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Sinful & Wicked Mistress Lady Leyla

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I am an alpha Female. Strong and confident with a desire to dominate and control. Powerful yet playful. Sinful, wicked and sadistic yet sensual, sophisticated and intelligent. You will kneel and grovel. You will plead for me to stop - I will be in your mind ALWAYS. You will not be able to dismiss thoughts of me easily. My work is an art - you my canvas.

I adore glamour and beauty. I absolutely relish whole sessions around being dressed and pampered by my slave. I love my feet being worshiped and my toenails pedicured. I might order my slaves to lie down and then crush them with my gorgeous stilettos.

I love cross-dressers, slaves who dress like tarts please me because I love treating them like little sluts with a dildo and nipple torture.

Animal training is entertaining, Doggies are my favourite and I will make you sit, stay, fetch, carry and roll over. And good, well behaved doggies deserve treats and walkies. Exploring imagination, finesse and responsibility along with the principles of safety, sanity and consent  are the key elements to a world of possibilities within bondage, domination, sadism and masochism.

I take pleasure in being in control. I will manipulate people or demand. Human psychology, kinkiness, fetishes and  sissy maids intrigue me. I take pride in what I do. I enjoy what I do. I am not a cold or cruel Mistress,  I enjoy getting to know my slaves. I particularly enjoy role play sessions and hearing about my slaves fantasies.

I am drawn to feminisation and training. I admire my subjects embracing their feminine sides. I relish training them and help them develop into glamorous and obedient serving divas. I want them to embrace this aspect of their personality. There is nothing I like more than obedient sissy maids keeping everything immaculately clean for their Mistress - In her Dungeon overlooking Reading.

I have a seductive and sinful dungeon and from the moment you enter my domain I expect total obedience, submission & dedication! You are at my mercy. I EXPECT faultless obedience, submission and dedication.

 I Am in control. You WILL serve, obey and submit to me. I will NOT tolerate disobedience, time wasting or disrespectful subs in any way.

I can suspend or withdraw your slave status at any time if you displease me.

My services are not free – do not waste my time if you cannot provide the monetary offerings I require.

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Knots 101 - Clove Hitch and Half Hitch.

Clove Hitch and Half Hitch.

These knots are two of the easiest to tie and work well when securing a rope to a bedpost. They can cut off circulation when enough pressure is applied, so they should not be used for suspension, to tie around the body, or with wrist and ankle cuffs.

Clove Hitch Using Loops

Clove Hitch Tied with Rope End

Clove Hitch Using Half Hitches

Knots 101 - Reef Knot

Square Knot (Reef Knot).  

This basic knot is best suited for tying the ends of two ropes together. It is a fairly flat knot, and does not inflict as much pressure on the skin as other knots. It is a good knot to use when first tying rope for bondage or trying out BDSM

Autogynephilia (Crossdreamers) and loneliness

How do you explain to the woman you love that you dream about taking her role?

Living with autogynephilia can be hell, there is no doubt about it. Here we are, living in a society that seems to judge us by our ability to live up to masculine ideals, while we dream about being women full time or at least about allowing our "inner woman" to be an important part of our otherwise "manly" lives.

We love women, and we fall in love with women, and we want to be with them, just like other men. But how do you approach women, when they have no reason to expect anything else than a "normal" man. How do you tell a woman that you dream about being the catcher, when she is looking for a pitcher?

I am going to republish parts of an email I have gotten from another autogynephiliac. Let's call him Anonymous 20+ The text expresses the pain and the anguish that can follow from this condition. He is in his twenties.

If you have any advice or experiences that can be of help, please add a comment!

Teenage love and acceptance

"I am a ... male with autogynephilia along with crossdressing. Almost all my fantasies involve identifying with the 'female' role, though this has not precluded me from a couple of fulfilling relationships in the past. I have had girlfriends, two of which were serious(...). I've had sex with two partners -- both were these two serious girlfriends. The last time was about four years ago....

My first girlfriend (let's call her FirstLove) knew about my crossdressing and fantasies (we dated [as teenagers]). I told her , though it was immensely painful to do so. Luckily, she accepted me for it. I kind of knew she would because she had a big heart. We were both each other's firsts etc. I suppose I am a fool for leaving her, but I was young and didn't know any better. Now she is married. She used to go shopping with me for clothes, and we had good sex and similar sex drives, and were very close to each other, she was aware of my fantasies and even sometimes played along, so I know it's possible to have a fulfilling relationship as an autogynephile.

Something's wrong with you

I did not tell my next girlfriend , in college. Let's call her SmartGirl. Our relationship slowly progressed to staying at each other's apartments, and we eventually had sex a few months in....Sometimes the sex with SmartGirl was good though, I think partly because we were together long enough to establish trust and build some physical chemistry, even though I didn't tell her my fantasies...

But SmartGirl had a feeling something was up with me. I think because later I avoided sex , partly I felt like I was hiding something (which I was) , partly because I didn't care , and partly because I felt "why be intimate if she could never accept the full picture?" So I remained kind of distant. I also had to fantasize about taking the female role to enjoy sex. And I still crossdressed by myself at my apartment....some months later, she eventually left me because I did not make her feel 'desirable'. So she cheated on me and left. Partly I think this was because I was not paying her enough attention and initiating sex enough.

So I pick up and move on...- then this whole thing happens again the next year with a third girl, let's call her ArtistGirl. That is, ArtistGirl leaves me after telling me I didn't make her feel desirable. SAME THING. You can imagine how I felt after that. ...

After that, I completely avoided relationships with women, just because I became so scared about this whole thing. I was literally in despair on and off for the past four years.

Two things kept running through my mind:

(1) I was a fool to have left FirstLove who I lost my virginity to and the only girl who KNEW and accepted my fantasies

(2) Having the same failure happen TWICE in a row with the next two girlfriends (SmartGirl and ArtistGirl) -- neither of whom I had the guts to tell about my fantasies or crossdressing -- and then have them both leave me , because I did not make them 'desirable' or 'wanted'. This made me realize this was something on my end.

What a horrible feeling.

I literally remember the second time when ArtistGirl told me the same thing as SmartGirl (basically, "what's wrong with you?", "don't you enjoy sex?", "don't you want me?") I just felt my stomach sink and my heart sink and I felt like I was going to cry. I felt ill and the room was spinning. I thought to myself, "am I going to be alone the rest of my life now?" I felt incredibly stupid, like I was misleading them as to who I was , since I wasn't a 'normal' guy, I was some damaged fuckup. Anyone who says it's easier to be gay or trans has no idea how painful this is.

In hiding

For the past several years, I simply lived alone and crossdressed on and off, despite my desire to have a girlfriend and to be in a long term relationship..

Part of me just wants to say fuck it and be alone. But that gets incredibly lonely. It's only fun for a little while. Part of me wants to seek out a partner, but I feel like we'd have differing expectations -- what could I offer her, and what could she possibly expect to offer me?

I mean, if a girl is attracted to the 'male' me and wants me to be the 'top' in her fantasies, how can I possibly explain to her I am fantasizing about being in her role? Can this even work? And further, how can I possibly expect her to accept that *her* role is what I find sexually arousing? I suppose FirstLove did... I mean I realize it's possible but how to go about this? The logistics seem impossible. When to bring it up? I don't mind switching off roles, but I just don't know how to get to that point in intimacy anymore... I seriously wish this never happened to me.

I avoided all opportunities with women the past few years due to an immense fear of failure and internal pain. (ie. I am damaged goods, why should I bother, etc). Recently I decided that , well , I'm 26, I better try to find a girlfriend if I ever want someone to accept me and to have children with etc. If I fail, I fail, whatever I'll just live by myself and crossdress and get on with things.

So I go out and make an effort to find a girlfriend. I've been working out, staying fit, healthy, etc. I don't really crossdress that much these days, maybe once every month or two. It's more the fantasies that are the problem.

Incompatible?

Anyway, this is somewhat successful, and within a few months I have a girl , lets call her Girl4, who is interested in me. I could now hypothetically go over to her house whenever I wanted to sleep with her. But I don't really want to... I do and I don't... For example, we have given each other backrubs and explored each other's bodies somewhat. But I am scared out of my mind. I feel like we don't know each other that well, and we have mismatched expectations. For example, we are lying together, and she's asking me all the things I want to do to her. She is talking dirty to me in a 'hetero' way. I just feel so lost.

... Part of the problem here is that we have the SAME fantasies. She wants to be the female role and to be sexually submissive. ... She is fantasizing about me in the dominant role! I don't mind indulging this as long as she understands where I'm coming from.. that I identify with HER role and I am playing along for our mutual enjoyment. But obviously she doesn't understand this . because I haven't explained it yet.

I might feel differently if I knew that we were in a relationship and that she was committed to making things work etc at least for a little while. Then I might feel more comfortable trying to make things work, experimenting with my 'male/dominant' role etc. I don't mind 'switching' sexual roles (dominant / submissive) or trying it at least, if we switch off. I might even be able to enjoy taking the dominant role , based on identifying with her reactions . But there is zero commitment here , and I feel she thinks I'm something I'm not.

I explained to her when she asked that I was 50% dominant and 50% submissive (which I suppose was misleading because I left out the 50/50 gender component), I also explained that I was nervous about being with a new girl, it had been a few years, etc. I think she understands that I'm unusually sensitive and understanding as a lover -- and I can also tell she really likes it -- but I don't think she understands the full implications and all the associated problems. I feel like I'm navigating a sea of postmodern schizophrenic sexuality with no markers or reference points.

I am curious if I can perhaps enjoy sex with her by taking the 'male' role , then by identifying with her in the submissive role, but then I get back to , "well, why not just dress up by myself?" This is way less effort and I know it's at least partially gratifying. Then I think , well maybe I can make it work with this new girl if I explain to her my fantasies at some point, and she is okay with it, and we switch off or something. But then we go through the circle of maybe I should just have sex with her first, then explain. Very confusing...

So that's where I'm at today. A potential girlfriend and I'm scared and I just don't know what to do. ...

As for me -- I don't want a sex change, though sometimes I fantasize about it, but I think that's just a fantasy. I am somewhat comfortable in my male role. I don't mind leading when I have to. But I also like to be in a female role sometimes. I feel like I'm 50% male and 50% female. I am open to fulfilling my girlfriends fantasies if she accepts me for mine, but reaching this level of intimacy is a catch-22. I simply don't know how to go forward. It's much easier at this age to be alone, and it doesn't help that I've cut myself off from female contact for four years.

Not knowing makes it easier

It was much easier when I was younger because I didn't think about all these things. My girlfriend and I just fell in love. It didn't really occur to me how messed up I actually was. Part of it was that we were both virgins and I didn't think about the details. She loved me so much she didn't care I was damaged goods. But now ... there is a completely different set of expectations. Girls are looking for guys with alpha qualities, not damaged goods they can fix up. On top of this, Casual sex is the norm in my peer group -- but I find casual sex absolutely repulsive. Vanilla Sex in general I don't even find arousing.

I did enjoy sex with my first girlfriend, but this was because I trusted her immensely and we loved and took care of each other. Part of it was also I could get away with autogynephilic fantasizing and my first love didn't seem to care. She even played along because she loved me. But now I seem to need to establish a high level of intimacy before I can perform and even enjoy sex because I'm so scared about the extent of my fantasies. Hell I don't even care that much about sex. It's more about giving my partner what she likes , and in return she loves and accepts me.

Two failed relationships though have really made me worried that I'm too damaged for this anymore.

So I have no idea what to do. Whether I should keep trying to find a partner, whether I should just give up and spare myself the pain, how I should proceed , whether I should explain myself up front, whether I should try to have sex first and then explain myself, how other autogynephiles approach their sex life, etc.

Anonymous 20+

Courtesy Of http://www.crossdreamers.com/2009/12/autogynephilia-and-loneliness.html

For More Information about, or an understanding of Autogynephilia (Crossdreamers) please see:

http://www.crossdreamers.com/2009/08/autogynephilia-defined.html

Queen Of Darkness

A poem by Submissive David R.

Around, all around, the shadows gather.

From the darkness divinity arises, Her beauty eternal

Slender beams of radiance enter

this darkened chamber as I kneel

always a slave, always silent,

frozen here.

My dread grows as the hand of love and pain

falls against my naked soul.

It wounds me, and darkly my

essence drips

to the wicked earth that is my prison.

In pain I beg forgiveness

while the Queen of darkness surrounds me.

Now alone, my cry of mercy falls upon darkened eyes.

This is my salvation.

BDSM & Feminism: An insider's view

Five BASIC Types of Submission

1. Fetish bottom: 

“I worship your boots and want to serve them.”Fetish bottoms differ from other types of fetishist in that the object they eroticise is associated with a top. They are almost invariably male, and in the pure form have little need to interact with the top or to submit their will in real life encounters.

2. Masochist: 

“I want you to use the needles tonight.”Masochists take things a step further and grant the top authority to subject them to pain or humiliation, or perhaps to physical control such as bondage. However, the dynamic of these scenes is still one of equality, and it is clear that everything is done for mutual gratification.

3. Roleplay submissive: 

“Can I be the Girl-Caught-Shoplifting tonight?”This involves assuming roles for a temporary scene (from a few hours up to a few days) which would normally be associated with inequality and with one person having power or authority over the other: for example, a store detective blackmailing a shoplifter into obeying him. However, it is understood that the goal of the scene is direct mutual satisfaction for both top and bottom (eg, that the “shoplifter’s” desire to be held down, “ravished” and sworn at is catered to.)

4. Servant:

“What can I do for you now, Sir?”This can sometimes be difficult to distinguish from a long term relationship involving role-play submission. However, the essential feature of a servant or service orientated submissive / bottom is their desire to do things purely for their top’s benefit (literally, to serve.) Hence, a servant may derive great satisfaction from doing housework at the top’s home. Nevertheless, this kind of service is voluntary and is an example of “ongoing voluntary submission”. The bottom constantly chooses to stay and to serve, even if that choice is just implicit in their continued presence and obedience.

5. Slave:

“You have the authority to decide things for me, Master.” A slave differs from other types of bottom in that they have no (enforceable) rights with respect to the top. In particular, they cannot remove themselves from the relationship, and cannot themselves chose to impose restrictions on what is done to them. This lack of rights in the face of the top’s acknowledged authority over them constitutes ownership. The difference between a servant and a slave can be summarised by: “Ownership rather than obedience is the defining quality of slavery; obedience rather than ownership is the defining quality of submission.”

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A chosen profession. - Part 1

Part 1: 

Occasionally, very occasionally I wonder if my chosen profession is a good one. The thoughts usually come from self doubt, ideas instilled in my mind from youth and a general quietness on the business front.

I question the reasons for my career choice, whether I am a good dominatrix, if I am too hard or too soft. Sometimes I have to remind myself that, for whatever reason I have chosen this path, it is, like every other profession, a job - albeit, with sadistic differences - it pays the bills.

In my years as a professional domme, I have met many Mistresses and Masters. Some 'live' the life 24/7, some pretend to live the life, some see it as a means to an end and don't enjoy their work. Others, like myself, don't live a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, yet enjoy and relish their work.

I chose not to like a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle because I am not wholly one character or personality. In private, I am quite shy, enjoy my own company and would rather spend a Sunday afternoon tending to my plants in my garden or rescuing insects, bugs and other creatures from natural disasters. I find the company of animals far more satisfying than the company of humans - I don't have a high regard for the human race. That doesn't mean I'm with Greenpeace or wear open toed sandals with my socks either. This is just part of who I am - a complex individual - one who enjoys solitude, philosophy, politics, educating the mind and meditation. 

But, there is the side of me which is sadistic, wicked and controlling. When I was very young, my family used to laugh at my two distinct characteristics - the gentle and the wicked -  blaming it on generations of "Anatolian warrior blood" from my mother's side. Maybe so..who knows. That is why I am comfortable with who I am in the dungeon, relish it and feed off it - but choose solitude at home.

Part 2: ..... soon

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What I learned in Istanbul: Headscarf controversy

The wearing of a headscarf was really not something that had ever bothered me. I feel people can do as they please as long as it doesn't infringe on my rights or liberty.

I have visited Istanbul many times, each time over the last few years I have noticed a steady incline of women wearing headscarves. There are beautiful women wearing casual clothing and a simple headscarf. Not a problem and quite pleasing to the eye.

Then I noticed women wearing headscarves AND long dresses..ok...AND A FULL COAT to the floor! In the heat of the summer, Istanbul can reach 35 Degrees Celsius. I was feeling hot, this woman must have been really hot. Torture is a word I enjoy using...but not in this context.

Maybe it has something to do with my own personal views. But the next thing I saw made me angry. In the blistering heat of noon, in an restaurant seated outside sat a woman. On her own at a table, she was dressed in a full Hijab - wearing gloves, her face and eyes covered. She was trying to eat soup, which she could only do by lifting the bottom of her Niqāb up a little, then lowering it again.

Seated behind her at another table was her husband, in T Shirt and shorts. Sitting with friends he was enjoying his lunch. occasionally, he would turn around and check on her.

I'm not sure what I feel. I believe in 'choice' and 'Freedom to choose'. What am I supposed to feel when I see something which I find unequal? We must always accept others opinions and views. How they choose to live their lives is their choice - I cannot pass judgemnet. But, I don't feel comfortable with what I have seen.

I am aware that currently in Turkey there is a Headscarf contraversy.. I can see why. there is a fear among people that by allowing the wearing of a headscarf, the Niqāb, Hijab and Burqa are not far away.

Political freedom, religious freedom and Kemalist Ideology are clashing. And a real friction is growing among people in Istanbul. One thing I know...Being a (good) Muslim does not mean the wearing Niqāb, Hijab or Burqa.

A little background: Turkey has been a secular state since it was founded by Mustafa Kemal Atatürk in 1923. He introduced the secularization of the state in the Turkish Constitution of 1924, alongside Atatürk's Reforms. These were in accordance with the Kemalist Ideology, with a strict appliance of laicite in the constitution. 
Atatürk saw headscarves as backward-looking and an obstacle to his campaign to secularize and modernize the new Turkish Republic. The issue of the headscarf debate has been very intense and controversial since it was banned.[1] Turkey is a secular country and over 95% of its people are Muslims.[2] It has resulted in a clash between those favouring the secular principles of the state, such as the Turkish Army,[3] and those who are more conservative with their religious beliefs.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Headscarf_controversy_in_Turkey

What I learned in Istanbul - Fashion

A Lot!
I've been many times to Istanbul, nut this time, I made a point of REALLY looking around - Not at the sights, but at the people.

FEMALES:

The women practice natural beauty - much like my discoveries in Paris. They are stylish and chic, dress with sophistication and in a classic manner. 

They seem to invest in key pieces, quality over price and wear what suits them. 

They eat sensibly, exercise and look after themselves. 

And the hair... Long, luscious and natural.

When I returned to my hometown of Reading I suddenly felt I had been dropped into a 'fashion disaster zone'. 

I won't start mumbling about my personal views, instead I'll leave you with this:

Vivienne Westwood criticises Britain’s bad dress sense

Queen of fashion Dame Vivienne Westwood is known for making bold statements - and this time she has some strong words for the British public.

Dame Vivienne slated Britain’s sense of style, saying “people have never looked so ugly” when it comes to fashion.

 Westwood said ‘conformist’ shoppers and cheap clothes have given society a ‘generic look’.

Dame Vivienne blamed the rise of cheap “disposable” clothes for curbing individuality and added that the only well dressed women are usually in their 70s, because they know how to choose investment pieces.

 The 70-year-old told reporters: “Everybody looks like clones and the only people you notice are my age. I don’t notice anybody unless they look great, and every now and again they do, and they are usually 70.”

Courtesy of Yahoo  http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/vivienne-westwood-criticises-britain%E2%80%99s-bad-dress-sense.html

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IS THERE SUCH A THING AS GAY TRANSPHOBIA?

My personal view of whether there is a bias towards transgendered people among the gay/lesbian community is a definite 'yes!' - but from individuals.

However, as to whether the bias is widespread, rooted deep within the community is questionable. 

Personally, I became aware of possible bias from the gay / lesbian community when I hosted a 'trans' event within a gay pub in Reading. It was during this event, the interactions I witnessed started me wondering whether, what I experienced was a one off prejudice, by one or two people, or a general bias towards transgendered people by the gay community.


I do not believe it is wide spread. But below are some articles outlining a different view. 

A discussion on this topic would be most welcome.

Transgender community face hate speech from Lesbian and Gay people.

Transphobia is not something that just happens because of heteronormativity. As we gradually make our way through the end of the first decade of the 21st century this much becomes clear; homonormativity is just as virulent as its sibling. A scenario between two South African activists -one a transsexual man and the other, a lesbian- during which the lesbian activist said, “once born a woman you will die a woman” and admits to saying so is typical of transphobic slur. The difference here is she admitted to casting the aspersion. Usually you are met with a barrage of denials which is symptomatic of bully cultures. The problem we face now is whether we like it or not, this is happing in our communities.

BDSM women's spaces and transphobia

When bending gender around can be described as a fetish, and you combine that with a sizeable population of transmen and transwomen in a smallish subculture, the results can be explosive, confusing and often pretty offensive.

Of all the arguments I've seen pan out in the BDSM community, the debates over where transwomen are 'allowed' to be and what they represent are often the longest and most heated.

We've had the argument over the personal ads, whether transwomen should have to put themselves in a separate category from other women so men don't have to look at their profiles. We've argued at great length about the London Ladies' Munch, who took a democratic decision to only allow physically transitioned transwomen in. I get what they were trying to do (which I'll explain later..) and think the move was well-intentioned, but it resulted in a lot of people using the contention over exactly what constituted 'fully transitioned' to have a grand transphobic rant. We've also had an argument about women's toilets at clubs and who should be allowed in them, which resulted in the same.

Neil A. Armstrong - 1930 - 2012 RIP

Neil A. Armstrong, the first man to walk on the moon, was born in Wapakoneta, Ohio, on August 5, 1930. He began his NASA career in Ohio.

After serving as a naval aviator from 1949 to 1952, Armstrong joined the National Advisory Committee for Aeronautics (NACA) in 1955. His first assignment was with the NACA Lewis Research Center (now NASA Glenn) in Cleveland. Over the next 17 years, he was an engineer, test pilot, astronaut and administrator for NACA and its successor agency, the National Aeronautics and Space Administration (NASA).

As a research pilot at NASA's Flight Research Center, Edwards, Calif., he was a project pilot on many pioneering high speed aircraft, including the well known, 4000-mph X-15. He has flown over 200 different models of aircraft, including jets, rockets, helicopters and gliders.

Armstrong transferred to astronaut status in 1962. He was assigned as command pilot for the Gemini 8 mission. Gemini 8 was launched on March 16, 1966, and Armstrong performed the first successful docking of two vehicles in space.

As spacecraft commander for Apollo 11, the first manned lunar landing mission, Armstrong gained the distinction of being the first man to land a craft on the moon and first to step on its surface.

Armstrong subsequently held the position of Deputy Associate Administrator for Aeronautics, NASA Headquarters, Washington, D.C. In this position, he was responsible for the coordination and management of overall NASA research and technology work related to aeronautics.

He was Professor of Aerospace Engineering at the University of Cincinnati between 1971-1979. During the years 1982-1992, Armstrong was chairman of Computing Technologies for Aviation, Inc., Charlottesville, Va.

He received a Bachelor of Science Degree in Aeronautical Engineering from Purdue University and a Master of Science in Aerospace Engineering from the University of Southern California. He holds honorary doctorates from a number of universities.

I believe that the Good Lord gave us a finite number of heartbeats and I'm damned if I'm going to use up mine running up and down a street.

~ Neil Armstrong 

Armstrong is a Fellow of the Society of Experimental Test Pilots and the Royal Aeronautical Society; Honorary Fellow of the American Institute of Aeronautics and Astronautics, and the International Astronautics Federation.

He is a member of the National Academy of Engineering and the Academy of the Kingdom of Morocco. He served as a member of the National Commission on Space (1985-1986), as Vice-Chairman of the Presidential Commission on the Space Shuttle Challenger Accident (1986), and as Chairman of the Presidential Advisory Committee for the Peace Corps (1971-1973).

Armstrong has been decorated by 17 countries. He is the recipient of many special honors, including the Presidential Medal of Freedom; the Congressional Space Medal of Honor; the Explorers Club Medal; the Robert H. Goddard Memorial Trophy; the NASA Distinguished Service Medal; the Harmon International Aviation Trophy; the Royal Geographic Society's Gold Medal; the Federation Aeronautique Internationale's Gold Space Medal; the American Astronautical Society Flight Achievement Award; the Robert J. Collier Trophy; the AIAA Astronautics Award; the Octave Chanute Award; and the John J. Montgomery Award.

"This is one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind."

The world pays homage - Neil Armstrong 1930 - 2012

Prostitution - V - One night stands. Feminism???

I had a great discussion with a girl friend of a friend the other day.... The basis - Feminism?? The topics we discussed were:

• Prostitution ( I don't like to refer to this in these terms but..)
• One night stands

The four above elements rolled into one giant, painful and ill informed discussion. I am not one to mince my words, hide my views or be ashamed of what I think. If you don't like it - go play somewhere else. 

The conversation started where and how I cannot recollect. But it started. With how many one night stands I'd had in my 38 years of life.. The answer was simple. NONE. The reply from the girlfriend of a friend (whom I shall refer to from now on as Amanda) was one of shock.

Amanda: "Serious? None? Why"

Me: "I'm worth more than that."

Amanda: " What do you mean??"

Me: "I'm worth more than a couple of pints of beer!"

Silence.. I asked her how many she'd had ( take note that she is only 29)

Amanda: "Well, I've slept with about 60 blokes." 

I nearly choked when she said that was the same as most of her friends.. My mind calculated the averages: Start at 16. Current age 29 = 13 years of sexual activity.. note she'd had 3 long term relationships....number of non active years while in relationship = 6. Wait, I'm getting there...

13 - 6 = 7 years for one night stands = 8 one night stands in a year... WOW

Me: Why so many? 

Amanda: "I was drunk, they looked nice......"

Me: You should've got paid for it.. would've made some money! "

This is when she blew! stating she wasn't a prostitute and would never sleep with a man for money. REALLY??? Maths again...8 one night stands in a year over 7 years.... Overnight too I'm guessing...That equates to, say £500 per one night stand.... that's roughly £28,000!!

Me: "There is nothing wrong with being an escort!!"

Amanda: "No..that's distgusting. I'm not a whore!"

I needed to say my piece...

Me: " So, what you're saying is, that you'll sleep with a bloke for a few pints on a night out but never sleep with a bloke for money? But, he is paying you. With cheap drink!"

Amanda: "It's not the same. They liked me...We were attracted to each other!"

Me: "How many liked you enough to see you again?"

Well, I'm sure you can see how the conversation went.. My view is clear. I have a huge respect for women in the sex industry. Yes, there is a lot of women exploited and made to work for little money. I am referring to the women who choose to work this way ( and there are many -friends I know) who DO choose to work in the industry, make money and see it as a career.

Amanda may view one night stands as part of life. I don't. Men need us more than we need them. Not many women would 'pay-for-sex' and when they do, its because they want to - not because they couldn't pull to save their lives, and men who enjoy one night stands - those who can't afford to pay. 

What is cheap to me, is Amanda's view that having money put into your hand for sex and money poured down your throat for sex are two different things. They are not. She was being paid for her pussy by blokes who told her she was nice, pretty and sexy. brought her drinks till she was no longer sober, took advantage of her and then threw her out in the morning. 

To me, she short changed herself! 

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SUBMISSION CINEMA: SECRETARIES, CALL GIRLS AND GORE POLICE

I’ve been on a kick lately of watching movies relating to the BDSM lifestyle and I’ve decided that I’ve yet to come across a decent movie with an accurate portrayal of a kink lifestyle. I’m a filthy fucking sadomasochist myself, so this is of particular interest to me.

I started off my marathon with Secretary, which is a movie I saw for the first time when I was 18 and I vividly remember it as the beginning of myself admitting that this is what I’m into. Watching it the second time though… Oh gads no. Don’t get me wrong, Maggie Gyllenhaal doing chores while shackled in arm restraints will forever be one of my most fapped to mental images. There’s some pleasantly dirty stuff going on in it and that’s awesome. What really irked me though was the portrayal of masochism.

Sure, there’s lots of instances of self-harmers later in life understanding that what they were doing was just misguided sadomasochism; I get that. But in a world where sadomasochism is still listed in the DSM as a paraphilia, this gets touchy. 

The freaky, awesome shit I do in my bedroom with consenting partners shouldn’t get me put under a psych evaluation, but this movie completely reinforces the idea that there is an element of abuse to D/s type play.

It's gotta be true...It was written in the Daily Mail

Melanie

Courtesy of my delicious sub and friend:  MJ Anonymous

It was another hot and humid day, the heat wave showed no signs of letting go and the city was starting to suffer. The heat in her apartment was nearly unbearable since the air-conditioning had broken down and the only way Melanie could cope was to strip off until she was just left with her red panties on. It gave her a thrill to be like this, so free of sticky clothes, her skin able to feel every little stir of the air from the big fan that hummed quietly by the window. It felt so good that she'd put some music on and was dancing around the room on her own.

Her eyes were closed as the song came to an end, it was one of her favorites and she'd turned the volume up loud. She opened her eyes and at first didn't quite believe what she was seeing. Just inside the apartment door was a man and he looked dangerous.

She froze and gasped, her hands flying up unconsciously to cover her naked breasts. Who was he? What was he doing here? He hadn't said a word, just stood there. Looking at him she could see he was tired, worn out. He was injured, the right sleeve of his shirt was stained red with fresh blood. In his left hand was a large Bowie knife, the blade glinting wickedly in the sunlight.

The Young Master

Courtesy of my delicious sub and friend:  MJ Anonymous

All Europe was abuzz with talk of war as Christmas 1914 approached. The young master had gone to London to join a cavalry regiment, convinced it would be an adventure. Melanie had a secret crush on the young master but as a housemaid the chance of him even noticing her were slim, no matter how often she fluttered her eyelids and flashed a glorious smile in his direction.

She was thinking about the young master this morning, how dashing he'd look in his new uniform, imagining him sweeping through the wide front door, stamping snow from his shining boots, before coming for her... Lost in a daydream Melanie's arms reached out and knocked the crystal decanter over on the dining table she was supposed to be cleaning.

The Arrogant Knight

Courtesy of my delicious sub and friend:  MJ Anonymous

He didn't know how, but the arrogant knight who’d accosted him in the market square now lay dead amongst the mud and rotten fruit. Before he could run, the palace guard had appeared from nowhere, pushed him to the ground and bound him tightly, all the while raining blows on his unprotected body until the blue sky seen far above had shrunk to a single point then winked out and all was blackness.

He groggily came to, not knowing how long he’d been unconscious. It took him a moment to realise a hood had been put over his head. Taking an inventory of himself there seemed no lasting damage, he was naked and had been tied to a wall, his limbs stretched out.

Jeremy & Lady Leyla

Submitted by: Peter jackson

"Herewith my little submission.  I would love to know what you think of it:"

Jeremy has quite an important job in industry but whenever possible he likes to be reminded of his school days where the housemistress in charge of his boarding house was extremely beautiful but also very strict and vindictive.  She was a firm believer in the value of corporal punishment for naughty boys.  From time to time Lady Leyla helps Jeremy relive his schooldays.

Lady Leyla is her usual elegant and disdainful self in her role as Jeremy's housemistress.  She is wearing a white blouse and a short black skirt and her elegant legs are covered with nylon stockings.  Her black high - heeled shoes have spiky high heels.  Jeremy knows he is in love with her but fears her ruthlessness and her punishments.

MY NEW TOY!!

If you have a fetish - you have a mental illness

According to the World Health Organisation, sadomasochists and transvestites are suffering from mental disorders, sexual perversions in the same category as paedophilia.

The World Health Organization is a specialized agency of the United Nations with primary responsibility for international health matters and public health. Through this organization, which was created in 1948, the health professions of some 180 countries exchange their knowledge and experience with the aim of making possible the attainment by all citizens of the world by the year 2000 of a level of health that will permit them to lead a socially and economically productive life.

The ICD-10 Classification of Mental and Behavioural Disorders (WHO)


F65 Disorders of sexual preference
F65.0 Fetishism
F65.1 Fetishistic transvestism
F65.2 Exhibitionism
F65.3 Voyeurism
F65.4 Paedophilia
F65.5 Sadomasochism
F65.6 Multiple disorders of sexual preference
F65.8 Other disorders of sexual preference
F65.9 Disorder of sexual preference, unspecified

Kink 101 & Feminism

BDSM may set off red flags for feminists, says Kit Roskelly. But so does sitting in judgment on women's sexual preferences.

"When we get freedom for all, you'll do as you're told!"

It's an old joke, and its origins have got lost somewhere along the line. It may have been a trade unionist who said it first, or an anarchist. Or maybe even a feminist, because we are not immune to that unfortunate disease of oppressed groups - occasionally, we turn our oppression in and allow ourselves to repeat the patriarchy's mistakes on smaller minority groups within our own ranks.

That is not how feminism should work. More specifically, feminism should not have a prescriptive stance on female sexuality, that subject of so much debate both outside and within the feminist movement. Feminists discuss and question; we frequently disagree and agree to differ; we debate assumptions and challenge stereotypes, but prescriptivism should not be on our agenda.

There was a heated debate among lesbian feminists in the 1970s and '80s about the use of strap-ons during sex between women. One group argued furiously that women did not need phallic toys for pleasure, and that using strap-ons was a sign that we had not yet thrown off the shackles - and the symbols - of the patriarchy. Another side of the debate held that sometimes a sex toy is just a sex toy, and if they feel good, why should they not use them?

In more recent years, a middle ground has been reached. Women now are able to consider whether or not they are turned on by phallic sex-toys, and what that says - if anything - about their dependence on men. That choice is now seen as an individual one and few women will argue strenuously on the point. In more recent years, we have become more able to take a live-and-let-live attitude to these issues, and feel less inclined to police the grey areas of feminist discourse and female sexuality.

It is surely a mistake for anyone within the feminist movement to sit in judgement on another woman's sexual preferences

Clearly, some issues are not up for discussion and feminists take a united stand on them. Consent is an absolute requirement of sexual interaction, and the louder that is insisted upon the better. Feminists are more than aware of the cloudy concepts of consent held by many people, and make a point of clarifying those boundaries and arguing for them to be clearly enshrined in law and the public consciousness. Consent is essential.

In addition to consent, though, a feminist view of sexuality must put value on mindfulness - on an awareness of the political impact of personal choices. This is the issues the lesbian feminists of the '70s and '80s raised, and it is a vastly important one.

In a society where women, and particularly women's sexual desires, are policed, obfuscated and subjected to constant re-writing by male 'experts', how much is a woman's desire her own, and how much does she draw from the society around her telling her how to think and behave?

The cautionary tale of Dawn......

   - who found her private life wasn't so private after all...

My custody issues came about midway through the negotiations surrounding my divorce. My ex and I had already been separated for 3 years, and our children, both under 10, were living with me. I have a boyfriend whom I met on the scene, but we do not live together.

My ex knew nothing about my interest in BDSM or club going, and I thought I had been quite discreet about it. Sadly for me, a close family member had "let slip" the word "fetish" in a discussion with my ex, who, picked up on it, and decided to have me followed by a private detective, to see just where I went in my free time and who I socialised with. My boyfriend and I were completely unaware of all this; the first I knew was when I got a phone call from my seriously worried solicitor, who had received a dossier of photos of me, downloaded from a web site. My vanilla solicitor, a capable, professional woman in an out of town practice, had clearly never seen anything like this in her life, and was at a loss as to how best to proceed!

A guide to “legitimate” rape??? Is Todd Akin INSANE??

When Todd Akin (the GOP candidate for the U.S. Senate in Missouri) went on television Sunday and explained his opposition to abortion — even in the case of rape — by stating,

“If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down,”

it was a highly illuminating moment in American discourse. For one thing, it proved that a man with six children can still have absolutely no idea how the female reproductive system works.

A guide to “legitimate” rape

BDSM Warning! please read..(JOKE)

John Doe strode into the bedroom , wearing His leather Postal Worker's uniform. He sneered at the bound and gagged figure on the bed, as He reached into His latex mail bag. Jane Doe, a 29 year old schoolgirl, looked up at her Master, her eyes a mixture of fear and desire. She gasped as He brought a knife with a 9 ~ inch blade out of the bag.

"I saw something on the Internet which I want us to try," He said sternly,

"Are you willing?"

Jane nodded eagerly and mumbled, "yeff Mather".

John smiled as He bent close and cut her free of her bonds.

"Strip", He ordered as He began to remove His own clothes..

Jane quickly complied, wondering what new delights her beloved Master had in store for her.

"Lay back on the bed", He commanded.

Jane did so. John then laid on top of her.

"Tonight my dear", He whispered while reaching for the light switch.. "We are going ........... Vanilla!"

"NOOOOOOoooooooooo", cried Jane as the room plunged into darkness.

The above tale is true. John eventually left Jane to move in with a vanilla woman. They now have a 24/7 vanilla lifestyle, regularly enjoying home improvements, Tupperware parties and only having sex 3 times a year.

Jane was more fortunate and now attends Vanillas Anonymous, with help and guidance she is slowly recovering. Only last week she was able to stand up and say,

"I have the right to more than one sexual position!"

Vanilla is dangerous and should not be practiced at home. 

If anyone offers you vanilla sex, just say No.

This has been a BDSM safety awareness announcement

Sexual Evolution: Recent research challenges notion of Female Monogamy

Bar the doors and break out the chastity belts, boys, because girls of most species sleep around, and it's for their own good, if not yours.

For generations, biologists had assumed females to be naturally chaste, while males were renowned for their promiscuity. Even Charles Darwin, who invented the idea of sexual selection, didn't dare challenge the Victorian morals of his day. Man evolved from ape, fine. But an immodest and lustful Mother Nature? 

Heaven forbid!

Now, hundreds of studies and a spate of books are challenging that conventional wisdom. Females of many species, it turns out, have evolved strategies for passing on their genes that involve copulating with multiple males -- and recognition of that fact is literally changing our view of the birds and the bees.

"Natural selection, it seems, often smiles on strumpets," says evolutionary biologist Olivia Judson, author of "Dr. Tatiana's Sex Advice to All Creation," the most recent and entertaining book exploring the variety of female harlotry.

"As a rule, loose females have more and healthier children."

To be sure, biologists are examining these questions in the dispassionate light of scientific inquiry. In describing their theories, they prefer the more neutral term "polyandry," meaning many males, instead of "promiscuity." And they caution laypeople not to look to nature's own apparent infidelities for any justification of their own behavior.

The misbegotten idea that males evolved to make love and females to demur gained scientific currency in the late 1940s in fruit fly experiments by Angus Bateman, a British scientist who reached his erroneous conclusions in part because his experiments lasted only three or four days.

Had he run his experiments longer, he might have discovered that male black- bellied fruit flies secrete an anti-aphrodisiac in their semen that's relatively short lived. As soon as it runs out, females become interested in copulating again.

On the surface, the conventional view made sense. Sperm seemed to come cheap to males, while eggs were expensive to females, which have to invest the time to raise offspring. Scientists could not fathom any possible benefit of multiple partners of females, and they could come up with plenty of potential costs, such as sexually transmitted diseases.

BIRDS DO IT

Then came DNA paternity testing. In one species after another, it turned out that biologists were as cuckolded as the males they had been observing. The first and most extensive examples of polyandry were found among avian species, which was quite a shock to scientists because birds had appeared to be paragons of traditional family values.

"The way the male and female rush back and forth to their demanding brood of chicks seems like nature's model of good parenting," says Marlene Zuk, biology professor at UC Riverside and author of "Sexual Selections: What We Can and Can't Learn About Sex From Animals."

"Now, we find that they're actually in the same situation as millions of modern-day husbands and wives, eyeing a child warily and making uneasy jokes about the milkman," she says.

DNA testing in chicks of seemingly monogamous females showed a wide range of extra mates. In one study, for example, as much as 90 percent of the offspring of the brilliantly colored Australian fairy wren were from mates other than the presumed father.

Biologists have struggled to come up with broad theories for why females benefit from playing the field, but so far the reasons seem to vary widely according to species. A lot of complex theory boils down to this: A gal's got to do what's necessary to ensure the survival of her genes.

Carol Cruzan Morton, Special to The Chronicle, 

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