being held in a gay pub. But, what actually took place - behind the scenes- as you might say during the evening, shocked me. There was a definite divide amongst the two sets of party attendees. There was an almost aggressive animosity from the 'regular' lesbian pub goers towards the transgendered / transsexual and cross dressing party attendees.

At first, I really couldn't work it out. I remember marching in late 80's (yes - I was still a wee girl then) and 90's throughout London, fighting for 'gay rights', EQUALITY and acceptance. I couldn't understand how or why, one section of a minority group ( who should understand the struggle for acceptance and equality ) could be so against the struggles of another?

As is my character, I started asking questions.... The one comment I can clearly remember was this: "I may be a lesbian, but I'm still ALL woman! Not some wannabe. My pussy's real."

You can imagine, the anger and disappointment I felt.

Going back to the article I read:

17 Mar 2020

BDSM Lifestyle Versus Play


Dennis Najee is an accomplished author and speaker. He advocates freedom above all else. I enjoy reading his articles and have decided to include some, from time to time, on this Blog.

This post was originally written on 29th February 2012: 
Author: Dennis Najee



What do you like about BDSM? Why are you involved? What is it that attracted you and what do you want to get out of it? Questions such as these will determine the direction one opts to take with this genre known as BDSM. As with most things in life, the answers will be individual in nature. Each person is different with goals and aspirations that are personal. That being said, the arena we are in is large enough to fit everyone.

BDSM Scenes

Most find this way of life through the imagery presented on the Internet. We all have noticed the "porn" based pictures and videos promoted by the X-rated industry. Intending to sell more of their product, the World Wide Web is flooded with images depicting the BDSM lifestyle as a sex and bondage show. While there is some realism to what is presented in that some of us implement parts of what is seen, few of us live that way on a daily basis. The truth is we have lives to live.

There are many whose sole interest in BDSM is to "wake things up in the bedroom". If one enters this arena for the main purpose of enhancing the sex in one's relationship, then that is the answer the person is seeking. Many utilize BDSM for role playing and some of the other fetishes offered. These people seek nothing more than play and should not be considered in the "lifestyle". However, they should not be degraded for their decisions either.

At the same time, there are those who engage in BDSM for the "scening" only. What this means is the person wants to be involved in non-committed power exchange scenes. Some will utilize the services of a professional while others will attend munches or clubs where this activity is commonplace. Again, the sole purpose is some short-term satisfaction usually, but not always, on a physical level. Even those who follow this course for some emotional or mental benefit do so on a limited basis.

Please hear me when I tell you there is nothing wrong with adapting aspects of BDSM for play only. This is a wonderful way to enhance one's sex life and if things got a bit stale, BDSM is a way to liven things up. Bondage, power exchange, and impact play are done by millions of couples even without the foreknowledge that they are involving themselves with BDSM. The goal is to follow whatever makes one happy.

BDSM Lifestyle

The word lifestyle is a term that I never truly liked. Nevertheless, it is fitting in the sense that it denotes those people who have a deeper commitment to this way of life than just scening. When I look at BDSM, it is not a lifestyle I chose as much as it is my life. This is what I live each day. I do not awaken and opt for a dominant role but, rather, simply fall into it. Interacting with one who is submissive is natural to me because of what is within me. This is not something that is created or developed as much as it is uncovered. It took a while and was a bit of a process. And it is something that most who pursue this path deeply undergo.

To me, those who choose this as a lifestyle have a power exchange relationship at the core of their lives (or desire one). This is a distinction from those who want to add a little spice to their lives. Many are perfectly content with a relationship based upon equality. However, those of us who found our way here realized at some point that was not for us. A dominant wishes to have the power tilted in his/her favor while a submissive is desiring that same dynamic. While the areas that power exchange pertains to varied from each person, the common ground with all is that it exists.

Another thing that I noticed is the level of commitment that people have to this way of life. Now, I will admit that not everyone is an advocate nor willing to engage in behavior that promotes the lifestyle as a whole. However, because of the Internet, we seem more and more people voicing their opinions about matters that are important to them. There are now patches of people all over the world who hold BDSM in high regard and are willing to defend it against the nitwits out there. More of the abusers are being challenged and brought to light by those who take things seriously. This is a positive sign.

BDSM is about respect. 

It matters little whether one is hard core into the lifestyle or just one who likes some light bondage. Every person has a place as long as they are respectful of others and what we are about. Sadly, this is not the case for many in the online world. Yet as time passes, people are learning the tricks of these nitwits. With information and knowledge comes protection. This is a positive sign for the genre overall. So, if you are interested, enter into our world and explore whatever strikes you. It is an open arena for anyone to try.

13 Mar 2020

What makes a GREAT mistress?

Here is some questions I ask myself on a regular basis: Am I understanding my clients needs? Am I just and fair? Am I a good Mistress? Yes, AM I A Good Mistress? Because If I am not, then I may be doing more damage than good. To me, being a mistress is more than just a job title. It's a profession like any other. I have to be on top of my game.

I often make a list of the basic qualities of a good mistress in my mind and check through them. By basic qualities, I refer to a common list of qualities which every Mistress should possess.

Control
Above all, a good Mistress is always in control of herself. She does not rant or rave, and never punishes when angry. A mistress MUST have control of her emotions.

Creative
A good Mistress puts time, energy and creativity in her scenes. She is not satisfied playing the same games over and over, and goes the extra length to come up with new and different ideas.

Human
The best Mistress knows she is human. She realises she will make mistakes, and is quick to apologize when she does. On the flip side, she realises that others will make mistakes also.

10 Mar 2020

The Slave's Duties


The slave's Duties include but are not limited to:

1.  Self-Awareness & Personal Growth.
2.  Service.
3.  Obedience.
4.  Attitude & Respect.
5.  Acceptance of Discipline.
6.  Sexuality.



We will deal with these aspects of the slaves guidelines individually.

1.  Self-Awareness & Personal Growth:



My first duty is to myself.   Without a healthy amount of self-respect and a firm belief in the validity of my choices, I can be of no use to anyone, particularly my Mistress.  I will remember that slavery is not about low self-esteem or self-deprecation.   It’s not about avoiding life’s responsibilities at another’s expense.   It’s not about being or becoming a less intelligent person; rather it is about putting those qualities to Her best use.   

I must do my best to preserve and expand my emotional health, maintain my sense of clarity and purpose, and uphold my willingness to carry on despite mistakes. I must be aware of my strengths and talents, and must gladly offer them to my Mistress for Her own purposes.  From the most exhilarating sexual experience to the most mundane task, whatever I do should be geared toward the growth of the relationship and my personal growth within it.   

3 Mar 2020

The Path of Pain: Spiritual BDSM


The Path of Pain: Spiritual BDSM

Kal Cobalt

"Pain, when pushed and endured long enough, brings to the surface the uninhibited, raw soul of human beings. When two people can experience this together, it is like meeting on another plane." --FifthAngel

Kink. Sadomasochism. Bondage. Dominance and submission. In mainstream society, these things are often associated with a kind of wink-wink nudge-nudge secret sexuality, uncharted territory that surely lies just beyond the fuzzy pink handcuffs and nurses'-uniform lingerie. Within the world of spiritual BDSM practitioners, however, these activities are far from a novelty.

25 Feb 2020

Basic Etiquette in the Dungeon


In general

  • Politeness will get you a long way in the scene. Treat other people as you'd like to be treated.
  • Honesty is highly valued in the lifestyle. Lying, whether about one's experience level, marital status, risk factors, or anything else is frowned upon, and will usually be found out.
  • Touching (even casually) other people or their possessions (including collars, cuffs, and apparel) without permission is unacceptable. Most people enjoy playing show-and-tell, but always get their permission beforehand.
  • Following someone around ("puppy dogging") is likely to creep him or her out, and make them want to avoid you instead of getting to know you.
  • No Dominant may demand anything of another person, unless the other person has consented to engage in play or a relationship. No submissive is under any obligation to serve or obey anyone whom they don't choose to obey or serve.
  • There are usually Dungeon Monitors [DM's], hosts, or people in charge at most organized BDSM settings. They are there to enforce the rules, but are not psychic; if you are victimized by someone, let those in authority know. They cannot do anything for you without knowing that something is wrong, and concerns reported after-the-fact become difficult to validate or enforce.


17 Feb 2020

What is the Reality & what is the fantasy?

Having a conversation with a friend one day, she asked me a question:

 'Are you really the one in control with your clients? I mean, since you are a Professional Dom, aren't your clients really in control?'



The question has rolled around in my head for weeks. I have argued with myself the different answers, the theory, the philosophy.. I came to the conclusion that she is correct. In actual fact, I am not the 'Top'. I am at their mercy. They are the ones in control, not me.

I can hear Dom's shouting in disgust and disbelief. I can hear them saying; 'We are Dom's, we are the dominant power exchangers. We have slaves, subs. they kneel before us and weep.' Yes, they may well kneel and weep in front of us during a session, but, if you dissect the situation to it's core, WE are their slaves.

You may ask how I came to this conclusion.

12 Feb 2020

Fantasy, fetish and the red shoe



Hilary Davidson explores the colourful history of footwear in fairy tales and folklore
The most magical fictional shoes are those that lift their wearers highest above the earth:
flying, dancing, running or transported to divine realms. As well as being physical, the
elevation can be social or spiritual — above the quotidian. Shoes in fairy tales punish and reward,
elevate and entrap, speed and hinder. They are motifs for childhood innocence and protection — yet
certain footwear also has potent erotic connotations. None more so than when the shoes are red.
Hans Christian Andersen makes his first pair of “red shoes” out of a girl’s feet, rubbed raw by
wooden shoes that are too fine for her peasant origins. For the 19th-century Danish author, clogs,
pattens and other such shoes are poor, cheap, always unmagical footwear, signifying gross rustics
who never rise beyond their earthbound positions.

Can a Dominatrix be Compassionate?

Many people look at a dominatrix as less than a real person. She is someone who is so strong and powerful that she must be beyond emotion.  This is simply not true. In fact, as a Dominatrix, I have to be even more in touch with my emotions and thoughts. I'm not only taking care of myself within a scene / session, but my submissive as well.

In the wrong hands, Domination can have devastating and have dangerous consequences, therefore, the role of a Dominatrix requires some very important qualities, one of which is COMPASSION!

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A Dominatrix needs to understand and feel the needs of her Submissive - A  D/S relationship requires mutual understanding, respect, wants and desires.

Compassion allows the Dominatrix to better connect with her  Submissive - by understanding and accommodating the feelings, needs and wants of her Submissive - by caring about him, the bond between D/S is stronger, healthier and will grow.

A dominatrix is not only with a submissive in order to dominate him - to have her whims and needs met, but also to help her submissive grow as a person and guide him along the path needed for that growth - an understanding and respect of the submissive's needs (emotional, mental, spiritual, physical) are essential.


Compassion. An essential element.

14 Nov 2019

What is Foot Worship?



Many of us think of our feet as just being appendages of our bodies that take us from one place to the next. That is true for a great many of us. For people who worship the feet, these parts of our bodies can become scared. The practice of foot worship goes far back into our past when a person would lower their entire body on the ground so as to pay homage to a person of higher stature.


    In this context the phrase “kiss the ground that you walk on” literally means that. Here a subordinate person will show their adoration of the higher ranked person by kissing the ground that they walked on. They show they place a high importance on foot worship by acknowledging that even the feet of such a high individual is far superior to them.

    In the olden days slaves were made not only to prostrate themselves before their conquerors but they were forced to lick and kiss the parts of the floor that the “superior” race had walked on. This method of foot worship showed they understood their status.

    Foot worship can also be associated with foot fetish. Here items of the feet like socks, shoes, toenail rings and others become objects of sacred interest. These items cause the individual to venerate and worship the objects. The objects in this case will take the place of an actual person’s presence and the foot worship can take place at anytime that it is desired.

    There are other ways of foot worship. These are of an erotic nature as they stimulate sexual desires. In this type of foot worship the foot of a female or a male is kissed and the toes are sucked upon. Also burying one’s head in the soles of another person seems to indicate the subservient nature of that person and the superiority of the other.

Supposedly lowering the entire body and showing adulation to the feet of another person who is of a higher rank by foot worship is a way of saying that one person is unworthy of being in the presence of the other and their worship of the feet acknowledge this. Individuals who perform this type of foot worship will also allow themselves to be walked on, stomped upon and they will even let other people of “higher” ranks trample them without any protest.

    I am sure that there are people who think this sort of behaviour is either weird or erotic. I personally would rather perform foot worship by massaging my feet with soothing creams and lotions. Pamper them by soaking them in a bath of Epsom salts. Finally I would just relax my feet by keeping up on the sofa. This would be my version of foot worship.

Written by: Ajith Guptha



12 Nov 2019

Nipple Clamps 101


Everyone usually have a pair of nipples and they can be the gateway to BDSM heaven if treated in a certain way. An activity that can be carried out with this in mind, is what is commonly known as Tit Torture or Nipple Torture.

Nipples are sensitive and a perfect area of the body use for pain and pleasure. Nipple torture can be carried out quite easily by biting on them, licking and pinching them. Keep in mind that it’s highly individual how nipple torture is processed, but with an escalating practice most people can turn the nipple torture into something very enjoyable. Nipples are in other words quite versatile.

You can also get a pair of nipple clamps or a good old-fashioned clothing pin if you are on a budget, I prefer the wooden ones, mostly for aesthetic reasons. The downside with regular clothing pins is that is impossible to control the pressure they apply on the nipple – And this is where a pair of nipple clamps comes into the picture, because they give you a greater level of control.

So if you want to have more control when applying the pain to the nipples, then you have a couple of choices as nipple clamps come in all sorts. I am going to sort out the differences between the basic ones as they all open up for new possibilities..

Before you start playing with nipple torture, there are some basic guidelines that are always good to follow:

The majority of nipple torture involves cutting off circulation to the nipples, the general rule is that nipple clamps shouldn’t be used for more than 10-15 minutes in order to prevent permanent damage to nerve ends among other thing.
Always try the clamps on yourself to get a sense of what you are subjecting your submissive to.
If you are using a pair of wooden clothing pins, be sure to use them on something else a couple of times to take the “bite” out of them.
If you or your submissive haven’t done nipple torture before, then don’t go for the meanest ones – Start slowly and work your way up for a longer period of time.
The line between pleasure and pain when using nipple clamps are very thin. Be sure to stay below that line in order to get maximum pleasure out of your nipple torture.
The nipples can get hypersensitive, even for days, afterwards.
 

Clover clamps

Clover clamps are also known as Japanese clamps as they have appeared in a lot of Japanese style porn movies. The clover clamp have smaller points, compared to other clamps, that are rubberised. The rubber helps to create a firm grip around the nipple which is necessary as clover clamps have a twist to them.

The more you pull on a clover clamp the harder it grabs hold of the nipple. This means that if you have a chain between a pair of clover clamps, then you can hang weights on the chain in order to increase the pressure on the nipple. Clover clamps have an initial nasty bite to them and are considered only to be used on submissive that are experienced in using nipple clamps.

Clover clamps are best applied a little bit behind the actual nipple as the points of pressure are small – If they are applied in such a way that they just grab hold of half of the nipple, then the bite is turned into a pinch which can make anyone pass out. The clover clamps should be applied gently and slowly as any mistake can be too painful.

Bull nosed clamps

Bull nosed clamps have blunt ends covered in rubber or latex and a screw in the middle which allows you to control the pressure they apply on the nipple. These clamps offer the same comfort as Tweezer clamps, the pressure on the nipple is fairly moderate even when they are tightened as far as they can be.

The pressure area is also fairly large in comparison with the clover clamps, which also makes these clamps to be considered as “nice” ones that are suitable for the aspiring beginner in the art of nipple torture.

Applying the bull nosed clamps can be a little bit of a hassle as you need to have a firm grip of the nipple between tip of your index finger and thumb to make it stick out. While holding that grip you need to guide the clamp in place and screw on it in order to make it grab hold of the nipple. As you understand from reading this – It is a troublesome task.

One solution is that the submissive grab hold of the nipple while the dominant concentrate on guiding the clamp and tightening the grip. This is of course  hard if your submissive is tied up.

Tweezer clamps

Tweezer clamps are graceful looking and very aesthetically pleasing. The pressure they apply on the nipple is regulated by a small metal ring that is moved up or down along the tweezer. The pressure that applied on the nipple by a tweezer clamp is minimal as the tweezer itself is very thin and the metal tend to budge. The rubber tips also helps to avoid a harsh pain when using tweezer clamps.

The grip of the tweezer clamp makes it unsuitable to sustain weights and if you pull on them they usually lose their grip. When applying these clamps, then you have the same problem as when you apply the bull nose clamps – You need to keep a grip on the nipple while guiding the clamp and adjusting the pressure ring. These clamps are also very hard to use on someone with small nipples and they are best applied straight on a stiff nipple.

The metal also gets weakened after extensive use, so you have to buy new ones now and then – On the other hand, they are fairly inexpensive.

No rubber protection

When you get more experienced with the tweezer clamps then you can remove the rubber tips and that reveals a pair of metal teeth which will make the clamp dig into the nipple, this is more for hardcore play and it might break some skin as well. If you decide to use the clamps without the rubber tips, then be sure the clean them carefully before and after use in a suitable disinfectant. An infection in your nipple is not something that you would want and it can actually affect your ability to breast feed later in life.

My personal opinion is that tweezer clamps are mostly for show as the tactile sensation is minimal – But if you have a low threshold when it comes to pain while having your nipples stimulated then these clamps are a very good start.

Tweezer clamps was actually my first pair of clamps that I bought and I find them very useful when I am in the start of nipple training a submissive as they are very soft.

C-clamps

C-clamps require that you can invoke a fairly large nipple erection to make the clamp grab hold of the nipple. The big flat surface creates a evenly distributed pressure across the nipple.

My experience is that you have to tighten these clamps fairly hard to make them they stay in place. The smaller nipple you have, the smaller surface for the C-clamp to grab hold of. The area between the two metal rods is usually small, which makes it virtually impossible to apply the clamp behind the nipple.

Applying these clamps involves the same problem as with tweezer clamps and bull nosed clamps – You wish you had three hands when trying to put these on a submissive. These are actually the hardest ones to put on as you only have the nipple to work with, so you have to be very delicate in your grip while trying to move the nipple into the clamp.

The psychological enjoyment of nipple clamps


As I mentioned before, nipple clamps constricts or even cuts of circulation to the nipples. There is some pressure/pain involved when applying the clamps onto the nipples, but that pain will usually dissipate as the body gets used to the sensation and produces endorphins. This is also why the dominant should keep track of the time that the clamps stays on, as the submissive might not feel any pain at all after a couple of minutes.

There is a psychological twist with nipple clamps that is quite enjoyable – They hurt even more when you remove them.

As you constrict the blood flow to the nipples you also make them numb. As the blood rushes back into the area that has been constricted, the feeling also returns creating an overload at the nerve ends. This means that the submissive will in most cases feel a very sharp and intense, uncontrollable, pain when the clamps are removed.

This can be used in favour of the dominant – Remove one clamp and let the submissive ride through the pain. Then you remind the sub that there is one clamp left and that you have to remove that as well. The longer you let the clamps stay one, the more excruciating the pain will be when you remove them and that can be enough to send someone into subspace. Be sure to keep the basic rule; Don’t leave the clamps on no longer than 10-15 minutes to avoid permanent damage to the nerve ends.

Happy clamping everyone and feel free to write about your experiences with nipple clamps as comments to this post.


Practice makes perfect

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