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Welcome to Mistress Leyla’s Blog Here you’ll find in-depth articles to help create a real BDSM lifestyle. Obedience, submission and loyalty essential requirements.
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3 Oct 2014
1 Oct 2014
Has the internet been good for #BDSM?
What do you think??
"The Internet provides a central platform for networking amongindividuals who are interested in BDSM. There are countless private andcommercial choices and an increasing number of local networks and supportgroups emerging, which offer comprehensive background and health relatedinformation for people as well as contact lists with information on psychologists,physicians and lawyers who are familiar with BDSM related topics."
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29 Sept 2014
Psychological safety in BDSM play, part 1 & part 2
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Playing with pain and power is risky. There is no getting
around it. It’s why, as a community, we spend time reading, practicing and
attending workshops to make sure we can give our partner the experience they
want, in the safest way possible.
In kink we play with the mind just as much as we play with
the body. And just like the body, there are certain things that we need to be
aware of to make our play as safe as possible.
Mental illness and psychological trauma are an invisible
epidemic in Western society. A worldwide survey of women recently revealed that
one in three women worldwide has been the victim of sexual assault. And if you
look at the combined experience of physical and sexual assault in Australia,
the number of women who have experienced some kind of trauma is one in two.
26 Sept 2014
Female spree-killing, sex, and celebrity: The case of Joanna Dennehy
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AUTHOR: Author & academic; critical thinker; curmudgeon.
AUTHOR: Author & academic; critical thinker; curmudgeon.
Posted on February 24, 2014
Knowing that my latest book is about murder and gender – or,
more specifically, about a particular narrative of modern identity and
individuality that has made possible the figure of the Western “recreational
murderer” – lots of people have drawn my attention to the recent case of Joanna
Dennehy.
Dennehy is a 32-year-old British woman who enlisted her
apparently enthralled male lovers, Gary Stretch and Leslie Layton, to be her
accomplices in the murders of three men, Lukasz Slaboszewski, Kevin Lee, and
John Chapman. (See here.) Dennehy’s documented taste for sadomasochistic sexual
practices (see here) has added to the frenzied media interest in the case, and
has led to the production of some dubious psychiatric diagnoses, which I plan to
write about elsewhere. Dennehy is both statistically unusual and discursively
rare in being described as a female recreational killer whose apparent motives
for committing her crimes were sexual sadism and thrill-seeking.
13 Aug 2014
Trapped in a man's body with a woman's mind
I belong to a small community of people all born with the
same unusual syndrome. It has the unfortunate name of transsexualism and is one
of those rare conditions - like hermaphroditism - where the individual is born
as a mixture of the sexes. There are thousands of us in the UK, and as soon as
our condition is confirmed, we lose many of our civil liberties. We have no
substantive employment rights, it is illegal for us to marry and we are not
allowed to adopt children.
But of course we are people - lawyers, doctors, academics,
nurses, business people, rich and poor, from shop assistants to peers of the
realm, whose life-experience, curious to others, is normal to us. We do not
believe that we are less worthy of human rights than anyone else: only less
powerful.
It is almost
impossible to communicate how it feels to be born and to grow up in this way.
Knowing nothing else, it is normal for us to find nature and nurture at odds,
to know ourselves one thing while being brought up as another. Typically, then,
from the age of four or five, the child knows that there is something wrong
and, typically, they believe it will change naturally. Of course, it doesn't
and by the age of eight or nine their distress is so great that they may simply
hope to die.
12 Aug 2014
Transsexual differences caught on brain scan
Medics are keen to find concrete physical evidence to help
those children who feel they are trapped in the body of the opposite sex. One key
brain region involved is the BSTc, an area of grey matter. But the region is
too small to scan in a living person so differences have only been picked up at
post-mortem.
Antonio Guillamon's team at the National University of
Distance Education in Madrid, Spain, think they have found a better way to spot
a transsexual brain. In a study due to be published next month, the team ran
MRI scans on the brains of 18 female-to-male transsexual people who'd had no
treatment and compared them with those of 24 males and 19 females.
11 Aug 2014
The T - word
by Devon
I am not a transsexual. I am transsexual. See the
difference? Although it may seem subtle, there is a vast difference, with
complex philosophical and social implications. Understanding this difference is
essential to understanding ourselves and how we fit into society.
In the first instance, "transsexual" is used as a
noun; in the second, as an adjective. One significant problem with use of the
noun form is that it replaces gender completely. Instead of being referred to
as men and women, or even transsexual men and women, we are called simply
transsexuals -- in effect, invalidating our gender. The following exchange
between two male characters in a television program I watched recently
illustrates this point:
"Who's that woman over there?"
"That's a transsexual."
10 Aug 2014
Gary, who is really Grace.
Grace only ever emerges when she is alone with me. She is beautiful and charismatic. But Grace has to live her life as Gary. Everyday she has to wake up as Gary, go to work as Gary and has to be Gary around family and friends. Gary is the name she was assigned as a baby. On all her documents the name is Gary. Gary looks like a man. Lives life as a man. But inside, Gary is really Grace, and Grace is tortured, unhappy and depressed. Gary/Grace is transsexual.
The joy I see in Grace's eyes when she is wearing what she feels comfortable in, feeling relaxed, happy and empowered. But I also know that as soon as Grace is put away physically, she will be again, unhappy at having to live a lie - live as Gary. The sparkle in Grace's eyes disappear and sadness returns.
Grace is not alone - not by far. There are thousands of transsexuals in the UK. I feel that there are many many more who are hidden, like Grace.
The joy I see in Grace's eyes when she is wearing what she feels comfortable in, feeling relaxed, happy and empowered. But I also know that as soon as Grace is put away physically, she will be again, unhappy at having to live a lie - live as Gary. The sparkle in Grace's eyes disappear and sadness returns.
Grace is not alone - not by far. There are thousands of transsexuals in the UK. I feel that there are many many more who are hidden, like Grace.
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Sarah's Story:
“My name is Sarah Szabo, and I’m a twenty-two year old
transsexual,” goes a sentence that, not five years ago, I never thought I’d
ever say. Five years ago, I was a high school graduate on way to being a
college freshman. Also, a boy. My name was Josh, I had a beard, and I had a
secret. I was lugging around a weight that any closet-familiar queer kid likely
knows a thing or two about, that kind of smirking, “if-you-only-knew” knowledge
of the self, held close and very personal behind a cloudy facade. I’m a woman
and I know it, I’d think to myself. I wonder if I’m ever gonna tell anybody.
What would you say if someone invited you to a Naturist Spa?
What would you say if someone invited you to a spa? I'm sure
you would jump at the chance as it would give you the opportunity to relax,
switch off and unwind after the stresses of a busy week. I'm sure you would
love to enjoy the spa, chat with friends and simply take time away from daily
life where you indulged in a little "me time"
What would you say however if you went to a spa and it was a
full naturist spa? Would you be curious? Would you jump at the chance, remove
your clothes and have a fantastic day or would your inhibitions be too much?
I was very recently told about a Naturist Spa, and I
genuinely was curious. How would I react once the underwear came off? Would I
become all shy and reserved or would I be happy to flaunt my body and not have
a care in the world.
30 Jul 2014
Wannabe or True Slave..?
Believe in fate? Are men and women born as leaders or do they become one? Is there such thing as natural talent or do folks learn via coaching and training? In turn are you born a slave or is it something you just pick up via media, advent of the internet...etc..etc.
Well as with all I write on this blog now and in the future I can only speak from experience...first hand experience.
I may be a very well experienced tvMistress and am very good at my craft but I am a slave to my wife and Mistress. For me I believe I was born a slave.
As a young boy I can remember seeing women like Joan Collins, Debbie Harry, Siouxie Sioux and even the old Top of the Tops Pans People girls and wanting to be under their spell. In the main these women were/are no nonsense women that knew/know what they want. As I say I was a young boy...6/7/8...9 at a push and I wanted to be under their spell.
25 Jul 2014
Hello and WELCOME @tvMistressPaula - newest delicious blogger
It is hard to find great blog writers with super saucy, deviant and delicious interests. So, it is with GREAT PLEASURE that I welcome tvMistress Paula to this growing blog of wicked writers.
You can also reach her at: https://twitter.com/tvMistressPaula
Read her post here
You can also reach her at: https://twitter.com/tvMistressPaula
Read her post here
From wannabe to slave to tvMiss to cuckold...and more
Well it's an honour to be granted permission to contribute to Mistress/Lady Leylas blog. I hope I can add a differing dimension to this wonderful alternative lifestyle that 'we' with live, dream about, dip in and out of or just purely fantasise about.
I am one of the lucky ones in my view and it's been a long and sometimes painful journey...and that's with no pun intended!!!
More posts will follow but it is fair to say I have 'been there' when it comes to understanding this lifestyle. Have I seen it all...well no, I would not be arrogant enough to say that...but at the same time I do understand a lot, have lived a lot and very much understand the mind of a slave. I know how to serve and as a result I know and understand how a Mistress should be served too. In tune I know how to dominate men and know what makes them 'tick' and what buttons to press..or not press as the case may be. Takes one to know one and all that! :)
I am one of the lucky ones in my view and it's been a long and sometimes painful journey...and that's with no pun intended!!!
More posts will follow but it is fair to say I have 'been there' when it comes to understanding this lifestyle. Have I seen it all...well no, I would not be arrogant enough to say that...but at the same time I do understand a lot, have lived a lot and very much understand the mind of a slave. I know how to serve and as a result I know and understand how a Mistress should be served too. In tune I know how to dominate men and know what makes them 'tick' and what buttons to press..or not press as the case may be. Takes one to know one and all that! :)
MPs, celebrities, abuse, child protection and counselling
We have seen and heard a lot recently in the news about
children who have been abused by MPs and celebrities. The clearest point which
has come out of these despicable acts is the need to protect our children. It
couldn't be clearer. But, one area of child protection which has not been
fully promoted via the media is that children need therapy and support. Children
with mental distress and Survivors of abuse need a clear and positive path to
recovery. Mental health problems usually bring about a complex set of emotions
which children have difficulty understanding. Children suffering from mental
distress may be unable to understand what they are experiencing and why they
are feeling the way they do, often keeping their thoughts and feelings hidden
away.
Here is a stark fact:
One in ten children between the ages of one and 15 has a mental health disorder. (The Office for National Statistics Mental health in children and young people in Great Britain, 2005)
Why am I writing this article? To raise awareness of a
problem which we may not be aware of - The lack of quality therapeutic
resources for children.
The demand for quality therapeutic services for children far
exceeds the actual availability of these services. There is a huge gap between
what is available and what is needed.
Many children do not get the support and counselling they
need. There are very few excellent services, even fewer specialist services
especially for sexual assaults and rape. So why is there such a limited service?
The answer is simply a lack of funding.
Therapeutic counselling services have complex funding
arrangements, often having two or more sources of income that tend to be
short-term, unstable and insecure. Shortfalls from such unstable and short-term
funding are of significant concern to managers across all sectors of provision.
It hampers the nature of therapeutic work, which often needs to be long-term.
Let me put the above into a practical context - I am a
supporter of one particular therapeutic counselling service for children and
young adults based in Basingstoke - YPI Counselling. The manager ( who is also
a remarkable counsellor ) spends a lot of time trying to procure grants and
donations. YPI have a waiting list, a long waiting list of children waiting for
much needed counselling services and when they are able to obtain counselling,
it is for a limited time. I have often discussed this issue with the manager -
why the waiting list is so long and why the counselling cannot be for longer
periods of time. Her answer is always the same - MONEY. More money would mean
more quality counsellors. Due to shortfalls in funding and donations YPI find
it very difficult to employ more trained BACP accredited counsellors (http://www.bacp.co.uk/accreditation/).
More funding and donations would mean more staff sharing the workload, shorter
lists and the children would also get more therapeutic sessions.
£40.00 pays for 1 counselling support session.
We need to support all children. As a community of adults,
it benefits us all in the long term to help support our children and young
adults.
I am going to ask each one of you who is reading this
article now to consider donating to YPI Counselling. I have chosen YPI because
I know how hard working and dedicated the staff are - many of whom are
voluntary. I know how much support and help they provide children and young
adults. Please, ( you will not hear a Dominatrix say this word often ) please
consider donating and supporting YPI.
Services for children and young adults are not only too few
but those that do exist far exceed their capacity.
If you are an organisation or work for a company which
offers grants to small charities, please encourage them to donate
on behalf of all the staff. I am hoping that you will choose to support YPI and
the great work they do mending our children.
Below are the links for the YPI Counselling homepage and
their DONATIONS page. If you would rather discuss long-term funding through individual
donations or corporate donations, you can contact the manager:
01256 423 878 / 0800 910 1822
Thank you.
YPI Counselling HOMEPAGE
YPI Counselling DONATIONS
YPI Counselling Corporate Grants
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Areas of mental distress common among children and young
people
Anxiety and Anxiety related problems
Anxiety is usually defined by heightened awareness,
uneasiness, nervousness and dread or fear of either real or imagined dangers.
Though it is entirely natural to feel a anxious now and then, perhaps before a
test or a big meeting, when it becomes excessive to the point it is impacting
our ability to go about our everyday activities this is an indication that it
is progressing into problem and help should be sought.
Below is a list of anxiety in its variety of forms:
Generalised anxiety disorder
In this situation there is nothing specific which is causing
or triggering the anxiety but there is an ongoing fear that something bad is
going to happen. In the instance of a child, they may feel like they have no
control over the situation which will result in physical side effects such as
stomach aches, headaches and sleeplessness and relationships may also be
affected.
Hypochondriasis
Hypochondriasis is the fear of having a fatal disease
despite there being no evidence indicating this may happen. Similarly to the
generalised anxiety disorder it can take on a physical form causing stomach
aches, headaches and nausea. Often associated with young adults.
Phobias
Fear of a certain object, person or situation etc that gives
the individual an overwhelming desire to avoid it despite it presenting no
danger. Phobias become a serious issue when they start preventing a person from
functioning on an everyday level.
Separation anxiety
Young children will often become distressed when separated
from their parents, but this kind of anxiety in older childhood or adolescence
may indicate a wider problem. This may occur when a young person experiences
change or an upheaval of some description such as divorce of their parents, a
bereavement or moving home and schools. Excessive crying when parents leave,
difficulty sleeping or refusal to go to school are also all symptoms.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
ADHD currently affects around 1.7 per cent of the UK
population, most of whom are children3. The condition causes its sufferers to
become easily distracted often with a short attention span. Children with ADHD
may also find it difficult to interact and play with other children as they
don't exhibit safety awareness or courtesy when it comes to taking turns and
often become aggressive. ADHD is directly associated with school failure,
exclusion and poor future prospects.
Autism
Though not a mental illness, Autism is known to cause
difficulties in communication and social interaction all of which affect a
young persons ability to understand emotions of others, social behaviour or the
concept of danger. The term also covers other disorders such as Asperger
syndrome.
Bipolar disorder
Bipolar disorder otherwise known as manic depression is an
illness characterised by abnormal mood swings of periods of extreme highs and
euphoria often followed by deep lows and unhappiness.
Depression
Though we tend to associate depression with adults the
common condition also occurs in children and is usually noticed through a
change in behaviour and or feelings of despair. Currently almost 80,000
children and young people suffer from severe depression.
Additional symptoms include a change in eating habits,
sleeping patterns, school performance, motivation and concentration and often
manifests as anger and rage. If left to continue untreated many of these
symptoms progress and destructive habits such as self harm and substance abuse
(both of which are growing in this group). However, the condition is treatable
especially if early diagnosis is sought and support is given from friends and
family.
Eating distress
According to the Mental Health Foundation both anorexia
nervosa and bulimia nervosa are the most common forms of eating disorders,
affecting around 2 per cent of adult females. Various research suggests that
eating disorders tend to set in during teenage years, peaking around the age of
16.
Anorexia nervosa
A person suffering from anorexia nervosa often has an
extremely distorted body image and an intense fear of gaining any weight.
Though a sufferer may be hungry they inflict weight loss by banishing any
calorific foods and fats. The condition is more common among girls usually
beginning in mid teens and has very little to do with looking good and more to
do with deep rooted emotional problems and the need for an element of control.
Bulimia nervosa
Though this condition is more common among girls, the number
of boys affected each year is continuing to rise. The condition see's the
sufferer alternate between binge eating and self induced purging (vomiting or
use of laxatives and diuretics). Similarly to anorexia the condition is usually
indicative of a deeper underlying issue and the sufferer will more often than
not try to keep it hidden.
Binge eating
Binge eating is the term used to describe a disorder which
see's sufferers eat extreme quantities of food, often when not hungry.
Afterwards the young person will usually feel ashamed and embarrassed about the
eating and may feel as though they are out of control. If the condition
persists it is likely to cause weight gain which brings about additional
conditions both physically and mentally.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
Obsessive compulsive disorder is essentially reoccurring
thoughts and obsessions which the sufferer will feel the need to carry out in a
repetitive and ritualised fashion, for example counting, repeatedly checking if
something is locked or closed, touching, excessively washing hands etc. Usually
the compulsive acts stem from a fear that something bad may happen if they are
not carried out.
Schizophrenia
Though schizophrenia is rare in young people there are cases
in which children exhibit signs early on. Symptoms include a fear of other
people, difficulty distinguishing reality from fantasy, hearing voices and
delusions and generally sufferers will perceive the world quite differently
from others and are withdrawn and often devoid of emotion.
Self-harm
Self-harm is usually a sign and expression of a deep rooted
emotional problem and often young people use it as a way of coping with
difficult feelings they may be having. Self-harm often involves making cuts in
the skin with blades, glass or sharp objects and other methods such as rubbing,
burning, scratching and swallowing objects. It is estimated that 1 in 15 young
people have deliberately self-harmed, with additional evidence suggesting that
UK rates of self-harm are higher than the rest of Europe.
Suicide
Suicide in young people is usually linked with depression,
loss, abuse or other issues from which they feel there is no other way out.
According to a study cited in the Samaritans report on young people and
suicide, there are an estimated 24,000 suicide attempts made by 10 to 19 year
olds in England and Wales each year, which amounts to one attempt every 20
minutes.
Sleep problems
Difficulty sleeping may take the form of nightmares, night
terrors and or sleepwalking. Unlike many of the other types of distress listed
in this section a sleep problem is not necessarily an indicator of an
underlying issue and may have more to do with television programmes and eating
habits etc. However, if the problem does persist for an extended period of this
time this may indicate a deeper emotional cause.
Substance misuse
Alcohol, drug and substance misuse can often result in
serious physical consequences including that of addiction. Many young people
turn to these substances as a way of escaping from complex emotional issues and
mental health problems that would benefit from more appropriate interventions
such as counselling.
Child abuse
Figures compiled by the NSPCC Child Protection Awareness and
Diversity Department state that there were 31,919 children named on the child
protection registers on the 31st March 2006.
Additional figures from the NSPCC suggest that some 7 per
cent of children are physically abused by their parents or carers, 1 per cent
of under 16s are sexually abused by a parent or carer, a further 3 per cent are
sexually abused by another relative, 11 per cent are sexually abused by a non
relative and 5 per cent are sexually abused by a stranger.
Though the exact prevalence of child abuse is unknown,
researchers believe it to be far higher than the figures of recorded cases
suggest, with numbers such as the 112,000 children counselled by ChildLine in
2001/02 adding further weight to the mounting evidence. Of those 112,000
children, 21,000 sought advice about physical or sexual abuse.
18 Jul 2014
Understanding Submission
Introduction
I like to understand things. I like to know what is really
going on. I like to be as good as I can in what I do. To this end, being the
analytical type that I am, I like to have a model, or theory, which helps me to
understand what I am doing and what is going on around me.
BDSM is full of frills and window-dressing. Getting to the
core of it---understanding which are the basic "components"---means
looking around at what people do, looking at their feelings and extracting the
common elements.
17 Jul 2014
Welcome to Sex Societies Istanbul
East meets West in Istanbul. You'll find hookers from Europe
and Arabia willing to have a good time.
Turkey attracts huge numbers of female European sex
tourists. The number one destination is Antalya which has its own international
airport.
The Taksim Square area in Istanbul, where many hotels are,
has a lot of bars and a vibrant street scene with hookers, gays and
transgenders.
Prostitution and brothels are legal here.
Sex toys are sold openly in shops and in the Muslim world's
first online Halal adult toy shop.
If you are consumed with nostalgia for the days of rowdy
ports, Istanbul's sex street for sailors is still working with women standing
in windows.
Warning! Robbery at knife point happens in the streets here.
Pickpockets are hard at work too.
LINK TO FULL RESOURCE CLICK HERE
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) rights in Turkey
Why does the LGBT community face discrimination in Turkish
society?
How can we decrease discrimination and harassment towards
LGBT people in Turkey?
That being said, even though LGBT people are becoming
stronger and more visible in Turkey, they are still facing violence, attacks,
abuse and discrimination on a daily basis. Honor crimes against LGBT are
believed to be a way of keeping the ‘honor’ of the family intact. Kaos GL, a
Turkish LGBT rights organization, tracked 16 “hate crime” murders of gay men
and transsexual people in Turkey in 2010 alone.
Homofin, is a herbal treatment, which claims to influence
hormones. The manufacturer states: ‘It is now up to you to be or not to be a
homosexual”. Homofin’s site even encourages mothers, who suspect their sons are
gay, to buy these capsules and secretly dissolve the drug in their food. The
government has yet to take any legal action to get this unethical, unscientific
drug off the market.
In addition, police officers regularly arrest LGBT people on
the accusation of prostitution. Sexual orientation or gender identity is often
used as a basis for criminal penalties, in particular executions, arrests or
detention. Critics say these actions are a way of putting pressure on the LGBT
community. Most LGBT people that have experienced such incidents do not report
this misconduct; they know that those responsible will never be punished.
To this day, there are many obstacles LGBT activists face on
social networking sites and the internet in general. One example is that
websites of LGBT associations are regularly hacked by religious groups.
While the government plays dumb, the fundamental rights of
LGBT people are being violated, especially their right to private life.
Homosexuals are increasingly targeted, also in hate speeches made by government
officials. In 2010, Selma Aliye Kavaf, the Minister for Women and Family,
classified homosexuality as a biological disorder and a disease which needed to
be cured. Further, in response to the question ‘when Turkey is going to have
openly gay ministers’ the mayor of Ankara, Ibrahim Melih Gokcek stated ‘ if god
willing (insallah) in our country there are no gay and will never be’ when he
was asked ‘when Turkey is going to have openly gay ministers’. Even more so,
the fact that Prime minister Erdogan has never mentioned homosexuality or LGBT
people during his service is a clear sign that the government should be blamed
for the violence and harassment against LGBT people; by being passive, the
government clearly shows their toleration of homophobic and transphobic
attitudes.
Moving forward, The Universal Declaration which was adopted
by the UN General Assembly on December 10th 1948 passed with a vote of 48 in
favor (Turkey being one of them), zero against and eight abstentions. Article 1
of the Universal Declaration states that ‘all human beings are born free and
equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and
should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood’. However, the rights
of LGBT people are ignored and not mentioned in the Turkish constitution’s
prohibition of discrimination or the social and civil rights.
(http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/)
Meanwhile, LGBT groups are pushing their agenda forward in
order to include protection against gender/sexual orientation discrimination in
the Turkish Constitution and have some support from outside the LGBT community.
The LGBT activists campaign for equality before law.
On the 30th of June 2013, the gay pride parade attracted
almost 100.000 people. This was seen as a positive development by LGBT
activists. (http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/01/world/europe/protests-squelched-gay-rights-march-brings-many-in-turkey-back-to-the-streets.html?_r=2&
)
On the other hand, Gezi resistance which started on 27th May
2013, was an anti-government struggle against injustice and cruel and inhuman
intervention of the Turkish police. The protesters demanded freedom of the
press and freedom of expression, the removal of all barriers between the
citizens and their right to education and health service, as well as protesting
against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.. During
the Gezi struggle, LGBT people got a chance to show that they are normal and
harmless human beings, and do not warrant that people are afraid of them. Gezi
remains an event that has sent a clear message to everyone : ‘the struggle of
the people in Gezi Park was a battle for democracy and rights for
all’.(http://roarmag.org/2014/01/gezi-ottoman-turkish-nationalism/)
A momentous decision was taken when People’s Democratic
Party (HDP) freshly nominated five LGBT activists. Furthermore, the Republican
People’s Party member and also LGBT activist Öykü Evren Sözen has announced her
candidacy once again from Bursa Osmangazi district city. Another big step was
made when Can Cavusoglu, an openly gay independent candidate, publicly
announced that he is running to become a mayor in Giresun’s district of
Bulancak in the March 2014 local election. He declares himself gay, activist,
writer, thinker, painter humanist and women’s rights activist. (http://www.hurriyetdailynews.com/hdp-pledges-diversity-with-its-party-assembly.aspx?pageID=238&nid=57005)
Being Gay, bisexual or transsexual is seen as an “illness”
by religious groups. Hate crime is a daily reality throughout Turkey. Islam
being the dominant religion in Turkey is one of the reasons why there are
anti-gay actions. Religious clerics state that homosexuality is a test. If you
are not able to stand the temptation, you will go to hell. If you resist, you
will be pardoned and go to heaven. In
Turkey, there are many religious people who believe that Islam’s position
regarding LGBT people would be to apply the death penalty
(http://www.gmanetwork.com/news/story/321419/pinoyabroad/worldfeatures/gay-muslims-in-turkey-torn-between-religion-and-sexuality)
To conclude, the government in Turkey has to introduce a new
constitution containing greater human rights protection. An anti-discrimination law to protect LGBT is
a necessity. In this way, the discrimination in society will not only decrease
but will also reduce the long-established judicial practice of giving penalty
reductions based on unjust provocation in hate-motivated killing of LGBT
people.
Currently, the perpetrators continue to be rewarded by the judiciary.
LGBT people will continue to be targets if the LGBT are not seen to be equal
before the law. The demands of LGBT people for equality and protection under
the law, full justice and freedom for LGBT people should be accomplished. This
year was utterly a difficult one, marked by several hardships the LGBT had to
endure, such as killing attempts, ill treatment, rape and cyber attacks. Thus,
I reckon a proper end of my article would be a very inspiring line from Nazim
Hikmet’s invitation poem:
“To live like a tree single and at liberty and brotherly like the trees of a forest.
Bibliography
10 Shades of Stupid: Cosmo’s Worst BDSM Tips
I knew this was coming when the cashier in Barnes and Nobles
saw me looking at Fifty Shades of Grey and stage-whispered: "I bought that
for my mom, and now I'm just terrified that I'm going to go home and find my
dad. In a cage. Bleeding or dead." BDSM is like soccer and socialized
medicine; fascinating, but hard for a lot of Americans to understand. Cosmo's
trying to help with their August issue, which features a twist on their usual
bouquet of sex tips: this time, all their tips are inspired by Fifty Shades of
Grey.
16 Jul 2014
Harassment of and discrimination against women who choose to engage in S/M practices
"My boss started grabbing my breasts when he found
out"
"I have a friend who may lose her job"
"Simply, I was beaten up due to the jerk thinking that
[my S/M] meant [I was] free game to beat up and rape"
Harassment of and discrimination against women who choose to
engage in S/M practices is an everyday occurrence. That so many women in this
community are "in the closet" makes them particularly vulnerable.
Of the first 200 people responding to NCSF National Survey
of Violence and Discrimination Against Sexual Minorities:
36% have experienced discrimination
37% have experienced violence or harassment
80% are not completely "out"*
attempting to remain closeted is not a defense. Of those who
suffered harassment or assault, 96% never reported the crime.
Not all violence against S/M women is perpetrated by men. A
nationwide study in 1994 found that, of 539 lesbian and bisexual S/M women
surveyed:
56% had experienced discrimination or violence from other
women within the lesbian community because of their participation in consensual
S/M
47% had experienced harassment from other women
30% had experienced discrimination
25% had experienced physical assault.**
"Regardless of personal feelings and opinions about
consensual BDSM, no one has the right to harass, discriminate against, or
physically assault S/M women."**
*Violence and Discrimination Against You: National Coalition
for Sexual Freedom, 1998.
**Violence against S/M Women Within the Lesbian Community: A
Nation-Wide Survey. Sponsored by Female Trouble of Philadelphia. Copyright 1994
by Jad Keres.
A growing community of SM/leather/fetish activists, all of
whom recognize the distinction between S/M and abuse, are fighting for freedom
of sexual expression among consenting adults. S/M activists who are also
Members of the National Organization for Women (NOW) have created the Sexual
Freedom Now project to promote sexual self-determination for women.
14 Jul 2014
A Master's Viewpoint: EXPECT THE BULLS**T
Wonderfully written by Dennis Najee:
We all know the stories about the online BDSM community and
the challenges that anyone who is looking for something real encounters. One only needs to read a few profiles before
coming across someone posting his or her frustration at the games that are played. As sad as it is, this is a reality that all
of us face when dealing in this arena.
In my years in this lifestyle and the later part engaging online, I
found that there is no way around it.
The online world is just too easy for the pretenders, stalkers, and
bullshi**ers to excel. They will be an
ongoing presence.
So how do we deal with this?
4 Jul 2014
The Mother of Murdered Trans Woman: I Condemn the People Who Do Not Employ Our Daughters
We talked with Melek Okan, the mother of İrem Okan who was
the victim of a transphobic hate crime in Bursa in 2010: “I still have contact
with the other daughters. One of our daughters has recently undergone surgery.
I hatefully condemn the people who do not employ our daughters. Remember not
only İrem but also Ecem who was killed a year later.”
Melek Okan, the mother of İrem Okan [who died as a result of
a transphobic hate crime in Bursa in 2010], joined the film screening of “My
Child” (“Benim Çocuğum”) in Bursa. Melek Okan gave the film its name with her
remarks about her child: “They could not find a place for my child to live in
this big world.” We had a conversation about what she went through.
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